Time to call out shit parenting!

It seems mad that brushing your kids teeth isn't seen as an absolute basic anymore.

I know a 3 year old who had to have 15 teeth removed due to decay, 15!!! It's insane to me that SS don't get involved with that kind of neglect

Same. What the fuck has happened? In my childhood in the 80s you drank water because it was water you were given. It wasn't a discussion.

I drank water and I ate what was put in front of me, there was no negotiation or preference about it.

Aside from children with severe SEN including food issues, why the fuck are children given these mad options? I drank water, and I ate a smaller portion of whatever meat and veg my parents were eating. We were poor, there were no other choices.

I didn't watch it but if its a professional they will want to be very careful about what they say on TV. 'Poor parenting' is subjective and won't allow for all situations. It IS just a few minutes each day although I agree it should be the parents responsibility. I have 2 autistic DD's and the 10 year old is in a SEN school. I know they brush her teeth there and I'm glad. I also brush her teeth twice a day for her but it's not always perfect because she bites the brush and sometimes refuses altogether (happily hardly ever totally refuses). Her sister does her own teeth but hates it and i have to watch or she wont and she only uses 0-2 year old toothpaste which is milder. She's 8. Typically developing children can be similarly difficult, I'm in no doubt about that.

I do agree it's parental responsibility but teeth are really important. They are responding to a situation which may or may not be poor parenting. Even with good dental hygiene, some kids have terrible diets too. Our high streets are full of junk food shops, coffee and cake shops, doughnuts, waffles etc. It's becoming like the USA. Some of that blame is social and government.

I think sometimes parents are just like "they won't let me" or "they cry when I brush them", sorry who is the parent?

A couple of children in DC's class have bad tooth decay (you can see it from distance) and neither are families where you would deem them to be in circumstances that might encourage decay such as poverty or uneducated on hygiene.

All children refuse teeth brushing of course they do it's boring and intrusive. I remember many occasions and in the end the thing that worked? A horrendously put together YouTube video that had a catchy tune. We would dance to it whilst I brushed DC's teeth. I believe guidelines are that adults should brush teeth until a child is 7 I've heard many stories of people leaving toddlers to brush their own teeth.

I wouldn't justI say "crap parenting"
Partly because that just passes the blame and passes the buck

I think you need to understand the why

Is there a poverty aspect to this - are struggling parents les likely ? Because all humans only have so much effort to give to life.

Is there a mental health aspect - struggling parents can't face the it ?

Confused parents - "gentle" parenting is so easily misunderstood- many parents don't know how to say no to a child , how to be authoritative. if the child says no they get stuck - if please and it's healthy don't work you have no gentle tools left as far as I can tell.

So - I agree, it’s almost unbelievable that someone wouldn’t brush their child’s teeth, it’s neglect.

But - I have no issue with schools teaching children personal hygiene as part of their routines. It’s a life skill, and as with many things we do it to support the kids with crap parents.

This, along with many other interventions, helps the most vulnerable children.

I see kids being bought fruit shoots and similar every time they go anywhere and their parents say they don't like water.
My dad would of told me if I don't like water I can dehydrate because he's not wasting money on a shitty drink.
Some people just have to "treat" their kids. Every single day multiple times a day

Yep. It’s appalling. We heard it on the radio earlier and DD5 said she didn’t want a teacher brushing her teeth and did she have to. The HV gives out free brushes and toothpaste, you can buy them for a quid at the supermarket. No excuses. There just aren’t any.

'Professional again excuses crap parenting and says its just a few minutes each morning..... so WHY DON'T THE CRAP PARENTS DO IT THEN.'

Well indeed. Although as a professional, you get nowhere by 'blaming' parents, because there's always a million excuses and you're made out to be the heartless baddie

Some parents expect gold medals for doing the absolute basics with their own kids