Why some mums are so weird ?

This had nothing to do with being a mum??
Random woman was unhelpful yes nothing to do with being a mum.

This is a chat forum. People can talk about whatever they want, trivial to you or not.
(and yes, I do agree it’s very trivial)

Whenever people behave rude or entitled or ‘weird’ as you say, I always think to myself ‘don’t take it personally’. There are lots of people fighting their own battles, have disabilities or have psychological disorders (like narcissism for example or sociopathy..). Why get upset with these people? It’s quite clear they are not normal. Just shrug it off and move on☺️

Ahhh now we know why this woman wanted nothing to do with you.

Agree with this, I've seen it too. Middle class London parents can be abominably rude.
I don't know whether it's entitlement, meanness, lack of awareness or (perhaps more charitably ) because they are just totally fried due to being mortgaged to the hilt and juggling two busy careers. But this is absolutely A Thing.

So you met an unfriendly person out in public? Has this never happened to you before OP? .

Does sound a bit odd. But maybe just a misunderstanding.

People in general are odd- it's not specific to mums.

There was so many times when I couldn’t fold my DC buggy - people will run to help me or if I stop and ask a random person on the street they always help me always! These weird interactions happen to me only at mums events - sorry mums I’m a mum too

It sounds like you just expect far too much from women who are tired and focusing on their children.
People falling over themselves to fold your buggy? Being this upset because someone didn’t point you to the door? Weird

I think its now becoming clear why this woman didn't want to speak to you

but the question was if she had been to the museum, not if she'd been to the mother and child EVENT before. So she might very well have been to the museum - twenty years ago on a school trip! Doesn't mean she knew where the entrance is now ahead of going in, or where the specific entrance for the mother and baby event was (as most museums have multiple entrances)

Same with the 'nobody joined' - it's not clear if you mean nobody else joined her in raising her hand to say they'd been there before - in which case that doesn't mean she wasn't waiting for someone, just that she was waiting for someone who hadn't been there before - i.e. when she had visited previously she wasn't with the same person she was with today.

Even if you meant 'you could see throughout the rest of the event she wasn't there with anyone', so what, as people have said perhaps her friend didn't turn up, or she meant 'I'm waiting for (my partner to turn up and hand over something I forgot) or (my nanny to come back from the loo and then she'll go on her break and I'll take the kids into the event)' but realised she didn't need to go into full detail to a random stranger whom she (mistakenly!) thought wouldn't care about the minutiae of her life, so just shortened it so you got the key info - she wasn't heading into the event immediately so wasn't of help to you in knowing where to go at that time.

and why on earth would you 'take pride' in reaching something from a shelf for someone? It's basic courtesy, not something to even remember doing 5 minutes later, not rescuing someone from a burning building! If I 'took pride' every time I gave someone directions or let a car in front of me, or held a door for someone, my head would be so big I wouldn't fit through said door!

Maybe she couldn’t hear you or had something else on her mind and didn’t engage brain? Either way not a biggie IMO.

I went to London science museum last year and I was in shock about how rude the middle class looking parents were - jumping ques, and allowing their children to snatch or use my dc backpack as a drum - all the while pretending to not notice me giving them the death stare.

are they all like this?? Or only to certain people/ people who potentially look beneath them ?

🙄

I had a very similar encounter the other day...I was carrying something very heavy over my shoulder and a couple with a baby and a dog came towards me on the pavement so I stopped to let them go by whilst smiling pleasantly....they walk by with the most gormless looks on their faces, I said "you're welcome" in to the mothers ear 😅

I just cannot comprehend people's rudeness and ignorance!!

Wow that escalated quickly! How can you come to this conclusion based on a few words exchanged between you and this mum? What did she say that was racist?

I too would find that behaviour odd. I think we just notice it more when it's from people like us. You expect people in your tribe (in this case mums) to be like you so it's somehow more of a shock when they're not. Is that what you were getting at?

I find you giving this any head space weirder than her behaviour.

Why on earth is something so trivial got you all bothered?

@Nanny1983 I think it's because OP worded her post in a weird way saying mothers are unpleasant when the actual truth is some humans are unpleasant. Most of us are mothers so most of us would feel like that's quite unfair to single out mothers like that.

Turn away then😊