Why some mums are so weird ?

Some people are weird. They were probably weird before they became Mums.

It's not just mums. I was going to a festival and got to the town and asked two people if they knew where the local park was.

They said they had no idea whatsoever. Never heard of it.

I started my Gmaps and eventually found the park. Guess who I passed walking into the entrance?

Not London but a small town in England we lived in about 90% of people horaded knowledge - it was really odd.

So you ask directly for information or make more general comments - and they'd know nothing - you find out somehow come back and tell them and they'd be like oh yes we used them - we did that - and we'd be like wtf why didn't you say something and they'd shrug it off. Even something as simple as where an entrance was they'd be like this.

It made everyday life at time - with house too do up and kids and new to area - slightly harder. We never worked out why - whether it was worry about being held accountable for accuracy of information or assumption we should just know like they did never worked it out - but it was such an odd area quirk.

People in general
can be odd OP, it's not a mums thing .

Strange thing to still be thinking about. Odd to link this to making a sweeping statement about mums or anyone really. Not sure what the relevance of it being a posh part of London. I think in a way you have proved your own point which was along the lines why wasn’t she helpful/kind etc; what has happened to the way people behave. Well, I turn right that back at you. Why is it your need for info trumps everything else? You’ve got no idea who this woman is, why she was there, what she was thinking, what is going on in her life. But your conclusions about her are all completely focused really on why she didn’t help YOU. I don’t mean to sound harsh but that’s how I read it. I also live in south London, some people are friendly and helpful, some less so, this was when I had a child with the buggy etc and now. I’d like to think I’m also friendly and helpful but there are no doubt moments when I may not be unintentionally, like for anyone.

It has absolutely nothing to do with being a mum

I actually have a terrible sense of direction so if I'd gone somewhere before I couldn't guarantee if I'd remember where the entrance was. It was probably signposted though

More than one thing can be true.

It can be true that she was waiting for someone when you approached her.
It can also be true that she wasn’t certain of where the entrance was at the time you asked her, and she was more focused on looking out for the person she was waiting for.
It can also be true that she has previously attended an event of this nature, and perhaps even in the exact location, but did not remember confidently where the event would take place when you asked her.
We can go around judging people based on the snippets of information we find out about them, or we can just accept the answers she gave on the day and move on.

My partner loses all sense of direction if he arrives somewhere large via a different entrance. I, on the other hand, have a mental map of everywhere I’m going and have an incredible sense of direction. It’s my secret skill. Most people are somewhere in between my partner and I.

OP the only one being weird is you

To be fair, she might have thought you were odd for not being able to find the entrance to a (presumably) big and well-established museum and also asking if there's a queue when that would have been clearly visible. A lot of mums standing in a line facing the same direction = queue. A bunch of mums spread out and not looking at the same thing or moving in the same direction = not a queue.

A rising trend in London phone theft are strangers who come up to you and attempt to make conversation, and at some point they will distract you by covering your phone/bag with an object and steal the phone. Of course, she can see you are also a mum but to be perfectly honest, a woman coming up to ask if there's a queue when there visibly isn't one would raise a few red flags to me. She was probably trying to shut down interaction on the side of caution, which honestly is perfectly reasonably if you have street smarts in London.

That's odd. I tend to do the opposite if I see a woman with a pram...aways see her as more important.

She’s a cow, plain and simple!

So entitled isn’t it?!! I actually stopped walking too as the pavement is a bit narrow to give them room to pass with out going single file. Since when does that not require a quick ‘thanks!’

Really noticed it though being out and about with a pram. It’s like as soon as you’re pushing a buggy in front of you it’s carte Blanche for people to think you don’t really matter! Noticing it all the time at the moment. Constantly having to ask people to remove themselves from the space on the bus too (yes yes of course I only use it if not required by a wheelchair!!) but sometimes they look at you like you’re the worm in their apple.

Ha I had this with a lady and two dogs on long leads when I was walking with the pram - I picked a side as they were taking the entire pavement up and let’s just say it got heated (not from me..) - I’ve noticed there is so much more open aggression, complete absence of manners and hostility recently and I’m so fed up of it!

Odd to use ‘mums’ as a synonym for society.

Some people go out of their way to help, some don’t and even then it can depend on whether they are having a good or bad moment. What’s stranger is that the OP has used this minor incident to start a thread complaining about it. Plenty worse anti-social behaviour out there to get het up over.

I made way on the pavement when pushing a buggy yesterday to let two elderly ladies past (they were walking briskly and chatting) so they didn’t have to walk close to the road to get past us. One looked blankly at me but both kept walking. Not an acknowledgment or a thank you!! I called YOU ARE SO WELCOME very curtly after them. Sick of it. Bet if I’d just kept going and not stopped they’d have commented how entitled people with buggies are 🤷🏻‍♀️🤣

Its people of any sex, any age..... it's not restricted to Mums.

I was getting out of my car yesterday when an elderly lady pulled up and asked if I was leaving. I said 'Sorry, no, I've just arrived.' She tutted, pulled a face, and drove off. And no, it wasn't the only space available.

It can throw you sometimes I think, but just try to put the encounter out of your mind and enjoy your day.

I think the OP means that in general, we, as a society, don't want to help, or have manners. It's very true.

what’s happened to people ?

You've given one example.

You don't know how long ago she visited or if she could remember where the entrance was, just like you don't know she wasn't waiting for someone who didn't turn up, or whose train was delayed 🤷‍♂️

If the area and event is as you describe then please don’t assume they were mums.

A lot of them will have been nannies 🤣

(I am a nanny. And a mum)

Although I’ve been ti a lot of these sorts of things and I can’t work out which museum you’re describing. Horniman?

A hurried mum from council estate in hull probably would’ve helped, rich london mums are known for being unpleasant 😂

Yeah that was a really weird reaction from her. I wouldn't dwell on it too much though, there are some weird people out there.