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Would you be grossed out by homemade baked good in care package?

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 15:35

I am helping my sister put together care packages for her wedding. She is paying for the wedding party to stay in a posh hotel for a few nights. We are going to leave little care packages on the bed. I have an exceptional brownie recipe and was going to leave a trio of favours in the box. But sister’s SIL says she would never eat a homemade treat due to hygiene reasons.

obviously I will be clinically clean and wil even wear a hair net as I couldn’t think of anything worse than someone finding a hair.

Who is being weird?

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gannett · 07/03/2025 16:54

It's only on MN that I've ever encountered people who refuse to eat home-cooked food. This place has a real issue with germphobia. DP is the baker in our household and whenever he takes baked goods to social events they get demolished within seconds.

I would demolish the lot, I would thank you profusely and rave about you to all my friends and I would angle after any invitations where I might get to eat more of your delicious baking.

To everyone who refuses to eat home-cooked food - could you make yourselves known at social events, please? Because I'll eat the brownies if you're not having them. I hate to think of them going to waste.

PrimitivePerson · 07/03/2025 16:54

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 07/03/2025 16:48

But the cakes are cooked! Any germs would be burned off in the cooking process - so then you've only got to worry about the cleanliness of the packing up procedure and - what the eye doesn't see and all that. I have no idea how some people live with their fear of 'what other people might do in their kitchen'. OK, if there's a noro outbreak I might look twice, but otherwise.. Yep, still here.

The prevailing view on MN is that every single other human being in the world is irredeemably filthy and contaminated with every disease it's possible to contract. Even touching something they once touched might kill you.

Icanttakethisanymore · 07/03/2025 16:54

BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 16:47

LOLing at the people who think a reusable burlap bag with a few treats and 5 sets of good quality pjs (which shock horror can be worn more than once) is an ecological disaster.

But these people also don't eat perfectly good brownies because they haven't inspected the kitchen from whence they came so I think we can agree they are clinically insane. Don't worry OP - some people are just miserable bastards, don't let them drag you down.

Topseyt123 · 07/03/2025 16:53

ExpressCheckout · 07/03/2025 16:00

I always thought "care packages" were something you had arranged for you when older and in need of help. You live and learn. 😂

So did I. 🤣 My mother has a care package. It is carers who come in three times a day to get her up and cook her food. 🤣🤣 I was wondering how that fitted into a hotel setting? 🤣🤣

OP, I think it is a nice gesture and I would eat it though I get why some people would be wary.

Are you providing a list of ingredients in case some people have allergies, which you may or may not be aware of?

ALovelyShadeofMauve · 07/03/2025 16:53

She’s weird. You’ll eat worse than that before you die, as my mother would say.

Ineedtobethinnertobehealthy · 07/03/2025 16:52

It's a lovely idea OP, and guests can choose not to eat them if they don't want them.

A client made me some brownies after I did them a favour for free, and they were delicious.

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 16:51

I’m pulling up the recipe and will share. Having an isssue with email account passwords

If you have never made brownies with the Morrisons Hazenut and white chocolate spread and broken up kinder bueno I urge you to RUN to Morrisons now.

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Iwantmyoldnameback · 07/03/2025 16:49

So all those people who buy cakes at McMillan Coffee Mornings and other fund raising events just take them home and chuck them? How very odd.

Breadcat24 · 07/03/2025 16:49

OK then - ecology aside matching pyjama s for getting ready is just cringe. There you made me say it

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 07/03/2025 16:48

But the cakes are cooked! Any germs would be burned off in the cooking process - so then you've only got to worry about the cleanliness of the packing up procedure and - what the eye doesn't see and all that. I have no idea how some people live with their fear of 'what other people might do in their kitchen'. OK, if there's a noro outbreak I might look twice, but otherwise.. Yep, still here.

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 16:48

MolluscMonday · 07/03/2025 16:43

It’s a terrible idea OP. Just send the brownies to me, I’ll sort it out for you…. 😉

😂

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Springhassprungxx · 07/03/2025 16:48

I'll eat them for you op!

crumblingschools · 07/03/2025 16:47

Various members of our family have made wedding cakes for other members of the family. None of us are professional bakers/cooks. What would posters who don’t eat home made cakes do in respect of these wedding cakes?

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 16:47

LOLing at the people who think a reusable burlap bag with a few treats and 5 sets of good quality pjs (which shock horror can be worn more than once) is an ecological disaster.

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Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 07/03/2025 16:46

ColaGeranium · 07/03/2025 16:36

I wouldn't eat it, no. In general, I have found people's hygiene, particularly around food, to be lacking. I rarely eat out.

How sad. Are you getting help with this health anxiety? It must be very restricting for you and your family.

GinToBegin · 07/03/2025 16:45

OP, you have to remember that this is MN. Social drinkers are going to hell in a soused hand basket, doors must never be answered unless pre-arranged in writing, and other people are slatterns and slobs heaving with bacteria and poo crumbs.

In the real world, allergens aside, most real people will fall on home-made brownies like Dracula on a comely maiden’s milky-white bosom, and consider them a lovely touch. Crack on, I’d say.

Crazykefir · 07/03/2025 16:44

I wouldn't bother. Your sister has been more than generous paying for accommodation. Buy them a drink.

oakleaffy · 07/03/2025 16:44

Thepeopleversuswork · 07/03/2025 16:41

I get why people may not want to eat food made by a total stranger
Surely any food you buy is made by a stranger?? I'm totally flummoxed by this thread.

I know.

Unless you're milling your own grains, milking your own cow and growing vegetables you will at some point be eating food made by a total stranger.

Madness....

I'd FAR rather have food cooked by friends I know who are clean than stuff cooked in a dubious place where hand hygiene could be lacking. Also hair should be covered- no one likes to find a hair in their food!

ChaToilLeam · 07/03/2025 16:44

I‘d bloody love it! I‘m sure there are many business premises and commercial bakeries that aren’t kept as clean as people‘s own homes. You won’t find me getting fussy about tasty baked goods in any case.

MolluscMonday · 07/03/2025 16:43

It’s a terrible idea OP. Just send the brownies to me, I’ll sort it out for you…. 😉

Breadcat24 · 07/03/2025 16:43

@BusyTraybake because they might not be to their taste- they might not like pyjamas and even more so if you are going to make them personalized in any way "Busy's wedding". Would be straight in the charity bag for me after some rictus grin photos
Also are they synthetic satin? Not eco

Icanttakethisanymore · 07/03/2025 16:43

Pickingmyselfup · 07/03/2025 16:41

I thought that after the first time but then I wanted to check that it was the same experience the second time...it was worse! Plus they taste disgusting, I can still taste/smell them and it makes me feel quite sick 🤢

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yeah - the problem is you don't know how much you've had until it's too late. It's always a disaster in my experience. Maybe that's because I'm too greedy not to end up totally wasted.

TorroFerney · 07/03/2025 16:43

WestwardHo1 · 07/03/2025 16:10

I'd eat it!

I wouldn't call it a "care package" though.

Ya that is an odd name for it. I also wouldn’t be doing it there’s just no need making extra work for yourselves . I’d also be thinking of the people who wouldn’t eat it, such a waste of food.

NImumconfused · 07/03/2025 16:43

BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 16:40

But I’m the one making them and they probably don’t know I am a bit like Monica from friends

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I'd have thought at a small wedding people would chat and ask if they were unsure. I think it's a lovely idea and if I were you I'd just do it and not worry - if some people choose not to eat them then more fool them for missing out on such deliciousness!

bobby81 · 07/03/2025 16:42

I’m another one who won’t eat homemade things from people I don’t know (and plenty of people I DO know too!!)