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If you rely on state support , you should have a great quality of life, not the breadline

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confidenceboost · 07/03/2025 09:50

Aibu? Can we have a healthy chat on this one:

I will set my position out so nobody can say I've drip fed. I would say I have quite socialist mindset to be honest although I have grown up very privileged due to my parents hard work
I am from the uk but moved around as a child coming back to England age 18 for uni

I have been always lucky enough not to need help from the government. I think some people probably do claim help and don't need it but mostly I would say the cases are very genuine

Here's where I don't know if I am different

I think you should be given a high , highest quality of life by the govt if you genuinely for whatever reason need it.
Why should you live on the breadline?
Why should you turn down your heating?
Why should you not get treatment or help that would improve your life ?

Is it degrading to give state benefit as a breadline type lifestyle? I say yes

I think I am not being unreasonable saying that benefits and state support should be increased as it is unfair to resign people to a poor quality of life due to them needing help?

Thank you

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LBFseBrom · 10/03/2025 13:06

Beekeepingmum · 10/03/2025 09:26

We just can't afford to have this level of benefits paid out as country. It needs to be cut. Just like everything nobody wants to be the one who is impacted. The government need to be strong and push it through.

I am inclined to agree as long as truly vulnerable people, eg chronic sick/disabled, children and those with very little income are not impacted. I'm a pensioner, not on any benefit (apart from my state pension which we all get), so am OK but am happy for my bit of tax to contribute to the welfare of those who need it. Who knows, I might need it one day.

It has to be very carefully done and the government cannot win, whatever they decide.

Badbadbunny · 10/03/2025 11:00

Beekeepingmum · 10/03/2025 09:26

We just can't afford to have this level of benefits paid out as country. It needs to be cut. Just like everything nobody wants to be the one who is impacted. The government need to be strong and push it through.

They won't though. It'll all end up watered down and be little more use than deckchair re-arranging on the Titanic. They don't have the balls to make any major changes (and probably don't have the competence either). We're just in a downhill spiral and have been for a few decades due to the politicians and senior civil servants being utterly inept. The longer we carry on, the worse it will become and the more extreme the answer when someone finally has the balls to tackle it. Whether it's immigration, the NHS, the care system, disability benefits, unemployment, general lawlessness, pensions, the economy etc - it's all one big downward spiral.

Beekeepingmum · 10/03/2025 09:26

We just can't afford to have this level of benefits paid out as country. It needs to be cut. Just like everything nobody wants to be the one who is impacted. The government need to be strong and push it through.

dawngreen · 08/03/2025 22:46

There is a scheme to spend 140 million on housing for the homeless in the uk. It says they are being moved from another area. Forgot where I saw the article though.

Hankunamatata · 08/03/2025 08:50

I think your being overly simplistic

Should society take care of our vulnerable members like disabled and their carers if they cannot work - yes. All their basic needs should be met like decent housing, heating and having enough to eat and a bit more

Unemployment should be viewed as temporary if a person is able to work. Unemployment benefits should be a stop gap.

I'm think rent control should be brought to allow affordable renting. Meet one basic need such as affordable housing then work up from there

lolly792 · 08/03/2025 08:46

@Whatafustercluck they've paid into those private pension schemes too. And probably won't bother paying in as much if they're going to be penalised by having the state pension deducted because of it!

I've spent years paying in upwards of £350 a month NI plus another few hundred a month into a private pension. Why bother if it works against me to try to be responsible and make private provision as well as the state provision?

Whatafustercluck · 08/03/2025 07:46

The thing i am taking from this thread is that those in receipt of pensions don't view the state pension as a benefit (even if they're drawing on it but are actually relatively wealthy via private pension schemes). Presumably they never had a problem paying nic for pensions because they knew they would one day benefit from it. But they do have a problem paying taxes for something they believe (hope) they will never need. Imagine the uproar though if, like most other UK benefits, the government decided to means test state pension.... and savings were classed as 'income'.

ParrotParty · 07/03/2025 19:49

sashh · 07/03/2025 10:21

OK this one pisses me off.

I had to stop working due to ill health. Because I did the 'right thing' and paid in to a workplace pension I was able to get an ill health pension.

UC takes of £1 for every £1 I get in my pension.

You might think that is fair enough, but if I was able to work and earn the same amount they would only take 50%.

A pension isn't contributing to society in any way though. You will be better off longer term too as UC stops at state pension age.

XenoBitch · 07/03/2025 19:38

I don't believe anyone on benefits has a great quality of life. A single person with no kids, who is out of work, gets £100 to pay for everything.... but hopefully their situation is only temporary as this will be people who are looking for work. Although, people in the LCW group also get the same, and they are not fit for work right now but might be in the future. I know some people who have been in this group for years, and I have no idea how they manage to live on the amount they get.
People on the higher amount of benefits tend to be sick/disabled, or have disabled kids, and I do think benefits for them should be enough for the basics and extra on top.

XenoBitch · 07/03/2025 19:32

Commonsense22 · 07/03/2025 14:35

I hate that benefits in the UK are reserved for people with no savings. It's the biggest slap in the face for those who work and save then can't for a period of time. Unemployment benefits should not be dependent on your savings.

That said I think the general quiet perception / belief in the UK is that people are overly self-indulgent and for every benefit claimant with no other option there are 3 who are faking / exaggerating. I'll put my neck on the line and admit I think the amount of benefit fraud is severely underplayed on mumsnet. It's actually endemic.
Financially the current system is unsustainable much less improvable...

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Neither contributions based ESA or new style job seekers are means tested, so you can have savings and they are not affected. They are for people who have paid NI for the previous 2 years. They are time limited though.

UC though, is means tested, and tapers down when you have £6k to stopping altogether at £16k. If you have over £16k, then you don't need benefits. They are a safety net, and not there to protect money you have stashed away.

Sparklebelle1024 · 07/03/2025 19:26

The way benefits is viewed needs to change, I do rely on UC top up as a single parent to two disabled children (zero input from their father in time or money) I do work part time because between their needs and hospital stays etc that’s all I can manage. I feel so so judged because I’m on benefits- everyone seems to think because you’re receiving help you “don’t want to work” and are lazy. When for SOME of us it’s genuinely not the case! My children will likely never work and need me to care for them for life, who’s also going to look after them when I die? We shouldn’t be living on the breadline because of these circumstances? And a MP can claim £50 for BREAKFAST? It’s so wrong in this country
yes people DO take the P but not all of us do and the minute benefits are mentioned people get their backs up because they believe the stereotype. In reality I’m a knackered single parent doing everything I can to better our life, and now with UC I can’t even save for nice things because they can have access to bank accounts and reduce my UC because I’ve saved x amount for a once in a lifetime trip for example which my kids do deserve? Why are they less deserving because we get government help? When I DO work?? It’s all wrong

Badbadbunny · 07/03/2025 19:15

LovingHare · 07/03/2025 12:08

Right now, the ultra-rich and corporations play by a different set of rules. They stash wealth offshore, dodge taxes through loopholes, and rake in billions while workers get squeezed. A smarter tax system closing loopholes, implementing a financial transaction tax, and ensuring multinational corporations pay their fair share would generate trillions without crushing ordinary taxpayers.

How are you actually going to achieve that?? How are you going to change the tax/accounting laws of other countries over which we have no control. Putting more taxes in the UK would mean firms would just move abroad, the London Stock Exchange would collapse as the firms listed on it (and all the hedge funds, pensions, etc based on it) would just move en-bloc somewhere else where taxes etc were lower. We're not China nor North Korea - rich people and international firms are free to set up and move to whatever country they want to move to and pay the tax rates in that country.

It's why lots of international firms set up their European head quarters in Ireland. It's why a lot of trust funds and businesses etc are based in the Isle of Man.

Come back to us when you find a workable way of getting the entire Western World to agree on the same tax rules/rates!

It's exactly why we've had a movement over from direct taxes (income tax, corporation tax) over to indirect taxes (VAT, employers NIC, fuel duty, alcohol duty, air duty, insurance duty, etc), over the past 30 years as they're harder to avoid as they're "local" taxes, i.e. paid on sales in the country the sales are made and paid by employers in the country where their workers are based.

We already have transfer pricing laws/treaties between lots of different countries in an attempt to get huge international firms to pay a fair share of tax on profits in each country where they trade, but it's a long protracted job and it's been ongoing for decades.

Covertcollie · 07/03/2025 19:01

LovingHare · 07/03/2025 12:08

Right now, the ultra-rich and corporations play by a different set of rules. They stash wealth offshore, dodge taxes through loopholes, and rake in billions while workers get squeezed. A smarter tax system closing loopholes, implementing a financial transaction tax, and ensuring multinational corporations pay their fair share would generate trillions without crushing ordinary taxpayers.

You don’t seem to know much about finance. Just think about how much tax financial services bring to the exchequer every year. And just think how quickly that will evaporate should we bring in a financial transaction tax. I’d give it a fortnight. Jeez. Of all of the woefully naive comments I’ve heard on these boards….

Try learning about how we tax and spend in this country. Try looking at the IFS, or even better read their Directors Paul Johnson’s best selling and much lauded book on this ‘Follow the Money. We all want better public services, but it’s you and me and all the other average joes in this country that aren’t paying nearly enough income tax. We want Western European public services while paying US income tax levels and it will never add up.

Skippydoodle · 07/03/2025 18:48

confidenceboost · 07/03/2025 10:57

To clarify highest quality means

Warm , properly nourished, housed, car or access to appointments , clothes etc not just hand me downs

And yes I agree that the whole system needs a fucking huge overhaul

Having been paid below min wage and I have a huge bee in my bonnet about this

So why should you suffer if you're in genuine need??

Lots of people on benefits who are lazy but most not and genuine I would say

And yes wages need overhaul

I have always had a full time job, not min wage but not megabucks, husband same. Our child wore hand me downs, and second hand bundles from eBay. Benefits should only cater for basic needs as a safety net and no more than that. No one should starve, but luxuries ARE a privilege not a given. Period.

ItalianWays · 07/03/2025 18:40

Am I missing something?

Why would anyone bother to work if State paid them to have a great quality of life while doing nothing?

If noone bothered to work, who would pay for all these fantastic lifestyles?

Badbadbunny · 07/03/2025 18:34

Mrsttcno1 · 07/03/2025 16:20

If you genuinely can’t see a difference there then I don’t think anything I can say will make you see it!

Furlough was to protect jobs and to prevent a huge rise in unemployment during an unprecedented time- it was also for a short period of time, not someone’s entire life, and it kept businesses afloat which again- prevented huge unemployment.

You get your state pension because you’ve paid the NI contributions for it.

You still get state pension if you've never paid a penny in NIC but have accumulated enough "credits" by virtue of wages under the threshold, caring, unemployment, etc. So you really don't have to have "paid in" to get them, hence why it's just a benefit. Likewise you now get the same state pension whether you've paid £50 NIC per year or £5,000 per year. Even government official figures include it as a state benefit.

PandoraSox · 07/03/2025 18:32

Bleekers · 07/03/2025 18:21

It’s a generous use of entitlement? OP complaining about shabby degraded lives. Having access to a new car every 3 years is not breadline. Maintenance, insurance all sorted. It’s not a degradation.

My point is, OP has no idea.

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Why did you edit your response from "Duh"?

PandoraSox · 07/03/2025 18:25

Bleekers · 07/03/2025 18:21

It’s a generous use of entitlement? OP complaining about shabby degraded lives. Having access to a new car every 3 years is not breadline. Maintenance, insurance all sorted. It’s not a degradation.

My point is, OP has no idea.

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Sorry, what does "duh" mean? Why so rude?

PinkiOcelot · 07/03/2025 18:22

Same should be said for people who go out to work and slog their guts.

Bleekers · 07/03/2025 18:21

PandoraSox · 07/03/2025 17:51

They have a motability car (not a Tesla). A view could be they get a generous amount. The car is a very generous benefit

The motability car is not an extra "benefit". It is leased by paying the mobility component of PIP to motability. The car is never owned by the disabled person.

It’s a generous use of entitlement? OP complaining about shabby degraded lives. Having access to a new car every 3 years is not breadline. Maintenance, insurance all sorted. It’s not a degradation.

My point is, OP has no idea.

TonTonMacoute · 07/03/2025 18:19

confidenceboost · 07/03/2025 15:39

I'm a bit of a geek so the stats thing I like it

Yes median but fuck I want to know the modal salary here where I live because I can assure you I was writing white label reports on social housing and local government and negotiating on deals for 15mil yet my boss some how paid me below min wage with lies about bonuses and commissions, I was on 22k pushed him to 24 and he was horrid about it

The salary I was offered was 32k in another role but that still is not the median that you refer to. Do you see how hard it is for people I just feel despair for them as there's high earners who throw this severely

How about these stats, which I read this morning?

Adjusted for inflation, in 2010 Britain spent £13 billion managing a group of 120,000 troubled families, or almost £110,000 per household. That same year one single family ... was consuming the total tax contributions – income tax, national insurance, VAT, the lot – of eight average households in housing benefits alone.
...
If you work in London and can’t afford the rent, you move further out. But if you’re workless, you might end up with the state paying for your home: almost 60 per cent of the capital’s social rented households have no adults in work. Their presence in the capital blocks up homes that could otherwise house productive workers
...
This system, however, is running out of room. After accounting for all the services they receive, the top 20 per cent of households are £32,000 out of pocket each year. The next 20 per cent, almost £6,000.

I cannot see where these stats come from, not one specific report, but this situation is not sustainable forever.

Idratherbepaddleboarding · 07/03/2025 18:01

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Eastie77Returns · 07/03/2025 17:52

Regretsmorethanafew · 07/03/2025 14:25

I don't think you understand the Nordic benefits system, for a start.

Feel free to explain it all to me. Are you from one the countries I mentioned? I lived in the region but I’m sure you understand it all so much better than I do.

PandoraSox · 07/03/2025 17:51

Bleekers · 07/03/2025 17:31

I mentioned earlier, I support a disabled person with some financial admin. I am not paid to do this. This person is not “breadline” - so I think OP doesn’t really live this. In fact - her “emotive” breadline word is ridiculous in this context.

The person I know is not humiliated, or any other the words OP used in her rant to say the “system” is degrading. This person gets what they need, there is enough financial support. They have a motability car (not a Tesla). A view could be they get a generous amount. The car is a very generous benefit.

Will this person’s entitlement be cut back, or grow more slowly? Possibly, they will be ok if the cut is small. Everyone is feels the austerity … let’s just see what actually happens before we lose the plot on MN.

They have a motability car (not a Tesla). A view could be they get a generous amount. The car is a very generous benefit

The motability car is not an extra "benefit". It is leased by paying the mobility component of PIP to motability. The car is never owned by the disabled person.

Bleekers · 07/03/2025 17:31

JohnTheRevelator · 07/03/2025 17:15

I agree that 'work should pay',i.e. you should be better off working than claiming benefits. But if the disability/sickness benefits cuts are going to be as bad as threatened later this month, people on these benefits will really be struggling. Punish people for being sick or disabled. What a great idea.

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I mentioned earlier, I support a disabled person with some financial admin. I am not paid to do this. This person is not “breadline” - so I think OP doesn’t really live this. In fact - her “emotive” breadline word is ridiculous in this context.

The person I know is not humiliated, or any other the words OP used in her rant to say the “system” is degrading. This person gets what they need, there is enough financial support. They have a motability car (not a Tesla). A view could be they get a generous amount. The car is a very generous benefit.

Will this person’s entitlement be cut back, or grow more slowly? Possibly, they will be ok if the cut is small. Everyone is feels the austerity … let’s just see what actually happens before we lose the plot on MN.