Partner got a reactive HIV test result

Call all his ex partner and ask if any have hiv ?
you did a sti at the start of your relationship and then again a week ago ?

why test again if so sure he’s not been unfaithful ?

I watched a programme about HIV testing, it was very interesting the upshot was results can often give false positives. So try not to panic.

@WetBandits said they have a patient who has a reactive result every time 'we' take it so presumably that's at the clinic she works at and not a home test? I found the explanation very clear. And a far better response than people insisting he almost certainly has it - especially from someone who has worked in a GUM clinic!

If anything it was the other poster who would have scared the OP by telling her that her partner is almost certainly HIV positive. As WetBandits said, a positive reactive test just means reactive. It means further testing is required. It is not a diagnosis.

Again, the NMC will not be interested in this. WetBandits is anonymous. There is not a thing here that is traceable. Nothing identifiable has been said. Even if this particular patient does see this thread, he won't know it's about him because he is not the only patient who has to have his bloods tested in the lab.

@PandaTime @WetBandits OP insulted another GUM nurse for her comments saying this GUM nurse was trying to scare OP when in fact everything that @WetBandits has said is not based on research, patients risk factors and imo NMC will be interested in a registered nurse using patients details even if they are anonymous to try and prove a point, especially as if this patient was privy to this thread he is easily identifiable by what @WetBandits says about him. Are you a professional registered HCW @PandaTime ?The first thing we are taught is no matter how anonymous a patient can always identify themselves so don’t share any details on a social media platform. This is basic respect to our patients.

@Totototo The NMC aren't going to care about this. Do you know how many sexual health clinics there are in the UK? The patient isn't identifiable. The nurse isn't identifiable. Nothing will happen.

You have misunderstood so much. WetBandits talked about the home test because the PP was talking about the insufficient sample. PP mistakenly thought that was a POCT (which she later admitted and so retracted her comment). WetBandits was not the one who said it was a POCT. The only advice she gave was to tell the OP not to worry until the test has been repeated.

(Just wanted to add that I am a GUM nurse, in case it wasn’t clear)

@WetBandits that is were you and I differ I have OP’s best interest at heart and I would rather feel shame and admit to it and hope OP gets a HIV test asap than believe the advice on here given by you that her BF’s reactive test is not reliable enough for her to act on it asap.

Don’t wait for your BF to return OP get a test asap. The GUM nurse was the best advice it was not said to scare you like @WetBandits said but to help you as the GUM nurse is the best person to take advice from.

@ToBeOrNotToBee I agree myself and especially @WetBandits have acted shamefully and I will bow out here. OP please get a test and don’t trust your BF until he has had a lab test for HIV and you see his results.

That’s quite unfair. I came to the thread to offer OP the best advice I could from a professional perspective, and have repeatedly attempted to disengage from the person derailing the thread. I have reported some comments to @MNHQ who have unfortunately not acted on them (yet) as I think it’s quite unkind for this poster to be planting doubts in the OP’s mind, seemingly for her own entertainment, when she is already going through a very worrying time.

I’m not ‘having a bunfight’, I’m trying to defend my professional opinion in order to alleviate some of the OP’s worries, which is what I set out to do when I commented in the first place. I’d be worried too if I read something that might have made me feel better, only to then read comments from someone else designed to make me worry more.

I’m going to step away from the thread unless @Foreverstar would like any further advice from me, in which case I will gladly reply, but I won’t be engaging with any other commenters.

You two are shameless.
This woman came here for advice after a great shock and you're having a bun fight.

Both of you.

Nah you just completely misunderstood what she said and decided to start being angry and rude , it was as clear as day

I never told OP not to get her own test, you’ve just pulled that out of your arse I simply explained why he isn’t ’almost certainly positive’. POCTs are good, but they are not as sensitive as a lab test and cannot distinguish between a genuine positive and a nonspecific reactivity, which is why we need the lab result.

You are weird, rude and clearly have some other agenda. I’m just trying to help the OP. I have reported you for harassment because you’ve come after me for absolutely fuck all reason.

@WetBandits have you read the research and statistics on the efficacy of POCT tests? When does OP say it was a POCT test and not a lab test?

Advising the OP to not listen to the advice of others advising her to get her own HIV test and implying this advice is trying to scare her is bad advice and I am happy for you to not be bothered with me anymore. Also, please stop using replies I’ve made on other posts because I feel this behaviour is inappropriate.

It was a reactive POCT, which is NOT a lab test.

I can’t be bothered with you anymore, you are clearly just spoiling for a fight.

Below is what they advised and it is completely wrong and also unprofessional and inappropriate to mention a patient in their care and calling that patient high risk for HIV is also unprofessional given that this patient could easily identify themselves from the details in their reply. Also trolling me and calling me names by bringing up comments I have made on other threads is stalking behaviour imo.

‘Please don't listen to the posters who are adamant that he is 'almost certainly positive' (I'm particularly surprised that the poster who claims to work in GUM would try to scare you like that as reactive does NOT mean false positive, it just means reactive), the home testing kits are a real fucker for reactive results.
It does occasionally happen with lab bloods, but it's less common. We have one patient whose result is reactive every single time we take it so we have to send it off to a special lab for extensive testing each time as he is high risk for a 'real' positive so we need to be sure.’

They put down a nurse by saying reactive home tests when OP and the nurse they insulted wasn’t even talking about a reactive home test! It was a reactive LAB test!!!!! Read the posts and give appropriate advice. The home test was dodged by the OP’s boyfriend because of insufficient blood RED FLAG number one.

@WetBandits mixing up the reactive home test and reactive lab test and saying don’t listen to others who actually gave good advice on the reactive lab test being meant that @WetBandits has actually minimised the risk to OP and that is bad advice!! The worst advice anyone could give imo!

No she hasn’t at all. She’s given really helpful and appropriate advice based on her experience. No need for you to pick a fight and derail the thread.

I’ve explained it to the OP, I’m not explaining it again to someone on a rant because they’ve got out of bed on the wrong side. I’ve seen some your comments on other posts, you are very strange and antagonistic and I’m not rising to it.

I’ve given the OP a clear and comprehensive explanation and advice re the question she asked. You have a good day now.

Please don't listen to the posters who are adamant that he is 'almost certainly positive' (I'm particularly surprised that the poster who claims to work in GUM would try to scare you like that as reactive does NOT mean false positive, it just means reactive), the home testing kits are a real fucker for reactive results.
It does occasionally happen with lab bloods, but it's less common. We have one patient whose result is reactive every single time we take it so we have to send it off to a special lab for extensive testing each time as he is high risk for a 'real' positive so we need to be sure.

@WetBandits you put down a nurse by saying reactive home tests when OP and the nurse you insult wasn’t even talking about a reactive home test! It was a reactive LAB test!!!!! Read the posts and give appropriate advice. The home test was dodged by the OP’s boyfriend because of insufficient blood RED FLAG number one.

What are you going on about?

@WetBandits you need to reply to the threads appropriately I can’t believe someone who works in sexual health can get everything so muddled up! You have completely confused what tests other posters have referred to and given bad information based on your confusion!