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Am I being mean ?

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TheThreeMiracles · 08/03/2025 09:22

I've just asked dp if I could borrow some money out of his savings until Monday when I get paid to get some gaviscon, I think I may have heartburn but never had it in my other pregnancies, he asked me why I needed it ( didn't like being questioned but nevermind ) he then said yes but moments later came in with..........

My son's infant gaviscon he had as a baby ! The sachets made for babies ! Really proudly " here you go we don't need to buy some we have these "

AIBU to think what a thick idiot he is today 🫣

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TheThreeMiracles · 08/03/2025 09:34

He's just said he didn't realise they were infant gaviscon!! Just frustrating having to explain myself and then feel like I've had to explain why I can't use the infant ones x

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lunar1 · 08/03/2025 09:32

Given that he contributed 50% to the pregnancy, I'm sure he can stretch himself to a bottle of gaviscon. Then maybe throw this one back to the bottom of the barrel where he must have come from.

Squeakpopcorn · 08/03/2025 09:28

I agree. What is going on your finances, surely anything pregnacy related is a joint or family expense. For us anything medical would come from the joint account but even if the joint account was empty DH would never leave me in pain or discomfort. I wouldn’t leave any pregnant women withoyt gaviscon if I knew they needed it and couldn’t afford it.

Jeschara · 08/03/2025 09:27

Tight git.

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TheThreeMiracles · 08/03/2025 09:26

Money is pooled, both wages go into joint bank account he has an account separate for his savings x

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TheThreeMiracles · 08/03/2025 09:26

Money isn't usually an issue we've had 2 mots this month both cars needed work plus a smashed window, I get paid Monday, he has savings to fall back on which we use if we need to then pay back into x

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Chuchoter · 08/03/2025 09:25

Why isn't your money pooled? I've never borrowed money from my husband because our finances are joint.

Why are you living like this and having a baby if you don't have access to shared finances?

HenDoNot · 08/03/2025 09:23

You’re pregnant and having to “borrow” money from your DP for some medication?

I think heartburn is probably the least of your issues.

DarkMagicStars · 08/03/2025 09:23

I think you have more pressing concerns of why you don’t have access to even a few pound of cash.