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Would you be grossed out by homemade baked good in care package?

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 15:35

I am helping my sister put together care packages for her wedding. She is paying for the wedding party to stay in a posh hotel for a few nights. We are going to leave little care packages on the bed. I have an exceptional brownie recipe and was going to leave a trio of favours in the box. But sister’s SIL says she would never eat a homemade treat due to hygiene reasons.

obviously I will be clinically clean and wil even wear a hair net as I couldn’t think of anything worse than someone finding a hair.

Who is being weird?

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BettyBardMacDonald · 10/03/2025 10:37

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I do love Pringles, always have since childhood. We gobbled down half a tube this weekend.

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Bigtreebrenda · 09/03/2025 21:58

Is there anything sadder in life than the supermarket mass-produced scone? How do they manage to make them so utterly inedible when a fresh, homemade scone is a wonder to behold!

The supermarket scone embodies all that is wrong in commercially produced food. Home baking is ALWAYS better than shop bought. There is no way I’d waste calories on shop bought cake.

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PrimitivePerson · 10/03/2025 00:52

Yeah, I'm getting the impression there's some serious issue with food there, possibly orthorexia, an obsession with eating healthy food. It certainly explains the attitude that anyone eating homemade cakes is some sort of disgusting slob.

Bigtreebrenda · 09/03/2025 21:58

Is there anything sadder in life than the supermarket mass-produced scone? How do they manage to make them so utterly inedible when a fresh, homemade scone is a wonder to behold!

The supermarket scone embodies all that is wrong in commercially produced food. Home baking is ALWAYS better than shop bought. There is no way I’d waste calories on shop bought cake.

Isthiswhatmenthink · 09/03/2025 21:50

newnamesix · 09/03/2025 11:28

I think it's because a willingness to eat a homemade brownie doesn't equate to being willing to 'gobble anything'.

Eating does not = gobbling (unless you have disordered thinking around food).

There is a whole world of food I choose not to consume. I don't place a value judgment on people who choose to consume it.

You must have a very small little life, based on your postings on this thread, which is your choice, but others don't have to tell you it's normal.

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Eating does not = gobbling (unless you have disordered thinking around food).

I think that’s exactly what poor old Betty has. She’s posting using these sneering terms to elevate herself and convince herself she’s definitely not the one with the problem. 😬 Sorry pal.

Isthiswhatmenthink · 09/03/2025 21:47

BettyBardMacDonald · 09/03/2025 01:08

I find it amusing how defensive the "gobble anything " ilk is. Why do you feel the need to insult those of us who are more careful about what we choose to eat?

Nice try. 😂

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 09/03/2025 16:50

BettyBardMacDonald · 09/03/2025 11:20

I don't recall anyone saying that commercially prepared or mass-produced food is superior. Nor that homemade baked goods cause illness.

Some of you are truly grasping at straws to critique and insult those of us who have merely said we don't care for homemade foods and potlucks and wouldn't partake in.

Those who like that sort of thing should have at it.

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Just checking- by 'that sort of thing' you mean homemade food made by anyone in the world other than you? In other words, what everyone eats if they aren't subsisting on ready meals, processed crap or takeaways, or going out to eat every day? Crazy...

cardboardvillage · 09/03/2025 16:46

And germ freaks need their heads examined

cardboardvillage · 09/03/2025 16:43

I think the care package idea is a total waste of time and money.. sorry

Ilovecleaning · 09/03/2025 16:34

LovelyLeitrim · 09/03/2025 14:16

Absolutely this!

The rude, sneery comments say a lot about this poster!

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When teaching GCSE English I taught the kids ‘semantic fields’ 😀 You nailed it! 😇

TwistedWonder · 09/03/2025 14:29

PrimitivePerson · 09/03/2025 14:05

@BettyBardMacDonald Yeah..."desperate", "rando", "plopped", "sack", "scoff" - all these terms are derogatory, sneery, nasty and reek of your own perceived moral superiority.

I'm glad I'm not you.

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Absolutely. Hyacinth Bouquet is alive in MN

They might be rude, ill mannered, patronising, and sneery but hey they don’t ‘scoff’ homemade cake therefore the are sooooooooo superior to the rest of society in their deluded little heads.

All fur coat and no knickers I usually find

LovelyLeitrim · 09/03/2025 14:16

PrimitivePerson · 09/03/2025 14:05

@BettyBardMacDonald Yeah..."desperate", "rando", "plopped", "sack", "scoff" - all these terms are derogatory, sneery, nasty and reek of your own perceived moral superiority.

I'm glad I'm not you.

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Absolutely this!

The rude, sneery comments say a lot about this poster!

PrimitivePerson · 09/03/2025 14:05

@BettyBardMacDonald Yeah..."desperate", "rando", "plopped", "sack", "scoff" - all these terms are derogatory, sneery, nasty and reek of your own perceived moral superiority.

I'm glad I'm not you.

PeenaM · 09/03/2025 12:40

I think it’s a really lovely touch. I would definitely eat them!

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 09/03/2025 11:36

BettyBardMacDonald · 09/03/2025 11:15

Actually she often wrote about slimming, and she was scathing about food prepared by others, from her relatives to her neighbours the Kettles to women she knew on their island home.

Many of her chapters (and also ones in books written by her sister Mary) scoff at dubious foods prepared by people under less than ideal conditions.

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Yes, jello salads and the like, not home baking, surely. There is zero evidence to say that the OP is preparing 'dubious foods' in 'under less than ideal conditions'.

newnamesix · 09/03/2025 11:28

BettyBardMacDonald · 09/03/2025 01:08

I find it amusing how defensive the "gobble anything " ilk is. Why do you feel the need to insult those of us who are more careful about what we choose to eat?

I think it's because a willingness to eat a homemade brownie doesn't equate to being willing to 'gobble anything'.

Eating does not = gobbling (unless you have disordered thinking around food).

There is a whole world of food I choose not to consume. I don't place a value judgment on people who choose to consume it.

You must have a very small little life, based on your postings on this thread, which is your choice, but others don't have to tell you it's normal.

BettyBardMacDonald · 09/03/2025 11:20

crumblingschools · 09/03/2025 10:01

@BettyBardMacDonald the comments aren't all aimed at you, although your use of language is interesting. There are quite few posters saying they won't eat anything homemade, won't eat at friends, won't let their children eat birthday cake at parties etc. That must be limiting

And the fact that they assume mass produced food or catered food is superior in all ways

I don't recall anyone saying that commercially prepared or mass-produced food is superior. Nor that homemade baked goods cause illness.

Some of you are truly grasping at straws to critique and insult those of us who have merely said we don't care for homemade foods and potlucks and wouldn't partake in.

Those who like that sort of thing should have at it.

BettyBardMacDonald · 09/03/2025 11:15

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 09/03/2025 10:21

The OP has wisely moved on, I think, but we are actually responding to her question, and she made it clear that she was thinking of making a small batch of brownies to distribute to members of her own family and the close family and friends of her sister and husband-to-be on the night before the wedding. She is hardly 'some rando' to these people and I doubt she was planning to dump her carefully baked brownies in a sack either.

I absolutely love the books of Betty (Bard) MacDonald, which I've known since childhood. I really strongly doubt that she would have turned down a good quality home-made brownie. She wrote a lot about good food, the joys of family and friends eating together, the merits of home cooking and how unappetising much US food was - and she was writing about the 1930s, 1940s and early 1950s. She'd have been a trenchant critic of the US food industry these days, but I don't think she'd have had any time for the diet industry either.

Actually she often wrote about slimming, and she was scathing about food prepared by others, from her relatives to her neighbours the Kettles to women she knew on their island home.

Many of her chapters (and also ones in books written by her sister Mary) scoff at dubious foods prepared by people under less than ideal conditions.

Ilovecleaning · 09/03/2025 10:48

BettyBardMacDonald · 09/03/2025 09:56

If the brownie is left in the hotel room, the giver won't know its fate either way.

And most people could benefit from finding ways of bolstering social connections that don't involve flour, sugar and other carbs.

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Yes. Eat cardboard.

Ilovecleaning · 09/03/2025 10:28

I thought most food poisoning was from meat and chicken. I very much doubt anyone would be ill from
cake.

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