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Can we get a disagree button?

85 replies

hairyunicorn · 07/03/2025 12:28

Can we get a disagree or dislike button?
We are all adults and i'm tired of 'laughing' at posts i disagree with.

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TY78910 · 07/03/2025 14:31

I remember reading somewhere that the reaction buttons are purposefully not what they are on other platforms (thumbs up for 'agree' as opposed to like and clap for 'thanks' as opposed to well done brilliant point' to minimise bullying type behaviour. If you post something and it gets disliked 100 times it can make people feel low to an extent. I think it's also the reason you can't publicly see the reactions posts have, to eliminate a 'social status' on MN

ilovesooty · 07/03/2025 14:28

hairyunicorn · 07/03/2025 12:28

Can we get a disagree or dislike button?
We are all adults and i'm tired of 'laughing' at posts i disagree with.

You're misusing the laugh button then. If you disagree with someone what's wrong with saying so?

gamerchick · 07/03/2025 14:28

I wouldn't have any of them me..was better when it was clean and uncluttered.

Encouraging bullying isn't something this place needs.

B1indEye · 07/03/2025 14:24

Id read on other threads that people used the laugh emoji to be nasty, I was a bit sceptical because what kind of person would think of that but clearly I was wrong

5128gap · 07/03/2025 14:23

Is that what people are using the laugh for? Here's me thinking I'd suddenly become hilarious. Was planning my set for Edinburgh.

chocmalt · 07/03/2025 14:19

You know this is never going to happen, right? It's not in the spirit of the site. 😅

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 07/03/2025 14:16

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 07/03/2025 13:17

What a terrible idea

Well it is OP. Laugh emoji at me all you want but it is just bullying. Even if you disagree, no one will see it.

GreenWheat · 07/03/2025 13:43

I prefer it as it is. I think lots of people have an instant unkind reaction but can't be bothered to post. Having some form of negativity button gives them an easy way to flame, when given a few minutes to reflect, they might realise they are better off just scrolling by.

Happyinarcon · 07/03/2025 13:43

I would use the laugh emoji for funny posts, it’s good to see people on here with a sense of humour

AnSolas · 07/03/2025 13:35

Yea why not do a range of bully buttons.

Or read and move on with your day if you are unwilling to disagree in MNs public view

ItShouldntHappenToMeYet · 07/03/2025 13:29

Actually, coulx we have a vehemently disagree button too? That way, some PPs could save themselves the bother of writing something vitrolic/nasty/rude.
The laughing emoni is pointless on all levels and clearly not being used appropriately - is it for funny ha-ha, or a sarcastic funny? Perhaps a second one would help clatify pp meaning!

ScottBakula · 07/03/2025 13:26

Why on earth would you use the laughing emoji to disagree with someone.

I wouldn't want a disagree emoji, if you disagree with me let me know why and I can explain why I think / feel that way or we can just agree that we have different options, you know, like grown ups

ErrolTheDragon · 07/03/2025 13:25

MeowCatPleaseMeowBack · 07/03/2025 13:19

There was a long thread about this and people can't even handle the laughing emoji. They would properly melt down if somebody had the temerity to DISAGREE with them.

Tbh in some ways I'd rather have an honest 'disagree' reaction than people misusing that horrible gurning laugh emoji. Better to have neither and encourage proper responses.

I mostly use the app, on which I can neither make nor see 'reactions' and I'm darned if I can see how they are in any way an enhancement to the site.

honeylulu · 07/03/2025 13:24

The laughing emoji is surely to show you appreciated a funny post! I didn't think it was meant to be used in a derisory way.

I agree though that a "thumbs down" option for disagreement could be useful, particularly if you can't be arsed to quote and reply.

LighterSpring25 · 07/03/2025 13:23

Glitchymn1 · 07/03/2025 13:22

God no. I don’t want all those notifications.

😂because I thought you're post was funny.

MyUmberSeal · 07/03/2025 13:23

I’ve never used the laugh emoji as a way to disagree, is that what others use it for in the absence of a disagree option? I did not know this. I’ve only used it as a way of telling the poster their post is funny and made me laugh.

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hairyunicorn · 07/03/2025 13:22

Redpeach · 07/03/2025 13:21

The laughing emoji is often used by unkind people to disparage, i hate it, and think it looks a bit stupid

Sorry @Redpeach I couldn't resist ...

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Glitchymn1 · 07/03/2025 13:22

God no. I don’t want all those notifications.

Redpeach · 07/03/2025 13:21

The laughing emoji is often used by unkind people to disparage, i hate it, and think it looks a bit stupid

MeowCatPleaseMeowBack · 07/03/2025 13:20

desperatedaysareover · 07/03/2025 12:48

People are 😆ing to be negative? God this is terrible news I thought I was funny AF

What would be the purpose, I can’t think what it would add in an already fairly combative community. The OP won’t see it and there’s no shortage of posters fully ready to throw down/ tell you you’re talking shite and they think you’re a prick. Look at S&B and a gentle wee post like ‘Here’s another green dress you might like’ and some charmer posts to say it’s absolutely vile and makes them physically sick or whatever.

I reckon if I’m moved to pointedly disagree, as opposed to just offer an alternative POV, I’d also want the OP to know why (like there’s an inaccuracy or dangerous advice or something). So why not just post?

Edited

I left a laugh on your post because the first sentence was funny. Just to clarify 😏

BourbonsAreOverated · 07/03/2025 13:19

I have to disagree Wink

i think it will encourage pile ons and just isn’t very nice. If you need to disagree make the point or move on.

MeowCatPleaseMeowBack · 07/03/2025 13:19

There was a long thread about this and people can't even handle the laughing emoji. They would properly melt down if somebody had the temerity to DISAGREE with them.

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 07/03/2025 13:17

What a terrible idea

ErrolTheDragon · 07/03/2025 13:16

hairyunicorn · 07/03/2025 12:59

hmmm... i'm unsure why you think i don't also make posts. I have already said i'm more than happy to reply to threads i both agree and disagree with.

if you can't be bothered to read the posts you reply to... well...

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I wasn’t implying you don’t make posts, my response was in relation to (mis)using the reaction buttons which is what the thread is about.

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hairyunicorn · 07/03/2025 12:59

ErrolTheDragon · 07/03/2025 12:57

If you're tired of laughing at posts you disagree with then just stop it.
If you cant be bothered to type some words to disagree coherently then everyone would be better off without your contributions, wouldn't they?

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hmmm... i'm unsure why you think i don't also make posts. I have already said i'm more than happy to reply to threads i both agree and disagree with.

if you can't be bothered to read the posts you reply to... well...

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