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AIBU?

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To want to go to America next year. On my own.

79 replies

Thebrightnesshasfaded · 08/03/2025 11:47

A close friend moved to the US last year. She sent an invitation for her wedding in summer next year. They’ve invited all my family (me, dh & Dd, who will be 8 by then)
They are wealthy and are providing two nights stay at a 5 star hotel for two nights for visitors coming from outside America and a limo pick up and drop from the hotel to the venue. We basically just need to pay flights. This is still a lot for all of us. I keep having fantasies about me going on my own, getting a long connection between flights and staying in one of the city stops on the way….these seem to be either New York, Washington or California.
I imagine i’d be gone 4/5 days total.
At present I haven’t spent a full day alone or away.
I loved travelling when younger and am just longing for a solo adventure like this.
I imagine Dh would be flabbergasted by it

Aibu to go/want to go?

OP posts:
summerlovingvibes · 08/03/2025 11:51

I would 100% be going on my own. Your DH & DD can have some great quality father daughter time together and you can have a wonderful solo trip.

I would definitely be going on my own.

ALovelyShadeofMauve · 08/03/2025 11:50

Go! You don’t cease to be an individual when you become half of a couple, or a parent for that matter.

teenmaw · 08/03/2025 11:49

Massive mistake I made was allowing my exh to completely obliterate my sense of self when I became a wife and mum. Go OP, and don't take any shit for it 🙌🏼

Zippidydoodah · 08/03/2025 11:49

Would your husband be upset if you did this? If he’d be happy with it, then you should do it!