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To want to pursue a relationship with this man.

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Womansplainer · 07/03/2025 20:11

I'm 47. He is 64 in a few weeks.

We get on brilliantly, love and attraction all there. Love one another company. It's very relaxed.

He doesn't look particularly young and I'm also a single parent to a 10 year old boy.

He's never been a parent.

Is this mad?

OP posts:
mumofoneAlonebutokay · 07/03/2025 20:17

Yanbu to pursue something at all if he makes you happy x

But saying he doesn't look particularly young was a little strange - are you worried he will look weird next to your son?

RoastDinnerSmellsNice · 07/03/2025 20:16

Yes, it is mad! There is another post on MN at the moment about a lady of 51 married to a man of 68, she says that there is no relationship left, and it seems to be because he's decided to be old, and do old men things, while she's still young. My sister married a man 16 years older than her, he is now mid 80's while she's late 60's, and she's fed up to the back teeth of living with an old man. So please, whatever you think this relationship is, think VERY carefully before committing to a man so much older than you.

Also, you say he's never had children, and you have a 10 year old, when your 10 year old is 16, your new man will be 70, will he really be up to dealing with a possibly bolshy teenage male? Have they even met yet? If so, how well do they get on?

Please don't rush into this OP, I think you will regret it.