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Do people expect food after dinner at wedding?

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Budka · 08/03/2025 16:24

Ceremony is at 1:45 pm. We are serving very filling canapés and cocktails at 3:30pm and dinner at 5:30pm. There will be the actual cake, a homemade cake table, hydration station and a snack table. The wedding ends at midnight. The meal itself is A LOT, we are doing a sit down buffet (think Las Vegas buffet).

I've seen trends where a pizza/burger van turns up as guests are leaving.

Would you as a guest expect more food after dinner?

I personally wouldn’t. I do feel people get weird at weddings re good where they almost expect to be fed and watered on the hour, every hour. But in everyday life you would probably be happy with eating far less (I do appreciate dancing, drinking causes hunger).

But would you expect to be given more food after dinner and cake?

My sister thinks we should order a load of pizza to send people away with.

i dunno i find the idea a bit ott. We are serving a lot of food. People are not those bottomless pits! But I obviously wouldn’t want people to actually be hungry.

OP posts:
Onlyvisiting · 08/03/2025 18:48

I think if you want people to stay til midnight and not wilt then I would plan some kind of refreshments/snacks to be available around 9pm or so as that will be 3-4 hours after the meal.
Especially if they are drinking!

ScarlettOYara · 08/03/2025 18:48

Budka · 08/03/2025 18:44

I think I will stick to my plan - maybe work on the snack table a bit. I will tell the groomsmen to listen out for grumblings on hunger and order something on Deliveroo if needed

I don't think you'll need Deliveroo - it actually sounds like you've got plenty of food, because I misunderstood the canapés.
Plus there are loads of places around, people can get something on the way home.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 08/03/2025 18:46

PennyPincher101 · 08/03/2025 18:26

We had a wedding last summer with similar timings. The main meal was substantial but not everyone will love it and some evening food of some sort is definitely expected / helpful.

The evening food we had was sausages, cut baguettes to sandwich-up the sausages if people wanted, condiments, salads and the cake. Loads of family made lovely salads, coleslaws etc, all perfect to go with the sausages.

Let me tell you, the only thing that went was the sausages. I'd say only about 20% of people had the cake (it was a lemon sponge, nothing controversial), and even less had any sort of salad. It was a dreadful waste with so much left over - as it had been out for hours we weren't comfortable giving it away etc the next day.

So, sausages were a 100% hit. Anything that requires a proper knife and fork was a waste, and I was shocked about the cake. Afterwards everyone said they all had loads of cake at left over at their own weddings too. Turns out, unlike me, not everyone has a sweet tooth after a day of booze.

Take of that what you will!

Edited

Had I reveived the invite I promise you I'd have had cake. 😛

Sunnydays25 · 08/03/2025 18:45

Budka · 08/03/2025 16:50

But we do have a snack table and homemade cakes for anyone who is peckish.

The amount of food blows my mind tbh.

I think this is plenty, people who are hungry can get something to eat if they want. You don't need a burger van on top of this.

Budka · 08/03/2025 18:44

I think I will stick to my plan - maybe work on the snack table a bit. I will tell the groomsmen to listen out for grumblings on hunger and order something on Deliveroo if needed

OP posts:
Simplelobsterhat · 08/03/2025 18:44

Bushmillsbabe · 08/03/2025 17:29

I think you might need to think about some of your timings. Our wedding was at 1. Canapés at 2.30 and dinner at 4, and we had a hog roast at about 8ish.

As others have said, most guests will have missed lunch to get ready and get there, so canapés need to be absolute latest 3pm, with dinner 4.30 and substantial evening snack (bacon rolls/hog roast/hot dog with rolls, chops salad etc about 8.30. Dainty picky food won't cut it at that time when people have had several drinks.

I think most people know these days that the meal is rarely served quickly after the ceremony. Mingling time is very normal. So if they haven't thought to grab a sandwich on the way, or have 'brunch' then that's on them. To be on the safe side, you could put approximate timings on invitation/ info sheet / wedding website. That's what the last one we went to, which has very similar timings, did. We were getting ready in a hotel, so grabbed a Tesco meal deal from local town in the morning and nibbled on it while getting ready. Another guest we saw was having a sandwich in the car after getting there early. Not ideal maybe but it's expecting a lot of hosts otherwise.

sesquipedalian · 08/03/2025 18:42

“we do have a snack table and homemade cakes for anyone who is peckish.”

OP, I think that will be plenty. My DD got married in December and her timings were similar to yours. We agitated for ages over evening food/cheese/whatever and in the end, we decided not to, and the wedding cake was cut at about eight and people just had that - and it was fine!! If you have got snacks and cakes as well as wedding cake, I think you’ll have plenty!

Sugargliderwombat · 08/03/2025 18:41

Your wedding sounds amazing!!! I don't think the burger van is needed at all!

Have an amazing day, I wish I was coming 😂

Sahara123 · 08/03/2025 18:39

I hear home made brownies are popular at weddings these days ……..

MummaMummaMumma · 08/03/2025 18:38

Yes, a smaller meal/ buffet/ substantial snacks should be offered in the evening. 8.30ish?

FavouriteFilms · 08/03/2025 18:38

I wouldn’t so more, my sisters timings went wrong, and after a large meal, more outside food was served, I saw most of it going into the hotel kitchen for staff .

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 08/03/2025 18:37

Budka · 08/03/2025 17:44

There’s also a word class attraction to explore that people pay money to visit. It’s an adult only wedding with free booze and food. And then a disco. Not a theme park.

Jeez.

Omg is it London zoo? Can I come?? 🤪

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 08/03/2025 18:34

We had similar timings to you and had a hog roast for later in the evening, it went down very well. We had an open bar so it was good to soak up the alcohol! I would have dreaded people feeling hard done by/hungry though as I love to host. I'm sure your snack table and the cake will be fine if that's what you have planned, it all sounds lovely.

wendywoopywoo222 · 08/03/2025 18:33

Make sure you warn people that you aren't eating until 5.30 to make sure they have lunch before they come. I would expect food earlier for a 1.30 wedding.

ScarlettOYara · 08/03/2025 18:32

Is it at London Zoo? I went to a wedding there, it was great.

Lulubo1 · 08/03/2025 18:32

My BIL and SIL had canapes and cocktails, then a 4 course dinner, then a midnight seafood buffet. Hardly anyone touched the seafood buffet, it was such a waste. Crab legs, lobster, king prawns....so much waste. The dinner was plenty

whatonearthishappenin · 08/03/2025 18:32

Please tell us what this “world class attraction” is?

ScarlettOYara · 08/03/2025 18:31

MooDengsFatRolls · 08/03/2025 18:26

I'm going to start calling my local the hydration station

😂

newmum912024 · 08/03/2025 18:30

Some of these responses 😅 are wild!

Firstly, your wedding day plan sounds wonderful and it is YOUR DAY!

Secondly, the snack table is definitely enough for the evening. With cake on top of that. I would not go to the additional expense of a food truck - weddings are so expensive as it is.
Unlike many, you are eating your meal that bit later too, so think everyone will survive!

Good luck on the day and just enjoy! 💐

Rivari · 08/03/2025 18:28

Budka · 08/03/2025 17:44

There’s also a word class attraction to explore that people pay money to visit. It’s an adult only wedding with free booze and food. And then a disco. Not a theme park.

Jeez.

Is it a wedding or a day trip? What kind of attraction is it, you've been clear it isn't a theme park. Although I'm not sure why you're referring to a theme park as I didn't reference one in my post. Did you quote the wrong person?

LSGXX · 08/03/2025 18:28

The thing is, if your wedding starts 1:45pm people haven't had lunch as such because they're getting ready, travelling to the wedding and getting settled into their seats by 1:30pm. They'll probably have had a brunch. But they'll be hungry soon after the wedding. Canapés don't touch the sides. By the time people sit down to eat they'll be really hungry.

The evening after finishing the meal is quite long and I think some further snacks are a good idea.

Cheeses and biscuits on a side table - along with the cut-up wedding cake - for people to graze at.

ValentinesGranny · 08/03/2025 18:28

DS had similar timings. They had hot canapes (that kept on coming), a tuk tuk serving local ice-cream, a sweet cart (which was incredibly popular) and a free bar/cocktails.
At around 9.30pm a pizza truck began serving. I was suprised how many people were ready to eat again.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 08/03/2025 18:28

I'm not sure if it sounds cheap or not but what about sandwich trays and warm choc chip cookies around 9pm with fresh coffee and tea?

BarbedButterfly · 08/03/2025 18:28

Drunk people get hungry. People ordered pizza to last wedding I went to without an evening buffet

PennyPincher101 · 08/03/2025 18:26

We had a wedding last summer with similar timings. The main meal was substantial but not everyone will love it and some evening food of some sort is definitely expected / helpful.

The evening food we had was sausages, cut baguettes to sandwich-up the sausages if people wanted, condiments, salads and the cake. Loads of family made lovely salads, coleslaws etc, all perfect to go with the sausages.

Let me tell you, the only thing that went was the sausages. I'd say only about 20% of people had the cake (it was a lemon sponge, nothing controversial), and even less had any sort of salad. It was a dreadful waste with so much left over - as it had been out for hours we weren't comfortable giving it away etc the next day.

So, sausages were a 100% hit. Anything that requires a proper knife and fork was a waste, and I was shocked about the cake. Afterwards everyone said they all had loads of cake at left over at their own weddings too. Turns out, unlike me, not everyone has a sweet tooth after a day of booze.

Take of that what you will!