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Would you be grossed out by homemade baked good in care package?

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 15:35

I am helping my sister put together care packages for her wedding. She is paying for the wedding party to stay in a posh hotel for a few nights. We are going to leave little care packages on the bed. I have an exceptional brownie recipe and was going to leave a trio of favours in the box. But sister’s SIL says she would never eat a homemade treat due to hygiene reasons.

obviously I will be clinically clean and wil even wear a hair net as I couldn’t think of anything worse than someone finding a hair.

Who is being weird?

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Dyra · 07/03/2025 16:01

I would eat it. Would make my day. I'd gratefully receive any left behind by those who feel that all others' kitchens are disgusting as well.

graceinspace999 · 07/03/2025 16:00

Don’t bother. Give your lovely cakes to people who might appreciate them - elderly neighbours perhaps 🤔

ExpressCheckout · 07/03/2025 16:00

I always thought "care packages" were something you had arranged for you when older and in need of help. You live and learn. 😂

Whoarethoseguys · 07/03/2025 15:59

How strange that people won't eat homemade goods
.Does.that include not buying scones and cakes.in tea rooms that are described home made, what about the wedding cake? That probably won't be made in a huge commercial kitchen. Also what makes them think that food made in a commercial kitchen is more hygienic?

Umthisisabitawkward · 07/03/2025 15:58

I’d eat them! I think it’s a lovely gesture.

Hemlocked · 07/03/2025 15:57

I think it's fine. Most people will eat them or give them to someone that will. MNers are weird!!

Fagli · 07/03/2025 15:55

I wouldn’t but I have allergies so have to be very careful and I wouldn’t trust a domestic kitchen. Whenever I’ve seen things like this at wedding they tend to get left or binned, which is a shame if you’ve gone to all that effort.

CRbear · 07/03/2025 15:55

Wrap them nicely, buy stickers from Etsy or print off with ingredients. People will assume they’re artisan. Loads of small businesses cook from home and only ever get visited once (or not at all!) with warning from environmental health. The naysayers are being precious. And they don’t have to eat them. Lots of things won’t be to everyone’s taste but you don’t not do it?

JoshLymanSwagger · 07/03/2025 15:55

Why would a guest in a nice hotel need a care package?

Greensaysgo · 07/03/2025 15:54

DappledThings · 07/03/2025 15:42

I wouldn't think twice before eating it. Never known anyone get ill from cake or seen anything other than homemade cake brought into the office/church/someone's house anything other than devoured pretty quickly. Most people don't have these hang-ups.

This.

I have never thought twice about buying homemade bakes from charity fayres, school PTA stalls, etc. I'm pretty sure most people would enjoy the brownies without a second thought! It's really kind of you to be so thoughtful 😊

Inmydreams88 · 07/03/2025 15:53

I’d eat it! And I’d love to receive something like that.

LazyArsedMagician · 07/03/2025 15:52

I expect most Mumsnetters would say they wouldn't eat it - I would.

Nellienooiloveyou · 07/03/2025 15:52

BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 15:42

Well I thought the same. I have a brand new kitchen and you could eat off my floor. And I give a shit about hygiene. It’s going to miles better off than most commercial kitchens

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Yes and people may be welcomed a little snack when they get back to rooms

and probably will overlook any worries if been drinking!

cramptramp · 07/03/2025 15:52

I'd eat them. Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

MassiveOvaryaction · 07/03/2025 15:51

If they're individually wrapped how would they know they've been home produced vs from a baker? If not wrapped then I wouldn't eat either - no idea how long they've been there and what's got onto them while they're sitting there.

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 15:51

It’s just a small, personal touch. Not much effort as we only have 12 to do. BIL and sister are writing notes and sharing small treats and a few items people may have forgotten.

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ManchesterGirl2 · 07/03/2025 15:49

I'd eat it. IMO home baked is better for you than ultra processed, with cheap ingredients, emulsifiers and flavourings.

Catza · 07/03/2025 15:47

I wouldn't have any issues whatsoever.

ChildrenOfTheQuorn · 07/03/2025 15:46

Oh I'd definitely demolish that. But I know people can be quite funny about homemade food. My DH's family don't touch anything I cook or bake even though they can literally see my kitchen (and it's clean!)

Hortus · 07/03/2025 15:45

Firstly I'm wondering why they need "care packages", sorry I hate that term, but if they're in a posh hotel surely it will already supply a teatray with biscuits etc.
Lots of people don't like eating homemade stuff from people they don't know so it could be a waste. I don't have a problem with it.
At my son's wedding, his new sister in law made fantastic brownies and sweets which were served as part of the evening buffet, but she did it professionally from home and her kitchen had a top hygiene rating etc, so no one was squeamish.

Fitzcarraldo353 · 07/03/2025 15:45

Allergens would be the barrier for me rather than hygiene. That's something you may want to consider.

Sleepygrumpyandnothappy · 07/03/2025 15:44

The sister’s SIL must be a mumsnetter. It didn’t even occur to me that people felt like this about home cooking until I read it on here.

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 15:43

Do people not go to bake sales?

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ArghhWhatNext · 07/03/2025 15:43

If you’d asked me 6 months ago, I’d have said the SIL was being unreasonable. But I was gifted something home baked at Christmas that hadn’t actually been cooked through and it made me realise that actually it depends who’s done the baking and whether I trust their hygiene and cooking knowledge. Sorry.

Dutchhouse14 · 07/03/2025 15:43

I would be very happy to have homebaked goodies

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