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To not tell partner about daughter's a&e attendance

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FedUp120028 · 07/03/2025 22:01

As the title says really.

D is an adult, he expects me to tell him if she attends but as per patient confidentiality, given she's an adult I should not. Only when NOK contact is necessary which is her mother should I contact a parent, otherwise it would breach confidentiality unless she explicitly tells me to.

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Unexpecteddrivinginstructor · 07/03/2025 22:08

No of course you can't tell him. Is it your dd too? He needs to make himself available to his daughter and she will tell him this information if she wants him to know.

PickledElectricity · 07/03/2025 22:08

What the fuck.

Does she end up in a&e often??

notatinydancer · 07/03/2025 22:08

It's a bit concerning if you don't know this , of course you shouldn't tell him.

Rhaidimiddim · 07/03/2025 22:08

FedUp120028 · 07/03/2025 22:02

Yes.

In which case I would bloodywell hope that you do not even entertain the idea of breaching her confidentiality. Because you'd be behaving unethically and unprofessionally.

Why haven't you explained to DP exactly that, in no uncertain terms?
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Completelyjo · 07/03/2025 22:06

Your daughter? His daughter? Joint daughter? Your situation isn’t very clear.

Gliblet · 07/03/2025 22:05

Professional ethics trumps what he would 'like' you to do, I bet he wouldnt be happy if someone he knew made an exception to tell people about an embarassing medical complaint of his. Perhaps point out that breaching confidentiality could lose you your job?

Bobbie12345 · 07/03/2025 22:05

It is worrying that you are posting on Mumsnet for this.
This situation is a basic one that anyone in healthcare should know the answer to.

No, you don’t tell him.

please ask your manager to send you on confidentiality training.
please ask a manager if you are ever unsure in a situation again.

Gundogday · 07/03/2025 22:05

No you should not tell him. It’s breaking patient confidentiality.

FedUp120028 · 07/03/2025 22:02

Scutterbug · 07/03/2025 22:02

I’m a bit confused, do you work at A and E or something?

Yes.

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Scutterbug · 07/03/2025 22:02

I’m a bit confused, do you work at A and E or something?