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Would you be grossed out by homemade baked good in care package?

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 15:35

I am helping my sister put together care packages for her wedding. She is paying for the wedding party to stay in a posh hotel for a few nights. We are going to leave little care packages on the bed. I have an exceptional brownie recipe and was going to leave a trio of favours in the box. But sister’s SIL says she would never eat a homemade treat due to hygiene reasons.

obviously I will be clinically clean and wil even wear a hair net as I couldn’t think of anything worse than someone finding a hair.

Who is being weird?

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Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 08/03/2025 13:10

Fizbosshoes · 08/03/2025 11:14

The most disappointing cake at a party (imo) is one of those big Costco sponges with white plastic icing. A home made birthday cake is usually 100× nicer!

Disappointing, but still edible. I never met a cake I didn't like, unfortunately.

LovelyLeitrim · 08/03/2025 12:52

What are the chances @Savemefromwetdog is going to be the first to leave today, can’t wait to get away. Because nothing is quite good enough. Also the “random” cake making school mum, maybe in attendance and that just won’t do!

Now if SIL had bought one of those delicious Costco cakes.

sunflowersblooming · 08/03/2025 12:03

I'd definitely eat them, wouldn't occur to me not to! Yum!

Lentilweaver · 08/03/2025 11:52

Comtesse · 08/03/2025 11:31

MN is so massively weird about hygiene things. Does every poster have germ-based anxiety? I would happily eat home made brownies.

I eat street food in India- way better than five stars- but I am clearly a Dirty Gertie!

TheKeatingFive · 08/03/2025 11:49

SnoozingFox · 08/03/2025 11:47

Totally agree that some people see it as a competition - they are super clean, everyone else is manky with their multiple cats shitting everywhere and trifles with dog hair as a key ingredient.

I’ve done a food hygiene cert - most of the emphasis was in hand washing (fair enough) and recording when ingredients were bought, fridge temperatures, cleaning schedule etc etc. nearly all of it is common sense and most of the emphasis was in safe cooking of meat, dairy and eggs. Brownies are not high risk, it’s just the ewwww germs people trying to demonstrate to anyone who’ll listen that they are better individuals, what with their vastly superior hygiene standards.

Exactly. And if your sense of superiority is coming from inane hygiene requirements, that's very sad.

SnoozingFox · 08/03/2025 11:47

Totally agree that some people see it as a competition - they are super clean, everyone else is manky with their multiple cats shitting everywhere and trifles with dog hair as a key ingredient.

I’ve done a food hygiene cert - most of the emphasis was in hand washing (fair enough) and recording when ingredients were bought, fridge temperatures, cleaning schedule etc etc. nearly all of it is common sense and most of the emphasis was in safe cooking of meat, dairy and eggs. Brownies are not high risk, it’s just the ewwww germs people trying to demonstrate to anyone who’ll listen that they are better individuals, what with their vastly superior hygiene standards.

Sahara123 · 08/03/2025 11:41

Fizbosshoes · 08/03/2025 11:14

The most disappointing cake at a party (imo) is one of those big Costco sponges with white plastic icing. A home made birthday cake is usually 100× nicer!

Yup, definitely

Fizbosshoes · 08/03/2025 11:38

Some people obviously have hygeine anxiety but sometimes I think (and it comes across in all types of thread) a superiority complex.
Of course their own kitchen meets the expected levels of hygeine but can't imagine anyone else does?
I completed most of a hygeine course for volunteering at a sports club. It was so dull, and almost all of it was fairly basic common sense - keeping food at the correct temperature, washing hands, keeping surfaces/utensils clean etc, it's not rocket science. Posters talking about people who are filthy , have mouse droppings in the kitchen, cat hairs in food etc as if that's the standard level of hygeine for everyone except themselves

Comtesse · 08/03/2025 11:31

MN is so massively weird about hygiene things. Does every poster have germ-based anxiety? I would happily eat home made brownies.

Movinghouseatlast · 08/03/2025 11:29

The people who don't eat homemade food are often very blunt 'in the bin' is a common phrase I see. I wonder if they are just like that generally.

I own a holiday cottage in my garden. I bake for my guests (I have a hygiene certificate) and out of nearly 400 stays its been left 3 times. I'd notice if it was 'in the bin' because I also put the rubbish out, it's presented in a cake box so the box would be obvious.

Bed and Breakfast accommodation don't get their kitchens inspected routinely, unlike cafes/ restaurants. So if you go to a bed and breakfast you had better scrape it all 'in the bin' too!

Also, are you happy to eat UPF over natural ingredients?

ALovelyShadeofMauve · 08/03/2025 11:28

Savemefromwetdog · 08/03/2025 07:43

I wouldn’t eat it, no. We are going to a kids party today, SIL gets a random school mum with no accreditation to bake the cake - we wont be eating that either.

Bake sale goods go in the bin too.

“Accreditation” 😆😆😆

crumblingschools · 08/03/2025 11:18

For those who don't eat home made, what happens if your DC are invited to a party either at someone's home or in a village hall type place, do you tell them they must not eat the food unless they have professional caterers in? Do you never let them go on play dates just in case the other parent feeds them?

Most the parties we go to now involve everyone bringing a plate, rather than the host doing all the cooking, how do people cope with that? Do you never go anywhere, or just refuse to eat, or bring your own food which you don't share?

Fizbosshoes · 08/03/2025 11:14

Sahara123 · 08/03/2025 10:56

That’s really sad isn’t it . Accreditation to make a birthday cake . I have 3 children and must have made 100’s of birthday cakes over the years . In my experience they get wolfed down in minutes. In fact my kids used to bin the shop bought cakes from their party bags ! Fortunately in real life I have never met one person who won’t eat home made cake. I used to make one of my kids primary teachers an individual Christmas pudding every year, she said she loved it because she was the only one who liked it so she wouldn’t get any otherwise. Or maybe she was being very polite!

The most disappointing cake at a party (imo) is one of those big Costco sponges with white plastic icing. A home made birthday cake is usually 100× nicer!

TulipTuesday · 08/03/2025 11:03

I’d eat home baked goods but only if I knew who made them. Then I’d judge on how clean they seemed. Sounds awful but if I know they’ve got pets or are smokers it would likely put me off.

My friend allows her cats to sleep on the kitchen surfaces and isn’t much of a cleaner, and one year my brother in law made a Christmas trifle and it had so much dog hair in it, it put me off for life 🤢

Sahara123 · 08/03/2025 10:56

Fullofpop · 08/03/2025 10:48

What’s the chances @Savemefromwetdog and her SIL don’t get on?! High!

That’s really sad isn’t it . Accreditation to make a birthday cake . I have 3 children and must have made 100’s of birthday cakes over the years . In my experience they get wolfed down in minutes. In fact my kids used to bin the shop bought cakes from their party bags ! Fortunately in real life I have never met one person who won’t eat home made cake. I used to make one of my kids primary teachers an individual Christmas pudding every year, she said she loved it because she was the only one who liked it so she wouldn’t get any otherwise. Or maybe she was being very polite!

Fullofpop · 08/03/2025 10:48

Savemefromwetdog · 08/03/2025 07:43

I wouldn’t eat it, no. We are going to a kids party today, SIL gets a random school mum with no accreditation to bake the cake - we wont be eating that either.

Bake sale goods go in the bin too.

What’s the chances @Savemefromwetdog and her SIL don’t get on?! High!

Outthereandcold · 08/03/2025 10:38

I would eat it! I love folks homemade things!

newnamesix · 08/03/2025 10:38

I also want to echo the pp about putting a label telling people they include hazelnuts - I know someone who is very allergic to them, to the point they wouldn't want to be in the same room with someone eating them.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 08/03/2025 10:36

TwistedWonder · 08/03/2025 09:30

I agree. I can’t imagine going through life so fearful over absolutely nothing that you deprive yourself of some real pleasures.

Its really sad and I worry about the affect it’s having on kids who can’t touch a door handle without their mum hosing them down with anti bacterial wash

As an older person, we literally ate mud as kids and we’re still here to tell the tale

Edited

My eldest daughter used to lick our chickens. Yes, live, outdoor hens, scratching around in the garden. In fact 'XXXXX, STOP LICKING THAT HEN!' was a cry oft heard in our neighbourhood.

She's still with us, in her thirties and contemplating getting hens of her own. Because home laid eggs make the BEST cakes.*

*It is not obligatory to lick the chickens before using the eggs.

Sahara123 · 08/03/2025 10:36

LovelyLeitrim · 08/03/2025 10:23

Oh yes, having a food hygiene certificate makes all the difference! 🙄

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c3wp46l3gv4o.amp

Exactly! I used to make cakes from home for local cafes and I was pretty surprised at what was involved hygiene wise. I had to do a short course then a multiple choice test. They seemed more emphatic that I must have two sinks in my kitchen than the fact that I had a dog! Which I did keep out of the kitchen obviously. This was some years ago now, but I was allowed to operate for quite some time before I had to start recording temperatures and listing ingredients. I didn’t last very long to be honest as the amount of work for very little return wasn’t worth it.
Anyway, I’ll eat home made cake from pretty much anywhere! One of life’s pleasures.

biscuitsandbooks · 08/03/2025 10:35

LovelyLeitrim · 08/03/2025 10:33

But they really shouldn’t be! It just makes me laugh 😆! How silly can someone be that I will chuck out Sally’s cake, but the one in the local cafe I’ll eat because it may have a hygiene certificate, even if it’s from a filthy kitchen.

Yeah, I don't disagree lol. I can see the logic but when you think about it, it really makes no sense.

Dramatic · 08/03/2025 10:33

I have actual diagnosed OCD and I'd probably still eat them 😂

LovelyLeitrim · 08/03/2025 10:33

biscuitsandbooks · 08/03/2025 10:25

I'm not saying it does (logically speaking) but lots of people are reassured by things like that.

But they really shouldn’t be! It just makes me laugh 😆! How silly can someone be that I will chuck out Sally’s cake, but the one in the local cafe I’ll eat because it may have a hygiene certificate, even if it’s from a filthy kitchen.

newnamesix · 08/03/2025 10:31

OneEdgyScroller · 07/03/2025 18:18

I am American and this is a very common and fun thing that the brides and grooms or their families do to welcome their hotel guests. I have been to hotels where there are as many as 5 different couples tables set up with Welcome Bags for guests to pick up as they check in. Typically they have some treats from the area. The last family wedding we went to was in Philly and they had Philly soft pretzels, candy from a local chocolatier, apples from a local orchard, etc. water bottles, sometimes hangover meds for the morning after, and occasionally a map of the area and the agenda for the weekend. There is also a cute note from the couple. Its nice not mandatory. I would absolutely eat the brownies!

Well @OneEdgyScroller I think that explains why obesity is the number one problem in America today.

*Joking. Also American, not obese and would totally eat the brownies without thinking twice 😅

biscuitsandbooks · 08/03/2025 10:25

LovelyLeitrim · 08/03/2025 10:23

Oh yes, having a food hygiene certificate makes all the difference! 🙄

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c3wp46l3gv4o.amp

I'm not saying it does (logically speaking) but lots of people are reassured by things like that.