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Would you be grossed out by homemade baked good in care package?

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 15:35

I am helping my sister put together care packages for her wedding. She is paying for the wedding party to stay in a posh hotel for a few nights. We are going to leave little care packages on the bed. I have an exceptional brownie recipe and was going to leave a trio of favours in the box. But sister’s SIL says she would never eat a homemade treat due to hygiene reasons.

obviously I will be clinically clean and wil even wear a hair net as I couldn’t think of anything worse than someone finding a hair.

Who is being weird?

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JaninaDuszejko · 07/03/2025 19:29

I think these kind of threads bring out the fussy weirdos who won't eat home made cakes. But if you've ever brought cake into work you know those people are in a minority, most people love homemade cakes. DH had an office mate who rigged up a flag to his computer that would raise when he received an email with 'cake' in it. That's a (nerdy but) normal reaction to homemade cake.

TheFatCatsWhiskers1 · 07/03/2025 19:29

RedPanda901 · 07/03/2025 19:09

Love the home baked goodies. I promise you a home baked cake is WAY more hygienic than the dark kitchen you buy your Deliveroo from. I’ve worked in kitchens and seen what chefs do.

I worked as a chef in my early 20s and saw some disgusting things. I don't especially enjoy dining out as a result, and neither does my friend who was a chef for 30 years. An open kitchen is more reassuring.

I wouldn't eat the brownie if I didn't know where it had come from. I prefer to bake my own cakes. I don't know if I've just been unlucky but I've had too many hair-in-food incidents, and even one incident where a loaf of freshly baked supermarket bread contained something so disgusting that they sent it off to be analysed in a lab and paid me a fair bit of compensation without me even having to ask for it.

Didimum · 07/03/2025 19:23

This is Mumsnet, where most of the weirdo posters would pick the homemade brownie up with tongs, drop them out the window then fumigate the room.

Sounds lovely, OP, and I would devour that brownie!

Marchitectmummy · 07/03/2025 19:22

Sorry nope I wouldn't eat it either.

BoiledOrRoastPotatoes · 07/03/2025 19:19

Sleepygrumpyandnothappy · 07/03/2025 15:44

The sister’s SIL must be a mumsnetter. It didn’t even occur to me that people felt like this about home cooking until I read it on here.

This. I would absolutely love to have found something delicious in my room!

It has never occurred me to worry about eating anything like that.

I have never had food poisoning so I guess I’m not going too far wrong.

Cosyblankets · 07/03/2025 19:18

I only came on to see what a care package was!
I think it's a nice touch

RedPanda901 · 07/03/2025 19:09

Love the home baked goodies. I promise you a home baked cake is WAY more hygienic than the dark kitchen you buy your Deliveroo from. I’ve worked in kitchens and seen what chefs do.

IAmTheLittleThings · 07/03/2025 19:06

I really wish there had been such goodies at the last wedding I went to.
Might have made the whole fiasco more palatable......

MassiveOvaryaction · 07/03/2025 19:03

BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 18:01

Chocolate that is 50-60% cocoa solids. I have tried 70%, really good quality chocolate and it is just too bitter.

I cut up the kinder bueno into bite size chunks and fold that into the batter (do not overfold at that point, use a knife). And then for the hazelnut cream, I just pour half the batter in the tin and then spread a nice generous thick layer of spread on top. Followed by the rest of the batter. Glorious.

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Thanks, I'll give it a try sometime.

aCatCalledFawkes · 07/03/2025 19:02

I would eat them although TBH not after a full day at a wedding so would probably need packaging that meant I could take them home. I wouldn't care if you had made them or your family, I'm doubtful though I would get any as my 13yr old tends to eact anything that comes in to sight. If they were still there by breakfast I would be surprised!

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 07/03/2025 19:01

I even eat cakes made by random kids at my school. Usually delicious. Never did me the slightest bit of harm.

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Maddy70 · 07/03/2025 18:57

I don't eat homemade things from unknown sources but they do know don't they so I think it's a lovely idea

BunnyLake · 07/03/2025 18:55

I don’t like eating cakes made by people I don’t know well. I only ate bought cake at work birthdays etc. I tried a bit once by someone at work and it was disgusting (turned out to be a cake with unconventional ingredients, they were a bit of a hippy type) so it’s put me right off.

TheKeatingFive · 07/03/2025 18:54

TwistedWonder · 07/03/2025 18:49

This does seem to be an only on MN thing as I can’t say in my almost 60 years on this planet I’ve met anyone who refuses homemade cakes unless they’ve inspected the bakers kitchen.

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The competitive hygiene chasing in her is really weird,

cardibach · 07/03/2025 18:54

TheMorels · 07/03/2025 18:49

I said it’s 2 reasons, only one of which is that I don’t like cake.

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But the other reason doesn’t make a lot of sense - there might be a bit of grubbiness which wouldn’t hurt you. I accept that’s your reason, fine, but I genuinely can’t imagine thinking like that. But if you don’t like cake surely you wouldn’t eat it however spotless the prep? So it’s a bit irrelevant (or at least not the main reason) despite it being the only reason you initially gave.

TheMorels · 07/03/2025 18:49

cardibach · 07/03/2025 18:43

Not liking cake is a totally sensible reason for not eating cake, obviously. But you said it was the state of the kitchens.

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I said it’s 2 reasons, only one of which is that I don’t like cake.

TwistedWonder · 07/03/2025 18:49

DappledThings · 07/03/2025 15:42

I wouldn't think twice before eating it. Never known anyone get ill from cake or seen anything other than homemade cake brought into the office/church/someone's house anything other than devoured pretty quickly. Most people don't have these hang-ups.

This does seem to be an only on MN thing as I can’t say in my almost 60 years on this planet I’ve met anyone who refuses homemade cakes unless they’ve inspected the bakers kitchen.

TheGander · 07/03/2025 18:48

If you are going to provide a care package to each guest it’s going to work out extremely expensive ( NHS humour).

TheKeatingFive · 07/03/2025 18:48

I'm always gobsmacked that people won't eat home made stuff but somehow think commercial kitchens are fine. Oh you sweet summer children. 😆

EdithBond · 07/03/2025 18:45

I don’t think it’s weird to provide home-made brownies. It’s a lovely idea.

Just accept some people may not eat them for various reasons.

ShakeUpYourTiredEyes · 07/03/2025 18:44

All sounds lovely, lucky girls to have your sister and your sister is just as lucky to have such a thoughtful sister.
I'd eat them if they were packaged which I'm certain they will be. Maybe print an ingredient list to go in each one as well. Small enough to look nice but big enough to be able to read.

Expletive · 07/03/2025 18:44

I’d eat them… and all the ones that the fussy buggers wouldn’t eat.

cardibach · 07/03/2025 18:43

TheMorels · 07/03/2025 18:41

It’s 2 things for me.

I don’t like cake.

I don’t like the thought that it’s possibly been prepared somewhere on the minging side.

We used always to throw out kids’ birthday cakes from party bags too. That was mostly because they’d be from boys’ parties and there’d be a preponderance of blue icing. Plus, our kids never liked cake.

Not everyone likes cake.

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Not liking cake is a totally sensible reason for not eating cake, obviously. But you said it was the state of the kitchens.

TheMorels · 07/03/2025 18:41

cardibach · 07/03/2025 18:36

But if it doesn’t make you unwell…I don’t get it. What’s the issue if it’s safe?

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It’s 2 things for me.

I don’t like cake.

I don’t like the thought that it’s possibly been prepared somewhere on the minging side.

We used always to throw out kids’ birthday cakes from party bags too. That was mostly because they’d be from boys’ parties and there’d be a preponderance of blue icing. Plus, our kids never liked cake.

Not everyone likes cake.