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If you rely on state support , you should have a great quality of life, not the breadline

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confidenceboost · 07/03/2025 09:50

Aibu? Can we have a healthy chat on this one:

I will set my position out so nobody can say I've drip fed. I would say I have quite socialist mindset to be honest although I have grown up very privileged due to my parents hard work
I am from the uk but moved around as a child coming back to England age 18 for uni

I have been always lucky enough not to need help from the government. I think some people probably do claim help and don't need it but mostly I would say the cases are very genuine

Here's where I don't know if I am different

I think you should be given a high , highest quality of life by the govt if you genuinely for whatever reason need it.
Why should you live on the breadline?
Why should you turn down your heating?
Why should you not get treatment or help that would improve your life ?

Is it degrading to give state benefit as a breadline type lifestyle? I say yes

I think I am not being unreasonable saying that benefits and state support should be increased as it is unfair to resign people to a poor quality of life due to them needing help?

Thank you

OP posts:
TiredCatLady · 07/03/2025 13:19

@MrsSkylerWhite OP is not making a whole lot of sense.

Julen7 · 07/03/2025 13:14

Pleatherandlace · 07/03/2025 10:43

But “the government” doesn’t pay for benefits , WE the taxpayers do and I don’t want to. I work hard to provide for my family why should my standard of living decrease due to a higher tax burden so that people who don’t work benefit?

So many people seem to think their benefit money comes from….well I dunno where from really. The magic money tree? Fortunately the gravy train is hopefully about to stop.

Onlyonekenobe · 07/03/2025 12:57

Are you basically saying you want the taxpayer to fund you to the extent/lifestyle you managed before you became disabled? Like a benefits equivalent of a final salary pension?

If so, then no. That's not equitable or practical or affordable or moral.

thepariscrimefiles · 07/03/2025 12:57

confidenceboost · 07/03/2025 11:30

@LivingLaVidaBabyShower

I haven't responded to anyone directly

I said the wages and living wages is a separate argument

You do need to connect the two for full pictures but actually separate them
That's like saying people in a care home are the reason you can't get a gp appointment
.. not quite

So I propose the money is taken at the top
I also think the govt seriously need to work on procurement
I would like to see their negotiation on meds and all nhs contracts it looks like the government are bleeding money everywhere

I also propose that tax is lowered to sort of 7% and then provided you pay into heath insurance gym or something more meaningful then a tax bill or stealth council tax you could get a rebate from govt

Then the people who most need it get proper support and we get most people working who can that are not at the moment

I think there's a huge problem in job market

I hated my boss for sending me out in my Tesla with my nice clothes on (btw my kids wear clothes off fb on principle ) I was actually paid like £60 a day and forced to drive hundred of miles I am a people pleaser and it was a disgusting cycle of stress

I hate that you need money to save money too
Hate it that I have no petrol bill but others do who would seriously seriously benefit from an ev

Also you know I lived in Switzerland so low tax does work

You've jumped the shark now! How on earth would unemployed and disabled people be able to have a fairly affluent life on benefits if the standard rate of income tax was cut to 7%? There would be no money for benefits, education, the NHS, defence, foreign aid, policing etc.

You have obviously come from a very privileged and wealthy background with little knowledge of how governments work and how other people live. The things you are proposing would sound too juvenile in a 6th form debate.

AngelicKaty · 07/03/2025 12:56

Mademetoxic · 07/03/2025 11:10

Stop slagging off people who pay for you to live your lifestyle.

OP wrote in her opening post: "I have been always lucky enough not to need help from the government." Did you miss this?

Covertcollie · 07/03/2025 12:54

Bjorkdidit · 07/03/2025 10:04

Most working people on decent incomes either can't afford or can't access what you are proposing.

It's unaffordable and impractical. The Nordic countries are probably closest but they have small populations, generally oil wealth (Norway) or geothermal (Iceland), and high taxation levels plus a completely different mindset re personal responsibility and sense of community.

Sweden has an interesting unemployment benefit system. You work and you can choose whether to pay into a state run redundancy insurance fund. Most people do. If you are made redundant you get 80% of your previous wage for 2 years. After that nothing. We need more of these sorts of benefits to reward those who are keen to work but are struggling finding any.

friendlycat · 07/03/2025 12:49

confidenceboost · 07/03/2025 11:52

Probably 5x rent / mortgage ?

Are you seriously suggesting that the state should pay x 5 rent or mortgage ?
This is seriously deluded.

I run my own company and have done for 36 years with all the stress that involves. There have been times that my salary has been x 5 times my mortgage and others when it most definitely has not.

Grannywasafanny · 07/03/2025 12:42

Beekeepingmum · 07/03/2025 11:35

Absolutely not. Replying on the state should only be seen as a safety net. It should be the bare minimum to survive. If you want a better life contribute more to society.

How does a severely disabled person do this pray tell?

HeyThereDelila · 07/03/2025 12:41

And who pays for it?

As a privileged person, you’re not seeing this from the perspective of your average working class person. They and their partner might earn £15k or £20k each, go to work, do all the right things but be really struggling.

Why should someone who doesn’t work take home more than their salary in benefits?

As a better off worker, my DH and I get little state help or childcare assistance - but we pay a shed load of tax. We have to stop at two children because it’s all we can afford. Why should we pay for others who are less responsible to have 4,5 or more children?

The tax take is going down as more people go on benefits and more millionaires leave the country. Our economy is tanking.

Who pays?

thepariscrimefiles · 07/03/2025 12:39

confidenceboost · 07/03/2025 10:55

Genuine reasons guys

I cannot believe the amount of responses here

I have become disabled again in the last 3 months

I am agog

I genuinely pray nobody else has the boot on the other foot

So you want to take away dignity and leave sick people on a bread line ans you're ok if this happened to you too?

The only way to make this happen would be to raise taxes massively and the UK electorate will never vote for a political party that puts significant tax rises for the majority of working people in their manifesto.

Benefits for people with disabilities and health conditions are much more generous than those for people without any health conditions. The basic rate for a single person on UC is very low and doesn't provide any quality of life at all.

Ensuring that wages are higher than most benefits is what most governments do to ensure that there is always an incentive to work rather than claim benefits. Governments want as many tax payers as possible.

Bleekers · 07/03/2025 12:32

confidenceboost · 07/03/2025 11:51

@Bleekers
Hard to say to be honest, I know for a fact I couldn't rent a one bedroom flat here where I live and by the way it's deprived here, and also eat?

something not adding up for me, maybe about your level of need or ability to work. Not an expert, but do see the details for person I provide support.

Sure, my person might “want” different things… but they can only get what they can get.
maybe you also need someone to help you with your finances. Talk to citizens advice for a referral

MrsSkylerWhite · 07/03/2025 12:32

Trumptonagain · Today 12:08
Reading your other post doesn't your DH help as you're a SAHM?
You say you had a joint income of 130k last year, now you've lost your 24k job but receive a higher amount of PIP so jointly that surely it should still be enough to live on.
You co own 2 properties.
Why haven't you applied for a medical exemption card or at the very least a yearly pre payment one instead of spending £1000 on meds?

So, assuming your husband is still in work, you have an income of £106K and own 2 properties?
What are you actually complaining about?

medianewbie · 07/03/2025 12:29

Maverickess · 07/03/2025 10:03

I agree in principle, however I work 45 hours a week and live that sort of 'breadline' lifestyle too.

Why should you live on the breadline?
Why should you turn down your heating?
Why should you not get treatment or help that would improve your life ?

All those things apply to me too. I can't afford the dental treatment I need, I had to go into debt to get a tooth removed that was causing pain and infection and I've got other issues brewing but I need to pay that off first.

I think people forget that it's not just people on benefits that live on the breadline. I've no issue with people who need benefits getting them and having a decent standard of living, but everyone should have that too.

100% agree.
The problem is not the 'benefits scroungers' (theme started by the Tories, whipped up by the media and about to be given a boost by Labour).

The problem is that most people's standard of living is too low.
My household is currently supported 100% by benefits. I get Carers allowance for my disabled son. It is £81 p/w. I got a letter this moring that it is going up to £83 p/w. He has been in heart failure and I have struggled to afford the heating.
There are other people who are able to work and do, who work hard for long hours and who also struggle to afford the heating/ bus fare/ healthy food etc.

The answer is that we all petition Govt re the things that hold us back. Why does Apple pay no taxes? Why do water Co's reap huge profits whilst charging ever more (& poisoning our rivers into the bargain) etc etc. I am not saying I have all the answers. As a country, we do not have enough money, especially now we need to increase our military. However, what we do have is not shared out well.

I predict this will turn into a benefits-bashing thread.
If anyone would like our 'free' Blue Badge (my council charges for anyway), they are welcome to the lifelong disability that 'earns' it.

blackheartsgirl · 07/03/2025 12:29

On the whole no.

im all for people on benefits (disability benefits are another matter) having enough to cover their rent, council tax, food, utility bills and maybe enough for little day to day expenses we all incur like being able to replace a washing machine etc BUT so should those who are working and single working people without dependents are shafted time and again.

Ive been on benefits myself and it’s not the picnic people think it is but neither is working full time in a minimum wage job trying to survive and getting no help. It’s unfair

Im struggling to work full time due to increasing health problems and I know that I’m not going to survive due to the unfair changes to benefits and PIP. I’m seriously considering getting all my ducks in a row just so I’m not a burden to my family and society

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 07/03/2025 12:27

I think the whole system needs reworking from birth upwards from a health perspective.

The vast majority of individuals who are healthy in body and mind want to do some kind of work. If we set about creating a populace that was mentally and physically healthy from birth, the vast majority would become productive citizens who could support the rest, and who didn't need expensive medical interventions throughout their lives.

Including concepts such as 15m cities, regulations on working time to allow time for exercise, ban on UPFs and healthy food available at a decent price.

It's not going to happen, but then neither is OP's solution, which is targeting the effect, not the cause.

Trumptonagain · 07/03/2025 12:27

confidenceboost · 07/03/2025 12:24

Private meds I said

Thanks

So now you've been classed as disabled and claiming PIP visit your GP and ask for the meds to be given via their practice.

Catza · 07/03/2025 12:26

confidenceboost · 07/03/2025 11:52

Probably 5x rent / mortgage ?

So my mortgage is 1200 which means I should be able to receive 6k of state support. Tax free.
I currently earn 48,5k which amounts to about 36k after tax, pension and student loan. Please explain to me why would I not give up my job and get 100% payrise from the state instead?

LovingHare · 07/03/2025 12:26

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 07/03/2025 12:24

I totally agree. I do not understand 'in work benefits' surely this is tax payers topping up wages that companies should be paying?

exactly

confidenceboost · 07/03/2025 12:24

Trumptonagain · 07/03/2025 12:08

Reading your other post doesn't your DH help as you're a SAHM?

You say you had a joint income of 130k last year, now you've lost your 24k job but receive a higher amount of PIP so jointly that surely it should still be enough to live on.

You co own 2 properties.

Why haven't you applied for a medical exemption card or at the very least a yearly pre payment one instead of spending £1000 on meds?.

Private meds I said

Thanks

OP posts:
eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 07/03/2025 12:24

LovingHare · 07/03/2025 11:47

but then to flip that why is it acceptable for companies to pay as little as possible then make so much profits of those very same workers ? lets not forget all the outsourcing some companies use, etc

Edited

I totally agree. I do not understand 'in work benefits' surely this is tax payers topping up wages that companies should be paying?

AngelicKaty · 07/03/2025 12:22

@confidenceboost Oh dear OP, I assumed you were new to MN when you started a thread about welfare support saying "Can we have a healthy chat"?Threads about benefits always reveal the same thing - people will always punch down rather than up - and that's exactly what the wealthy 1% want us to do. Because when we 99% are pointing our fingers at each other, we aren't pointing our fingers at the 1% (who must really chuckle at our stupidity). I mean, how is it that 40% of people in receipt of Universal Credit are also working? Why aren't UK companies required to pay their workers a liveable wage? Why are all tax-payers subsidising some workers wages because they're so low? How is it that the average UK CEO earns 120 times more than the average worker, when in 2000 it was "just" 60 times? Why are we allowing the rich to get richer when so many people can't even afford to turn on their heating? It's astonishing when you think about it, but we all just put up with it. (We need a revolution, but the British just aren't like that.)
I'm sorry your health has taken a serious downturn and your experience reminds me of some people I've met on a number of occasions. I volunteered for Citizens Advice for 10 years and people, like yourself, would seek advice on their benefit entitlements following their change of circumstance only to be astounded at how little they would get (the "but how can I live on that?!" refrain was frequent). Sadly, they'd all fallen for the Daily Fail lie that benefit "scroungers" are living high on the hog - and it wasn't much fun disavowing them of this belief.

friendlycat · 07/03/2025 12:18

Trumptonagain · 07/03/2025 12:08

Reading your other post doesn't your DH help as you're a SAHM?

You say you had a joint income of 130k last year, now you've lost your 24k job but receive a higher amount of PIP so jointly that surely it should still be enough to live on.

You co own 2 properties.

Why haven't you applied for a medical exemption card or at the very least a yearly pre payment one instead of spending £1000 on meds?.

I have to agree.

vivainsomnia · 07/03/2025 12:17

OP, it doesn't sound like you are a good advocate of people who genuinely struggle living on benefits. Instead, you come across as someone used to a very nice lifestyle and struggling to accept that you gave to lower your standards somehow, although remaining above the average.

The luxury given to people who earn well is insurance. If you want to ensure you keep a good standard of living in case of health issues, you take out insurance when you can afford it. Those who can do so are very fortunate.

The only people who can't work are people suffering from some disabilities that genuinely mean work is totally impossible temporarily or ongoingly, or those with children who need 24 hours care.

Not those with disabilities that make working harder, but not impossible, or who have children with disabilities who are in school or care for 6 hours a day. Of course it makes the management of day to day harder, and you are more limited in terms of the jobs you can do, but that doesn't mean it is impossible and not worth trying.

Porcuporpoise · 07/03/2025 12:12

Outchy · 07/03/2025 11:49

My eldest has severe learning difficulties and needs lifelong 24/7 care. what job do you suppose people with this profile can do? How do you think you can treat severe cognitive impairments cause by genetic disorders? not every condition is treatable.

Of course not. But then number of people that can't ever work at all are a tiny fraction of those on benefits so are kind of incidental to the argument of what is, or isn't affordable.

Whammyyammy · 07/03/2025 12:08

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And as more people quit work and take up this all expenses paid lifetime holiday, the taxation on the ones that can be bothered to work will continue to rise.
Well end up with 100% of the population sat on their backsides.

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