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Is this rude if you were a guest?

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Britishsummertime22 · 07/03/2025 23:36

If you were a guest in someone's house and they went up to bed without saying goodnight or telling you they were going to bed/not coming back downstairs would you think that was rude?

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Britishsummertime22 · 07/03/2025 23:41

DarkMagicStars · 07/03/2025 23:40

I’d think they had had enough of me and wanted me to leave.

How long have you been a guest? When do you leave?

I've only been here a few hours, I'm here for another 3 nights!!

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Britishsummertime22 · 07/03/2025 23:40

Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou · 07/03/2025 23:39

It's rude to go up to bed without saying goodnight to WHOEVER is still downstairs.

That's my way of thinking. Even a quick goodnight

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DarkMagicStars · 07/03/2025 23:40

I’d think they had had enough of me and wanted me to leave.

How long have you been a guest? When do you leave?

ForZanyAquaViewer · 07/03/2025 23:40

Britishsummertime22 · 07/03/2025 23:39

Nope, both gone to bed, neither said anything.

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How did this happen? Were you all sitting together, and they just up and left? They went to the loo and never came back? Details, please.

steff13 · 07/03/2025 23:40

Take this opportunity to rifle through their things and eat all their snacks?

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Britishsummertime22 · 07/03/2025 23:40

rivalsbinge · 07/03/2025 23:39

Unless they are sick or undergoing some treatment that means they need rest then it's extremely odd.

Or drunk?

Not sick or drunk or anything. I'm wondering now if I've done something wrong but there was no argument or anything like that

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Britishsummertime22 · 07/03/2025 23:39

Mumsntfan1 · 07/03/2025 23:38

I'd think it was odd. Are there other people still up in the house?

Nope, both gone to bed, neither said anything.

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rivalsbinge · 07/03/2025 23:39

Unless they are sick or undergoing some treatment that means they need rest then it's extremely odd.

Or drunk?

Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou · 07/03/2025 23:39

It's rude to go up to bed without saying goodnight to WHOEVER is still downstairs.

Foostit · 07/03/2025 23:39

Unless they’ve passed out drunk or fallen asleep then yes, very rude!

Mumsntfan1 · 07/03/2025 23:38

I'd think it was odd. Are there other people still up in the house?

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Britishsummertime22 · 07/03/2025 23:38

MarketSt · 07/03/2025 23:38

Are you their guest or the guest of someone else who lives in the house?

I'm their guest

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MarketSt · 07/03/2025 23:38

Are you their guest or the guest of someone else who lives in the house?

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Britishsummertime22 · 07/03/2025 23:37

I just feel a bit awkward and like ??
I didn't know if it was me being unreasonable

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wordywitch · 07/03/2025 23:37

Yes that is rude. Unless they became violently ill or fell asleep on accident I’d be annoyed.

Hortus · 07/03/2025 23:37

Yes, that's definitely rude.

Flutterbees · 07/03/2025 23:36

Yes, very rude.