In-laws letting Baby watch tv

I can't believe you turned their TV off - it's not your house!

Always the in-laws… 🙄

There is evidence that TV isn’t good for under 2 year olds . Mine were way past that age when it was published and they both got excellent A levels and degrees so don’t get too anxious. The only way I coped with breast feeding the second one was to put a video of play school or similar on at feed time to amuse the 2 year old. I think it’s reasonable to say when you visit with the kids the TV isn’t on in the room they are in but if you are asking for free childcare you have to accept their ways of doing it . A lot of people would find it rude to have the TV on when they are visiting regardless

I really don't get the whole speech argument for screen time.

DD is 2 in May and I've had the TV on in the background since day 1. I never actively sat her in front of it.

Now she's older she loves Miss Rachel. Her speech is brilliant, she can count to 20, she says sentences now for example "daddy in car at work", we read together every day and she's slept through the night since 7 months old.

I really think it's all about balance.

Don't worry, by the time you are on your third child you'll be plonking them in front of the TV with a packet of crisps by month 3 so you can sneak off to the kitchen for a good slug of gin

By child 5, the eldest will be in charge and will dictate who watches what while you sit in the garden swigging from a bottle of vodka and smoking Benson & Hedges

They're not using them for childcare. The OP was visiting with the baby and they had the tv on. Nothing was stopping the OP from turning the baby away from the telly.

I love the rose coloured glasses that new parents have. No tv but snuggly movie nights 😂.

my oldest didn’t like tv. It was actually annoying as he was a terrible toddler always getting into stuff. I used to get so jealous of the playgroup mums who would put playschool on for an house while they cooked dinner. Mine was just a demon child wreaking havoc.

You are not being unreasonable, at all, and I'm shocked at the thread response!

Check the official WHO and NHS recommendations. There is serious and growing concern about the adverse effects of screen time on multiple aspects of child development, especially in very young children. It is not only or even mostly about obesity in older children.

You need to nip this in the bud, OP. If the ILs will sit a baby in front of the TV, they'll only get worse as DC gets older. You cannot let them dictate to you how YOUR child is cared for, on this or anything else. Assert yourself as the parent and get them back in their box.

And pay for qualified, professional childcare, if you're relying on family while you work.

You are totally reasonable. Take a look at WHO recommendations around screens for kids. In our house TV is off if it's not being intentionally watched. That's a decision we made thirty years ago. I can't imagine putting the TV on for a baby! A TV isn't going to kill a kid but they need humans not screens

You are being ridiculous and also rude to turn off a tv in someone else’s house .

Bringing up your children without tv isn’t daft I agree, it’s personal choice. You choose not too, that’s understandable, I choose to allow it in moderation, also understandable.

Thinking that having it on for a couple of minutes in the background as a one off will affect brain development, however, is a bit daft.

Ridiculous, all of it.

It's a bit rude to turn off the tv in someone's else's house without asking even if you thought no one was watching it. At 14 weeks babies are potatoes and won't be paying any attention to it. It's not rally an issue when it's temporary

Honestly now that I have teens .. TV is no longer the bad guy. And I see so many younger kids obsessed with small screens and YouTube etc
I personally wouldn't be delighted with tv on but wouldn't stop visits because if it

I love batshit pfb posts, this was me 20 years ago !

Their house, their rules. Sorry.

Can he even sit at 14 weeks old?

Because if he's being sat in a bouncer that is probably potential to do more damage than watching TV

I think ur being a bit precious. I can only assume this is ur first child ? A bit of telly won’t do them any harm. I’m sure they r plenty entertained by a range of things and not strapped into a chair facing tv all day

Well personally I was brought up in a home where my father came home from.work, put the tv on , and it was on until he went to bed. But he would be asleep in his armchair most of that time and only woke up when one of us switched the tv off and we had to switch it back on. So it was perpetually on in the background with no one watching it.
As a result my sister and I spent most of our time in our bedrooms because we couldn't stick the constant tv and, not really liking tv, apart from specific programmes, for the rest of out lives is about the one thing my sister and I have in common.
So every one is different. You bring your children up the way you want. OP has every right to bring her child up the way she wants. And, as already stated, she has the backing of childcare experts to vindicate her. She's certainly not " daft".

I find it very rude when visiting someone and they have the TV on in the room but they’re not actually watching it. Just turn the bloody thing off!

As a parent and grandparent, surely you’d be wanting to engage with the baby directly and not bung them in front of a screen at that age?

So ridiculous.

Totally over the top and precious. Stop being ridiculous.

The current guidelines (not in the UK) are obesity-related and trying to reduce inactivity.

Lots of people plonk their kids in front of a Tv or hand them a phone.
But it’s the lack of exercise and engagement that is the issue, not the actual Tv being on.

It being on in the background is absolutely fine.

What damage do you think putting the TV on actually does?

We're clearly not talking about forcing the kid to sit and watch it for hours on end, are we? So what's the objection?

Are the anti-screen brigade also against interactive whiteboards in schools? They are screens, after all.

Pah. Nursery in my County is £45 a day, not £75.

In op's shoes I'd absolutely rather pay for nursery than leave baby with anyone who I thought wouldn't respect our wishes.