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AIBU?

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Nuisance neighbour

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candaceswap · 07/03/2025 15:23

Since we have moved here there have been some issues with the neighbour.

Firstly she would reverse into our drive most days and her visitors would frequently park in our designated parking spaces.

We had to move the bins to stop this.

Now her living room window falls outside the parking spaces.
There is a bedding area under her window and today she came onto our property to start ripping out the plants.

We are unsure that this bedding area even belongs to her, I have had to call the HA to check - will call back as these are new builds.

Main principle is she shouldn't be coming onto our property at all.

I want to move my garden bow from the back and put it int front of her window to stop her coming onto the property.

We have never parked in her space, never even stepped foot on her property.

AIBU?

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MooseBeTimeForSnow · 07/03/2025 21:51

I would suspect, if it is a HA property, that you don’t actually own the parking space. The HA will own it (and maintain it) and you just have a right to use it.

deademptyduck · 07/03/2025 21:51

candaceswap · 07/03/2025 21:46

@deademptyduck - I'm not really sure how or why considering I don't infringe on her or privacy or have people park in her parking space.

Because good neighbours don't get hung up on these things and are kind and flexible with each other. They speak in a friendly way to each other when something is an issue rather than moving bins and speaking to HA's. Why exactly are you so worried about someone turning a car on a bit of tarmac - how does it negatively affect your life? You say it's privacy but realistically they're not looking into your house as they do it. We had a neighbour like you - everyone else in the street was friendly and considerate and he was territory marking at every opportunity. It's a bizarre way to be and life is too short. Maybe get some more hobbies so you get less time to hyper fixate on the neighbours?

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candaceswap · 07/03/2025 21:46

@deademptyduck - I'm not really sure how or why considering I don't infringe on her or privacy or have people park in her parking space.

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CaptainFuture · 07/03/2025 21:46

Shit! They WAVE at you?!! Call the police!!

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candaceswap · 07/03/2025 21:45

We have designed parking spaces clearly marked and she would use hers as well as mine.

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candaceswap · 07/03/2025 21:44

I haven't got a path leading to my front door, the property is accessed via the car park.

My living room window is to the right of my front door and there is a bedding area under there as well which just covers my boundary.

I never use the neighbours footpath out of respect for her privacy.

I just tried to look on Land Registry and the information isn't available yet.

I think I'm just really annoyed because of her visitors parking on our driveway and at times they have looked straight through the window and at times waved, it impacts our privacy and I have had to put the bins at the front to stop this.

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deademptyduck · 07/03/2025 21:44

YABU - you are actually the nuisance neighbour in this scenario.

CaptainFuture · 07/03/2025 21:40

Firstly she would reverse into our drive most days and her visitors would frequently park in our designated parking spaces.

Do you have a driveway plus designated parking spaces?

It all sounds a bit bizarre, your parking space is in front of her house and hers is in front of yours?

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 07/03/2025 21:36

your diagram is incomplete.
it doesn't show any path leading to your door - do you have one? are you supposed to use the 'neighbour's path'?
where is your living room window? is there a garden bed outside it as well?
who is responsible for what may well be a shared/ communal flower bed - does the HA employ contractors to look after the grounds around the building?
it seems like the whole development hasn't been v well designed or thought out, and it's surprising that the HA didn't make these things clear when you all moved in.
have you ever been given a map showing the boundaries of 'your' property?
are you allowed to put in a short fence to mark this?

Shatandfattered · 07/03/2025 21:34

*neighbours

Shatandfattered · 07/03/2025 21:33

For god sake. Someone tending to a bit of bedding and reversing, id rather that than a neighnout with a drug den weeds music etc. Its attitudes like this that inflame issues because it comes across as being the type to look for a problem.

BeaAndBen · 07/03/2025 21:29

So she stood on the end of your drive to access the bedding plants under her window? That sounds a total non-event, really.

Her visitors shouldn’t park in your space. But that’s the only unreasonable bit.

FatherFrosty · 07/03/2025 21:26

can you check the land registry? It might not be on there depending how new you are. You can check any property and it doesn’t cost a lot (I think it’s £7.50 now).
be quicker than waiting for HA

noctilucentcloud · 07/03/2025 21:16

Her visitors parking in your space/s is unreasonable. However her walking over your parking space to see to the flowerbed seems perfectly reasonable. Especially as the flowerbed is under her window and you might have joint responsibility for it. You have to live next door to her for probably a long time, don't start difficulties when you don't need to, let inconsequential stuff go. Honestly, in the grand scheme of what can go wrong with neighbours this is barely on the scale.

amyshep · 07/03/2025 21:11

Looks like your parking space is in front of her house imo...
odd setup

MissEloiseBridgerton · 07/03/2025 21:07

Storm in a teacup, as long as she isn't looking in your windows or damaging the property, I cannot see an issue. I also can't really make head nor tail of your diagram

ParrotParty · 07/03/2025 20:59

Considering its under her house I would assume that flowerbed is hers. Regardless why does it matter if she stands on your driveway? She will have to to clean her window etc anyway.
Stop letting pettiness consume you and focus on things that matter.

m00rfarm · 07/03/2025 20:55

You are missing very relevant "not" words in some places (or otherwise I am not sure what the problem is) - can you check what you write before you post it as it really makes little sense.

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candaceswap · 07/03/2025 20:54

My husband reckons the bedding area is 50/50 but she was on the other side towards me pulling out plants.

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candaceswap · 07/03/2025 20:53

It may be a flaw with the house and none of the other houses have this.

I will find out through the HA after they have checked the boundary and deeds.

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DrummingMousWife · 07/03/2025 20:50

How would she get to her bedding plants if she can’t stand on your drive way?
sorry, I may be confused but don’t know how she would otherwise do this , looks like a house design flaw.

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candaceswap · 07/03/2025 20:48

Diagram

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candaceswap · 07/03/2025 20:47

I have drawn a diagram.

We never park in front of her window.
We all moved in the same time as these at are new builds.

The first time we viewed these houses was the same day we got the keys via HA and if we had declined we would have gone back down the list with the council.

The neighbour didn't just come onto the property she actually came by my front door and ripped out some plants.

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Coka · 07/03/2025 20:11

So the issue is she walked on your parking space? Me and my neighbours reguarly walk/stand chatting on each others if they are empty.. I would never have thought of it as an issue.

Nina1013 · 07/03/2025 19:26

candaceswap · 07/03/2025 16:51

It hasn't been confirmed if she does actually own that bit, the agent said it sounds as if it is my boundary as it's on my designated parking area.

I will try take a pic later - just out with DC atm.

And yes I am a nice neighbour, I just like my privacy.

You want privacy in your parking space, the same parking space that was located in front of someone else’s window when you bought or leased the house?

Honestly you sound a bit bonkers. Surely she is the one who would be impacted by lack of privacy if anything, as if you park head first, you’ll actually be looking into HER house.

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