In-laws letting Baby watch tv

Very very kindly I don’t think them having the tv on is going to do anything to your babies brain. It’s when he’s 5 and he’s going round to eat haribo and crisps in front of bluey for 4 hours plus being waited on hand and foot you will find the problems 😂

There are a lot more harmful things in this world to worry about than TV. I'm not sure TV is harmful anyway. I assume he isn't going to be living with the in laws, in which case you are being daft.

When my son was a baby we never switched the tv on until he was in his room at bedtime. He never watched tv until he was 5 and started school and then he was allowed to watch children's tv and also sometimes watch sport with his Dad.
We have only ever had one small tv at home because we didn't want tv to dominate our lives.

So I sympathise with you OP.

But if your in-laws want to watch tv in their own home and your baby is in the room then really they are entitled to do so..
But if they are deliberately putting your baby infront of the tv to keep him amused I would be very annoyed with them. If they are doing that it sounds like they are deliberately undermining your parenting of your own child because they don't approve if it.
So if they are deliberately putting the baby in front of the tv I would not be going to their home more than I could help.

I grew up having the radio on in the background. I did that for my DD as a baby and now she likes listening to radio.

On TV either through freeview, sky, virgin or apps you have radio channels that have a fixed screen. Just change the TV channel to a radio station.

You are being ridiculous OP. Like others on here binge watching box sets saved my sanity while going through the newborn stage and DC2 and 3 would have seen their siblings watching telly or YouTube kids or whatever. DDs now love drama class and creative writing so absolutely no issue with language development. You need to relax and be kind to yourself and enjoy this time with your baby and not be worrying about unnecessary things

Gently, can I assure you that the tv being on sometimes, and him looking at it, will not adversely affect his brain development. He is fine. This isn't something you need to worry about.

Grandparents are there to spoil children. They will give him more sugar and rubbish food than you like, they will buy him toys you don't want him to have, and they will speak to him in an annoying way or whatever. But all of this is because they love him.

Pick your battles. This isn't one of them.

Are they sitting him in a bouncy chair in front of the tv to watch or is it on while the baby is in the room?

Mine watched House, Buffy and Angel with me while I was on maternity leave, meaning I was watching it while they fed, slept, cuddled etc.

Um.

When mine were that young I managed to binge watch an awful lot of box sets during the inevitable night feeds.

Is it really the case that having the tv on around a baby at all from any age has a negative impact?

Why would anyone deliberately put a baby in front of the TV?! I don't think it's the end of the world and if the baby is in the room whilst others watch then fine, but seems unnecessary to switch it on FOR the baby.

YANBU in my opinion. That would piss me off too. We didn't do tv before 3 and DH was always switching the tv off at his mother's. She never had DC by herself but god knows what she would have done, when DH was that age, she was giving him milky bars everyday.

Just don't let them put him in front of the TV?
Let them come to your house instead of going to their house, or your husband can meet up with them in a cafe etc.

Bit disturbing they are putting a baby that young in front of the tv. It’s bad for their eye development so
YANBU.

It depends. Are you objecting to it being on in general, or them e.g. sitting him in a bouncer pointed at it?

If the latter I'm absolutely with you. I did not allow my child to watch anything until around 3.5 and I expected all family to respect that. I wouldn't have said anything if it was on in the background and DC wasn't paying attention, but I would have if they'd stuck them in front of it.

I am exactly like you OP regarding tv around babies/toddlers. There is research that supports the idea that ambient tv/radio noise stops babies being able to focus on talking in the room and hence impedes their language development, so I do not think you are being in the least bit ridiculous in taking this appraoch. I think it is fine to ask to have it off, perhaps your DH can explain it is important to you. If they are resistant for the sake of a quiet life I'd let it go. A bit of tv noise will not do too much harm, it's more valuable for you/the baby to have a good relationship with them.

You’re wrong, having the TV on around babies is not recommended, especially for language development.

Yes , you are being ridiculous

I definitely wouldn’t put the tv on for a baby but what is everyone doing while you are sitting feeding for hours if not watching tv? At 14 weeks it would probably be pretty easy just to turn the baby away from the TV and not ask grandparents to babysit for a long time!

Am I being ridiculous?
Yes

I think it's strange to have the TV with no-one actually watching it, especially with visitors. But if he's so young, surely he can face away from the TV. Does your husband share the same stance as you, and is he on the visits with you? If so then I'd ask him to be the one to set the boundary with his parents if it's something you've decided together is important. If he doesn't care either way, then I'd probably give up and accept that visiting their house means TV on.

I remember my baby loved the winter Olympics when she was about 3/4 months old, she loved the snowboarding! It's not such an issue honestly. As long as they're not just plonked in front of it all day with no one engaging.

Yanbu, I didn’t have tv on when mine were babies either (they watched some CBeebies programmes as toddlers but that was a deliberate choice and we interacted with it rather than having it on in the background). It would be different if anyone was actually watching it, then you could have just turned your baby away and continued to play with him.
If they continue to do it just visit less - point made.

They can do what they like in their own home, but if as a result you take him there less and they don't get to spend time with him, that's their choice.

And you're not being ridiculous, you're trying to be a good mom. Screens are terrible for children, best not to let babies have them while you can.

Do they just have it on in the background on an adult programme or are they literally placing baby in front of tv and putting on CBeebies?

the former is normal and not much you can do about. The second is batshit at your baby’s age and would def rule them out of future regular childcare while your child is young.

Yes OP you are being absolutely ridiculous.

Yabu, it's going to make absolutely no difference to your kid