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Would you be grossed out by homemade baked good in care package?

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 15:35

I am helping my sister put together care packages for her wedding. She is paying for the wedding party to stay in a posh hotel for a few nights. We are going to leave little care packages on the bed. I have an exceptional brownie recipe and was going to leave a trio of favours in the box. But sister’s SIL says she would never eat a homemade treat due to hygiene reasons.

obviously I will be clinically clean and wil even wear a hair net as I couldn’t think of anything worse than someone finding a hair.

Who is being weird?

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LovelyLeitrim · 08/03/2025 10:23

biscuitsandbooks · 08/03/2025 09:59

They will, but they'll still be made by someone with food hygiene certificates and who's licensed by the council. It's a bit different than some random making them at home.

I have no issue with homemade food for hygiene reasons btw, but I do think it's a bit disingenuous to suggest Sally baking in her home kitchen is the same as a professional doing it.

Oh yes, having a food hygiene certificate makes all the difference! 🙄

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c3wp46l3gv4o.amp

LovelyLeitrim · 08/03/2025 10:20

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 08/03/2025 08:57

Yes! It's the cellophane, you know. That and the nice bright colouring, and the fact that the best before date is more than a year in the future. All gives you confidence that it's perfectly safe to eat.

<rocks back and forth gibbering in the corner>

Exactly! They’ve got a good hygiene certificate for all this additives, don’t you know.

biscuitsandbooks · 08/03/2025 09:59

crumblingschools · 08/03/2025 09:54

Quite a few places like garden centres, cafes might have local people who bake the cakes rather than made on the premises

When does it become okay to eat ‘home made’ for those who wouldn’t eat these brownies?

They will, but they'll still be made by someone with food hygiene certificates and who's licensed by the council. It's a bit different than some random making them at home.

I have no issue with homemade food for hygiene reasons btw, but I do think it's a bit disingenuous to suggest Sally baking in her home kitchen is the same as a professional doing it.

OccasionalHope · 08/03/2025 09:56

I’d be delighted,

crumblingschools · 08/03/2025 09:54

Quite a few places like garden centres, cafes might have local people who bake the cakes rather than made on the premises

When does it become okay to eat ‘home made’ for those who wouldn’t eat these brownies?

IlooklikeNigella · 08/03/2025 09:53

This sounds absolutely amazing. I would love it.

My twenties are well in the past but when it came to celebrations the hen party that was the absolute best of the best had a smaller group, everybody brought a dish for the first night feast and we all had matching PJs. We didn't all know each other at the beginning but still keep in touch to this day.

biscuitsandbooks · 08/03/2025 09:52

cardibach · 08/03/2025 09:43

I’m mostly confused by the 2 (and possibly more) posters who have said they recognise it’s not going to make them illl, but the thought of something -what? Dirty? Not anti bacc? It’s unclear - touching the cakes puts them off. Can you articlulate. What it is about something you recognise as non-harmful that makes you so unwilling to eat it?

Sometimes the thought of something being dirty overpowers any logic.

biscuitsandbooks · 08/03/2025 09:51

Iwantmyoldnameback · 08/03/2025 09:49

Well it's obviously not really a thing given how much places like garden centres, farm shops and even market stalls make a big deal of cakes being home made. In our family everyone bakes and the children proudly join in with brownies, blondies, Krispy cakes and truffles.

But when garden centres etc. say that, they just mean "made on the premises" rather than brought in. It's not the same as Sally baking in her home kitchen.

I'm not someone overly bothered by hygiene, but they are two different things.

Iwantmyoldnameback · 08/03/2025 09:49

Well it's obviously not really a thing given how much places like garden centres, farm shops and even market stalls make a big deal of cakes being home made. In our family everyone bakes and the children proudly join in with brownies, blondies, Krispy cakes and truffles.

bridgetreilly · 08/03/2025 09:48

Well, I would be delighted to get them and start chomping on one immediately. Much nicer than anything bought.

cardibach · 08/03/2025 09:43

I’m mostly confused by the 2 (and possibly more) posters who have said they recognise it’s not going to make them illl, but the thought of something -what? Dirty? Not anti bacc? It’s unclear - touching the cakes puts them off. Can you articlulate. What it is about something you recognise as non-harmful that makes you so unwilling to eat it?

Carouselfish · 08/03/2025 09:32

Label on gift tag, photo of your pristine kitchen on one side?

Seriously though, it wouldn't have occurred to me not to. MN have now ruined bake sales for me.

TwistedWonder · 08/03/2025 09:30

Tormundsbeard · 08/03/2025 09:13

This thread has been so sad.

Some of the nicest treats I have ever eaten have been homemade by people and brought in to work or parties.
School and village bake sales are the nicest places to be.
The thought that some people find the idea of home baked goods abhorrent has shocked me.
OP - I hope that your ILs and family would be delighted to find a homemade snack in their hotel room.

I agree. I can’t imagine going through life so fearful over absolutely nothing that you deprive yourself of some real pleasures.

Its really sad and I worry about the affect it’s having on kids who can’t touch a door handle without their mum hosing them down with anti bacterial wash

As an older person, we literally ate mud as kids and we’re still here to tell the tale

MichaelAndEagle · 08/03/2025 09:29

Like others i only ever come across this issue on mumsnet.

People bring home made stuff into offices and they are devoured, for buffets, for bake sales...

I think its a nice idea.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 08/03/2025 09:24

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 08/03/2025 08:57

Yes! It's the cellophane, you know. That and the nice bright colouring, and the fact that the best before date is more than a year in the future. All gives you confidence that it's perfectly safe to eat.

<rocks back and forth gibbering in the corner>

I always maintain that most shop bought cakes are 90% nylon. I make cakes in my own kitchen, which contains elements of dog, floating microbes, germs from my breathing, I don't cover my hair (although I do wash my hands) and the kitchen sponge and cloth might well be within two metres of the finished article.

The cakes are still delicious and I don't get ill. Neither does anyone else who eats my cake. I shall have to inform them that they are taking their lives in their hands next time - I don't think it will slow them down even a little bit.

TheKeatingFive · 08/03/2025 09:23

Tormundsbeard · 08/03/2025 09:13

This thread has been so sad.

Some of the nicest treats I have ever eaten have been homemade by people and brought in to work or parties.
School and village bake sales are the nicest places to be.
The thought that some people find the idea of home baked goods abhorrent has shocked me.
OP - I hope that your ILs and family would be delighted to find a homemade snack in their hotel room.

Honestly. Their loss. 🤷‍♀️

Alwaystired23 · 08/03/2025 09:21

If I was staying in a hotel for a wedding and there was a care package on the bed, I'd be really pleased. And I would enjoy the brownies. As another poster said, it would concern me more re:allergens, but if you're aware of that, then I'd go ahead. When my sister got married, we had matching thin dressing gowns. I still use mine now when I'm getting ready to go out, and I'm doing my hair and makeup. I hope your sister has a great wedding!

Tormundsbeard · 08/03/2025 09:13

This thread has been so sad.

Some of the nicest treats I have ever eaten have been homemade by people and brought in to work or parties.
School and village bake sales are the nicest places to be.
The thought that some people find the idea of home baked goods abhorrent has shocked me.
OP - I hope that your ILs and family would be delighted to find a homemade snack in their hotel room.

EdithStourton · 08/03/2025 09:13

I used to take baked goods into work and virtually everybody ate them. The ones that didn't were vegan/dieting/not eating gluten. I suppose the odd one might have been refusing politely rather than saying 'ugh, I bet your kitchen mings'....

Likewise, I took a cake to a hobby get together just before Christmas. That went down very well.

ETA We've been to a couple of weddings catered by the couple and their friends, including one to which we contributed some food. Amazingly, no one went hungry. They just ate what was on offer without a second thought.

TwistedWonder · 08/03/2025 09:03

MasterBeth · 08/03/2025 08:45

Have you never considered for yourself now you are an adult that your mother might be wrong?

Absolutely. My mother drummed a lot of things into me as a kid that, as a grown adult, I’ve completely disregarded and make my own choices.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 08/03/2025 09:02

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 08/03/2025 08:57

Yes! It's the cellophane, you know. That and the nice bright colouring, and the fact that the best before date is more than a year in the future. All gives you confidence that it's perfectly safe to eat.

<rocks back and forth gibbering in the corner>

It's funny (and also not funny) because it's true.

The UPFs and BPA and phthalates and god only knows what else that are in almost all factory produced consumables these days are probably increasing our risk of cancer and infertility and all sorts of really nasty shit but no, the minuscule risk of getting the shits from a homemade brownie made in a less than spotless kitchen is something to be avoided at all costs.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 08/03/2025 08:57

LovelyLeitrim · 08/03/2025 08:50

Oh stop it with your thoughtful interesting and time consuming offerings.

You should’ve had 10 packs of fondant fancies and been done with it, far more hygienic.

Yes! It's the cellophane, you know. That and the nice bright colouring, and the fact that the best before date is more than a year in the future. All gives you confidence that it's perfectly safe to eat.

<rocks back and forth gibbering in the corner>

SnoopysHoose · 08/03/2025 08:52

Some very weird notions on here, do these posters never eat at a friends house? never allow their child to eat the slice of birthday cake they've been given?
As for the pp saying their mother drummed into them never to eat from a bake sale, can you not use your own thinking now?

MasterBeth · 08/03/2025 08:51

BettyBardMacDonald · 07/03/2025 16:17

We don't eat others' homemade food for hygienic reasons. They would go in the bin, sorry.

Tbh all of this faff (personal notes, treats, welcome kits, etc.) is eye-rolling. It's an ordinary wedding, not the second coming. Best wishes to the marrying couple but guests don't need all of these embellishments. It's kind of presumptuous to think that the event is so exceptional that souvenirs, etc., are required. No offense but it's a lot of expense, energy and use of the planet's dwindling resources for something that will be forgotten about or put to back of mind 48 hours later.

Are you invited to a lot of weddings?

LovelyLeitrim · 08/03/2025 08:50

minnienono · 08/03/2025 08:03

Oh and at my wedding we had a cake buffet instead of just wedding cake, everything home made including the wedding cake which I made myself and decorated. (Rather proud of itGrin) not a single complaint and everyone complimented on the quality! I arranged for a coeliac friend to make a suitable traybake to cater for the 2 gf guests we had plus her, and my dm was in charge of vegan offerings to cover the vegan plus two dairy allergies.

Oh stop it with your thoughtful interesting and time consuming offerings.

You should’ve had 10 packs of fondant fancies and been done with it, far more hygienic.