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If you rely on state support , you should have a great quality of life, not the breadline

261 replies

confidenceboost · 07/03/2025 09:50

Aibu? Can we have a healthy chat on this one:

I will set my position out so nobody can say I've drip fed. I would say I have quite socialist mindset to be honest although I have grown up very privileged due to my parents hard work
I am from the uk but moved around as a child coming back to England age 18 for uni

I have been always lucky enough not to need help from the government. I think some people probably do claim help and don't need it but mostly I would say the cases are very genuine

Here's where I don't know if I am different

I think you should be given a high , highest quality of life by the govt if you genuinely for whatever reason need it.
Why should you live on the breadline?
Why should you turn down your heating?
Why should you not get treatment or help that would improve your life ?

Is it degrading to give state benefit as a breadline type lifestyle? I say yes

I think I am not being unreasonable saying that benefits and state support should be increased as it is unfair to resign people to a poor quality of life due to them needing help?

Thank you

OP posts:
Trumptonagain · 07/03/2025 12:08

Reading your other post doesn't your DH help as you're a SAHM?

You say you had a joint income of 130k last year, now you've lost your 24k job but receive a higher amount of PIP so jointly that surely it should still be enough to live on.

You co own 2 properties.

Why haven't you applied for a medical exemption card or at the very least a yearly pre payment one instead of spending £1000 on meds?.

LovingHare · 07/03/2025 12:08

lolly792 · 07/03/2025 12:05

Great. No problem.

Only you now need to ensure EVERYONE in work, from the lowest paid, most menial job upwards gets paid SIGNIFICANTLY more so that they are comparatively better off. Because otherwise, where is the incentive to work?

Not sure how you think this should all be paid for either. Well, presumably from taxes, so you're going to have to pay every worker a MAHOOSIVE gross income to be able to pay enough tax to give everyone on benefits this lifestyle.

I'm guessing economics isn't your strong suit.

Right now, the ultra-rich and corporations play by a different set of rules. They stash wealth offshore, dodge taxes through loopholes, and rake in billions while workers get squeezed. A smarter tax system closing loopholes, implementing a financial transaction tax, and ensuring multinational corporations pay their fair share would generate trillions without crushing ordinary taxpayers.

Idratherbepaddleboarding · 07/03/2025 12:06

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lolly792 · 07/03/2025 12:05

confidenceboost · 07/03/2025 09:50

Aibu? Can we have a healthy chat on this one:

I will set my position out so nobody can say I've drip fed. I would say I have quite socialist mindset to be honest although I have grown up very privileged due to my parents hard work
I am from the uk but moved around as a child coming back to England age 18 for uni

I have been always lucky enough not to need help from the government. I think some people probably do claim help and don't need it but mostly I would say the cases are very genuine

Here's where I don't know if I am different

I think you should be given a high , highest quality of life by the govt if you genuinely for whatever reason need it.
Why should you live on the breadline?
Why should you turn down your heating?
Why should you not get treatment or help that would improve your life ?

Is it degrading to give state benefit as a breadline type lifestyle? I say yes

I think I am not being unreasonable saying that benefits and state support should be increased as it is unfair to resign people to a poor quality of life due to them needing help?

Thank you

Great. No problem.

Only you now need to ensure EVERYONE in work, from the lowest paid, most menial job upwards gets paid SIGNIFICANTLY more so that they are comparatively better off. Because otherwise, where is the incentive to work?

Not sure how you think this should all be paid for either. Well, presumably from taxes, so you're going to have to pay every worker a MAHOOSIVE gross income to be able to pay enough tax to give everyone on benefits this lifestyle.

I'm guessing economics isn't your strong suit.

LovingHare · 07/03/2025 11:56

berksandbeyond · 07/03/2025 11:52

So where's the incentive to better your life if the government provides all the milk and honey?

but at the same time where is all these lovley companies and how much they apricate their workers etc

Whammyyammy · 07/03/2025 11:54

How do you propose the government and those of us that not chose this option pay for it? Taxed to the breadline I suppose. Great system eh

Dodeedoo · 07/03/2025 11:52

Yeh in ideal world everyone would be treated equally. I doubt you would have had the same privileges if all the money and resources were equal.

berksandbeyond · 07/03/2025 11:52

So where's the incentive to better your life if the government provides all the milk and honey?

confidenceboost · 07/03/2025 11:52

Probably 5x rent / mortgage ?

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confidenceboost · 07/03/2025 11:51

@Bleekers
Hard to say to be honest, I know for a fact I couldn't rent a one bedroom flat here where I live and by the way it's deprived here, and also eat?

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Bleekers · 07/03/2025 11:49

confidenceboost · 07/03/2025 10:55

Genuine reasons guys

I cannot believe the amount of responses here

I have become disabled again in the last 3 months

I am agog

I genuinely pray nobody else has the boot on the other foot

So you want to take away dignity and leave sick people on a bread line ans you're ok if this happened to you too?

Where is this breadline?

I help a disabled person manage their finances. They are similar age to you. They are not on any breadline… if there is one.

They live comfortably within their means. They do not use credit cards, don’t have debt. They are safe, healthy, eat appropriate meals most prepared at home and have a good standard of living. It’s all relative. They probably won’t own a home, but they will be housed.
There were a few months when this person first started living away from family when money was stretched (having to buy home items) but that was temporary.

Maybe your parents “had it better” in early 20s…. not sure how you would describe the “standards” of living you expect. Many many just out of education struggle financially.

re:disability Nothing is instant when there needs to be approvals. You probably need to be contacting adult social care or job centre … whining to MN not going to get you money.

Outchy · 07/03/2025 11:49

Porcuporpoise · 07/03/2025 11:42

Very few people are too ill or disabled to work at all for an entire lifetime.

Certain disabilities such as a bad back or depression do seem a one-way ticket to a life on benefits and they shouldn't be - there should be adequate resources within the health service to treat people. I don't know a single person with back problems who hasn't had to pay for private physio/treatment to fully mobilise again and that's a scandal that could be fixed rather than writing people off.

My eldest has severe learning difficulties and needs lifelong 24/7 care. what job do you suppose people with this profile can do? How do you think you can treat severe cognitive impairments cause by genetic disorders? not every condition is treatable.

dawngreen · 07/03/2025 11:48

Look up universal basic income 2 places did a thing on this for a year. I don't have a pension for a start, and I certainly don't get as much as that amount you got. I don't smoke or drink, and don't have a car.

AngelicKaty · 07/03/2025 11:48

Hitherzither · 07/03/2025 10:07

There is no money for this. The welfare bill is rising astronomically. The country cannot afford to have so many unproductive workers.
There is always a poster who suggests airily that 'rich' people and businesses are taxed more highly. if the UK taxes too heavily rich people move elsewhere and businesses move overseas.
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/business/2024/10/27/entrepreneurs-prepare-quit-britain-ahead-budget-tax-raid/
THE UK is so much more generous than the USA in terms of maternity benefits, sick leave and unemployment benefits.
With Trump and Republicans in power our bill for Defence is going to rise significantly. There are so many calls on the public purse. Some LA's fear bankruptcy because of the huge and steadily increasing welfare costs. Schools are struggling for money. The NHS is struggling for money.
Labour hopes to improve conditions for working people. Even Labour has had to do an about turn on welfare bills.
Things are going to get much tougher. There is less and less money available for really worthy areas. Education and the NHS being significant needs

"if the UK taxes too heavily rich people move elsewhere and businesses move overseas." Sorry, but that's a tired old excuse (and inaccurate too) that only applies to a small number of greedy, irresponsible people.
According to recent data, the median pay for a FTSE 100 CEO in the UK is around 120 times higher than the median salary of a full-time worker, with the median CEO pay standing at approximately £4.19m pa compared to the median worker's salary of around £34,963pa (in 2000 UK CEOs pay was approximately 60 times the median worker's, so this pay differential has doubled to a chasm in the last 25 years). Sadly, the majority of UK and US senior leaders are greedy - they never have enough and just want more and more (although we do have some wealthy people in both countries who recognise their responsibilities to their homelands: https://patrioticmillionaires.uk/ and actively campaign to be taxed more).
Interestingly, the CEOs of 50 Swedish major companies have an annual income, including capital gains, that's just 71 times higher than the average industrial worker's salary - and yet they're not all flocking to the UK and US to almost double their incomes.

Patriotic Millionaires UK

https://patrioticmillionaires.uk

LovingHare · 07/03/2025 11:47

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 07/03/2025 11:40

I am paying for other people to have their heating on when I am sat here working 45 hours a week in a house I can't afford to heat.

Tell me how that makes sense?

but then to flip that why is it acceptable for companies to pay as little as possible then make so much profits of those very same workers ? lets not forget all the outsourcing some companies use, etc

JoyDreamer86 · 07/03/2025 11:47

confidenceboost · 07/03/2025 11:44

Is that true???

I worked for 1674 a month after tax and pension??? I said how the hell can anyone single survive on that?

Plenty of working people do

LovingHare · 07/03/2025 11:45

Nodddy · 07/03/2025 10:58

It would be great if everyone could have this. Robots could do all the work and humans life happy carefree lives full of sport, family, friends and museum trips.

In the absence of such a utopia, or a revolution, we probably can't afford it just yet. Maybe next year, if not, definitely the year after.

but thats where society is heading at some point there will be a robot economy, and as proven companies dont want to pay what they do so then how can people as a whole survive if even companies dont want to pay

Mrsttcno1 · 07/03/2025 11:45

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 07/03/2025 11:40

I am paying for other people to have their heating on when I am sat here working 45 hours a week in a house I can't afford to heat.

Tell me how that makes sense?

This is the crux of this issue for me.

I do genuinely think everybody should have enough to be comfortable, nobody should be worrying about the heating, food on the table, replacing their clothes & shoes, being able to pay for petrol/public transport- I do agree with that.

BUT, there isn’t a magic money tree. Do I think that people who are working full time, lots of whom are already struggling to make ends meet themselves, should be paying even MORE in tax to fund more extensive benefits for those not working? Honestly, no.

I know lots of families who are earning two wages and still can’t leave the heating on stress free, save money or go on holiday so no I don’t think those not working should have those at the further expense of those working.

confidenceboost · 07/03/2025 11:44

dawngreen · 07/03/2025 11:40

Put everyone on Universal Basic Wage of 1600 a month - result you don't have to work, you can sleep in, binge watch Netflix, enjoy the luxury life style. While eating that takeaway.

Is that true???

I worked for 1674 a month after tax and pension??? I said how the hell can anyone single survive on that?

OP posts:
confidenceboost · 07/03/2025 11:43

tallhotpinkflamingo · 07/03/2025 11:36

It's all about priorities - lots of people choose to use their money for smoking or alcohol or takeaways or iPhones instead of heating. That's up to them.

Personally I think if you nationalise energy companies and develop more green sources you can include heating and electricity in social housing contracts by default, maybe taking a bit off the cash money you give people. However that does cause whataboutism.

Edited

I used to think like this until I sent my eldest to school, I have two at school now in primary
And the deprivation was eye opening to me
I mean this is going off kilter but again if an adult made those shit decisions why should a child suffer eg never go on holiday , be cold at home etc

I think there's definitely feckless people but genuinely most what I see is all of us working dog hard or very sick and most of us are not rich, most of us make compromises daily. I hear all this,
I think I've made a mistake describing it as highest quality
What I meant was one like a home with employed residents , not like a celebrity or anything wild

It's a shame the few bad ruin for the rest isn't it that this is our mindset because sadly the govt are not undertaking due dilligence with their applicants because you can't lick this off the stones peoples negative reception of this is because they have seen themselves piss taking by lazy people

I've also dropped food to my friend who has a stoma and can't work now, because she couldn't get uniform and food in September

All the best

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Porcuporpoise · 07/03/2025 11:42

Outchy · 07/03/2025 11:32

You realise that some people are genuinely too ill or disabled to work. Do they not deserve a decent quality of life? You realise you are just one accident or stroke away from not being able to work, do you???

Very few people are too ill or disabled to work at all for an entire lifetime.

Certain disabilities such as a bad back or depression do seem a one-way ticket to a life on benefits and they shouldn't be - there should be adequate resources within the health service to treat people. I don't know a single person with back problems who hasn't had to pay for private physio/treatment to fully mobilise again and that's a scandal that could be fixed rather than writing people off.

dawngreen · 07/03/2025 11:40

Put everyone on Universal Basic Wage of 1600 a month - result you don't have to work, you can sleep in, binge watch Netflix, enjoy the luxury life style. While eating that takeaway.

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 07/03/2025 11:40

I am paying for other people to have their heating on when I am sat here working 45 hours a week in a house I can't afford to heat.

Tell me how that makes sense?

snowmichael · 07/03/2025 11:40

confidenceboost · 07/03/2025 09:50

Aibu? Can we have a healthy chat on this one:

I will set my position out so nobody can say I've drip fed. I would say I have quite socialist mindset to be honest although I have grown up very privileged due to my parents hard work
I am from the uk but moved around as a child coming back to England age 18 for uni

I have been always lucky enough not to need help from the government. I think some people probably do claim help and don't need it but mostly I would say the cases are very genuine

Here's where I don't know if I am different

I think you should be given a high , highest quality of life by the govt if you genuinely for whatever reason need it.
Why should you live on the breadline?
Why should you turn down your heating?
Why should you not get treatment or help that would improve your life ?

Is it degrading to give state benefit as a breadline type lifestyle? I say yes

I think I am not being unreasonable saying that benefits and state support should be increased as it is unfair to resign people to a poor quality of life due to them needing help?

Thank you

YABU
A reasonable quality of life, no one should argue with that
But it depends on what state support and why
JSA is very different from PIP and ESA
Why should someone looking for work (JSA) be given enough money for holidays and luxuries taken from people who work and ofttimes can't afford those themselves?

Heronwatcher · 07/03/2025 11:39

Sorry but YABU. In general terms state benefits should be seen as a safety net to
ensure that the basics are catered for. Not a route to aspirational living. There’s got to be an incentive for people to want to improve their own situation even if doing so is difficult.

There’s also got to be an expectation that you have a responsibility to manage your own affairs. Don’t have another 4 kids if you can’t afford the first 2. Work evenings and weekends if necessary. If you want a stable roof over your head and a nice place to live the reality is you have to work out early on how to afford it. I see so many people with health issues but who are not addressing them and instead seem determined not to work and it’s not doing them or any of us any favours just to accept this.

I would make a clear exception for disabled people who are genuinely unable to work but I would expect there to be a high bar to be able to claim enhanced disability benefits. There are very few people who cannot do some form of work with appropriate support. Quality of life is also about much more than a large wedge of cash being handed out too.

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