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Would you be grossed out by homemade baked good in care package?

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 15:35

I am helping my sister put together care packages for her wedding. She is paying for the wedding party to stay in a posh hotel for a few nights. We are going to leave little care packages on the bed. I have an exceptional brownie recipe and was going to leave a trio of favours in the box. But sister’s SIL says she would never eat a homemade treat due to hygiene reasons.

obviously I will be clinically clean and wil even wear a hair net as I couldn’t think of anything worse than someone finding a hair.

Who is being weird?

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OptimisticRealist2024 · 07/03/2025 16:42

I had a homemade wedding cake and homemade cakes as favours because we wanted to keep costs down.

It isn't really my thing but if I were you, I'd just do them and if people don't want to eat them then they don't have to. Maybe include something non-edible in there, too, so people don't feel left out if they have an allergy?

Edit: seen something ominous the thread about pyjamas. I wouldn't do these - I'm really fussy about what I wear to bed. Keep it small!

Zebedee999 · 07/03/2025 16:42

BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 15:35

I am helping my sister put together care packages for her wedding. She is paying for the wedding party to stay in a posh hotel for a few nights. We are going to leave little care packages on the bed. I have an exceptional brownie recipe and was going to leave a trio of favours in the box. But sister’s SIL says she would never eat a homemade treat due to hygiene reasons.

obviously I will be clinically clean and wil even wear a hair net as I couldn’t think of anything worse than someone finding a hair.

Who is being weird?

Personally I'd love it!

diddl · 07/03/2025 16:42

Lollypop701 · 07/03/2025 16:40

Can you post me some? Sounds fantastic and I think much more personal than bought goods! I’ve had cake pops made to look like me from a wedding once… still up there as favourite wedding favour

I was thinking this.

If there are any that aren't wanted-is Germany doable?😁

Pineconesandterracotta · 07/03/2025 16:41

I would love it, eat it and appreciate the personal touch.

HowToSaveAWife · 07/03/2025 16:41

Considering I have food sensitivities and the home baked element... sorry I'd bin it. And I also probably wouldn't use the jammies as I'm very fussy with fabrics so they would be binned/donated too.

Thepeopleversuswork · 07/03/2025 16:41

I get why people may not want to eat food made by a total stranger
Surely any food you buy is made by a stranger?? I'm totally flummoxed by this thread.

I know.

Unless you're milling your own grains, milking your own cow and growing vegetables you will at some point be eating food made by a total stranger.

Madness....

Pickingmyselfup · 07/03/2025 16:41

ThreeMagicNumber · 07/03/2025 16:38

Once was enough for me, never ever ever again 🙈

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I thought that after the first time but then I wanted to check that it was the same experience the second time...it was worse! Plus they taste disgusting, I can still taste/smell them and it makes me feel quite sick 🤢

TorroFerney · 07/03/2025 16:41

Worried861 · 07/03/2025 15:40

It wouldn't occur to me not to eat it but I am very lax with caring about these things 😂

Ditto. It would never occur to me even to think about where it had been made. But I’ve an iron constitution and have eaten in some very manky establishments on trekking holidays.

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 16:40

NImumconfused · 07/03/2025 16:39

No but presumably your sister does?

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But I’m the one making them and they probably don’t know I am a bit like Monica from friends

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ApolloandDaphne · 07/03/2025 16:40

I would eat them without a thought.

DoorToNowhere · 07/03/2025 16:40

If it looked good I'd eat it!

Lollypop701 · 07/03/2025 16:40

Can you post me some? Sounds fantastic and I think much more personal than bought goods! I’ve had cake pops made to look like me from a wedding once… still up there as favourite wedding favour

ClafoutisSurprise · 07/03/2025 16:40

I’d eat them without a second thought. Like at least one pp, I’ve never heard of anyone becoming ill after eating a piece of homemade cake. Would I eat a cake I knew a cat had sat on in a dirty kitchen as someone mentioned upthread? No. But because it isn’t a pleasant thought, not because I think it would make me ill.

Out of sight, out of mind when it comes to other people’s home baking.

InWithThePlums · 07/03/2025 16:40

Worried861 · 07/03/2025 15:40

It wouldn't occur to me not to eat it but I am very lax with caring about these things 😂

Same.

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 16:40

Breadcat24 · 07/03/2025 16:38

Bottle of wine box of chocolates- nothing people have "handled"
Think the pyjama thing is wasteful and un -ecological in the extreme.
Just concentrate on the wedding, some of these additions are ott

How so? The pyjamas will carry on being used.

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NImumconfused · 07/03/2025 16:39

BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 16:38

I don’t know anyone of the groom side

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No but presumably your sister does?

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 16:39

KittenPause · 07/03/2025 16:25

Tbh the care package is a strange idea imho especially if she's already paying for the rooms

Why on earth is she paying for everyone's rooms

Then giving a random care package with a suspicious looking home made brownie in it

Cause she bloody well can 😂

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Breadcat24 · 07/03/2025 16:38

Bottle of wine box of chocolates- nothing people have "handled"
Think the pyjama thing is wasteful and un -ecological in the extreme.
Just concentrate on the wedding, some of these additions are ott

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 16:38

NImumconfused · 07/03/2025 16:36

If it's that small surely most people will know you and your sister and therefore have a reasonable idea of whether you can be trusted to bake hygienically?

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I don’t know anyone of the groom side

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ThreeMagicNumber · 07/03/2025 16:38

Pickingmyselfup · 07/03/2025 16:37

Could be one of "those brownies" i.e. an edible. That's the first thing that popped into my head anyway when I saw the word suspicious.

If it is one of those brownies then I'm afraid I'll pass, twice is more than enough to last a life time!

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Once was enough for me, never ever ever again 🙈

Boriswentcamping · 07/03/2025 16:38

I have had food poisoning twice from eating food cooked for me by friends / family.

I've also had food poisoning from a well known restaurant chain.

Having worked in restaurants and behind the scenes, I actually try not to eat in them....Confused I Also avoid home cooked food where I can.

Sad really but i think some people lack basic food hygiene and I've had bad experiences that I would rather not repeat.

diddl · 07/03/2025 16:38

Brownie you say?

Exceptional you say?

I'd have scoffed that before any thought of who made what where had occurred to me.

Would you care to share the recipe?

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 16:37

BettyBardMacDonald · 07/03/2025 16:17

We don't eat others' homemade food for hygienic reasons. They would go in the bin, sorry.

Tbh all of this faff (personal notes, treats, welcome kits, etc.) is eye-rolling. It's an ordinary wedding, not the second coming. Best wishes to the marrying couple but guests don't need all of these embellishments. It's kind of presumptuous to think that the event is so exceptional that souvenirs, etc., are required. No offense but it's a lot of expense, energy and use of the planet's dwindling resources for something that will be forgotten about or put to back of mind 48 hours later.

Okay. And that is your opinion.

The fact you are are considering it wasteful is interesting. Given the wedding is half the average uk size. And the gift package will consist of a reusable bag and some snacks packaged in recyclable packaging.

Some people enjoy the small details and personalising things for the people they love. you don’t. That’s fine.

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Pickingmyselfup · 07/03/2025 16:37

Icanttakethisanymore · 07/03/2025 16:30

"Suspicious looking home made brownie in it" 😂

How will it look suspicious?? This can't be real.

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Could be one of "those brownies" i.e. an edible. That's the first thing that popped into my head anyway when I saw the word suspicious.

If it is one of those brownies then I'm afraid I'll pass, twice is more than enough to last a life time!

FastFood · 07/03/2025 16:37

Today I've learned that eating a homemade cake is now "utterly rank".

More cake for me I guess.