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Whole bundle of smelly, smoky baby clothes from Vinted ☹️

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CaptainCabinets · 06/03/2025 20:44

I ordered a bundle of BNWT baby clothes from Vinted and they’ve arrived absolutely reeking of cigarette smoke 😩 so many lovely little clothes and they smell bloody awful. Nothing in the seller’s reviews to suggest that they’ve been selling smoky clothes, so no warning. I normally only buy stuff from sellers who explicitly state that they have a ‘smoke free home’ but this is the one time I didn’t bloody check, and I would hardly expect someone with a tiny baby to be smoking indoors anyway!

Two questions, really (one of them is an AIBU!)

  1. AIBU to give negative (but honest) feedback or suck it up because I didn’t check if the seller was smoke-free?

  2. Should I attempt to get the smell out so the clothes can actually be worn, or just bin them? Is it safe for my baby to wear them even after washing them or do the chemicals from the smoke linger in the clothes? They were inexpensive so I don’t mind binning them if need be, but it seems such a waste to throw them away as they are all unworn with tags, they just stink! If I keep them, how can I get rid of the smell and the chemicals?

Please be gentle with me, I’m having a bit of a tough time with PPA and have been making a lot of mountains out of molehills lately 😬

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CaptainCabinets · 06/03/2025 23:49

user1473878824 · 06/03/2025 23:03

Leave honest feedback but won’t you be washing them anyway? Surely you wash even new clothes?

Of course I do, this isn’t some ‘gotcha’ moment Hmm

The point is that it’s pretty rank to sell baby clothes as BNWT when they are absolutely reeking of fags!

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user1473878824 · 06/03/2025 23:46

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 06/03/2025 23:17

If they stink of smoke, it’s not just an occasional fag though is it. And now all the risks are known about second-hand smoke, and potential links to SIDS. They should do better.

Also op says said that clothes smelling of smoke is the same as putting a lit cigarette in her baby’s mouth so I’m not 100% sure I trust her on how much it smells.

user1473878824 · 06/03/2025 23:41

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 06/03/2025 23:17

If they stink of smoke, it’s not just an occasional fag though is it. And now all the risks are known about second-hand smoke, and potential links to SIDS. They should do better.

They could have been stored at a relative’s who smokes. Anything. No one knows. They are second hand clothes. I agree through - I wouldn’t want smoke at all around a baby. But the mental gymnastics of “‘maybe this woman SMOKES CIGARETTES because her baby is dead so her life is worthless” is insane.

wash them. Or send them back. It’s not a massive drama that requires a village to fix.

NattyTurtle59 · 06/03/2025 23:39

cheerupbuttercup · 06/03/2025 20:58

I wouldn't use them. No chance would I put my baby in clothes from a smoking house- even when washed. I know that's totally irrational but I couldn't bring myself to do it.

Yes, it is totally irrational. What do you think is going to happen?

RiderOfTheBlue · 06/03/2025 23:32

mumsickles · 06/03/2025 23:26

Resell them on vinted

No, don't pass the problem on to someone else, that's a shitty trick.

Supersimkin7 · 06/03/2025 23:29

Wash them normally and be calm. Your stress is harming the baby way more, no matter what MN goad you to panic about.

mumsickles · 06/03/2025 23:26

Resell them on vinted

HughGrantsfurrysquirrel · 06/03/2025 23:24

Tell me about it. I've previously bought things on Ebay that have arrived reeking of stale ciggies.

Aside from the smell though, are the clothes in good condition? If so, just give them a couple of gentle washes, and add some nice Fairy fabric softener.

To be honest, if i buy anything second hand i always give it a wash before wearing regardless.... You don't know where it's been!!

Not doubting the cigarrette smell, which is vile, but could it be that the seller might've had a wood burning stove? These can leave an unpleasant odour on clothes too.

cherish123 · 06/03/2025 23:21

Don't buy second hand baby clothes. You can buy them for very cheap prices in the supermarket.

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 06/03/2025 23:17

user1473878824 · 06/03/2025 23:06

They are second hand clothes. It’s a bit much to assume someone was blowing smoke in the baby’s face and they weren’t covered in heroin.

it’s shit for you you got clothes that smell like smoke. Can we perhaps stop acting like they were covered in blood and heroin?

If they stink of smoke, it’s not just an occasional fag though is it. And now all the risks are known about second-hand smoke, and potential links to SIDS. They should do better.

ClairDeLaLune · 06/03/2025 23:15

Dunno, my brother is a heavy smoker and his clothes still smell after being in the wash. Maybe wash them twice and see what they're like then. Oh and YADNBU, what the seller has done is grim.

YourHappyJadeEagle · 06/03/2025 23:06

The smell will come out and there won’t be anything harmful left in the fabric.
Wash on a cool wash first with just detergent, no fabric softener.
Check for any smell.
If smell gone you can wash again on a higher temperature just to put your mind at rest and use fabric softener if you usually do.

user1473878824 · 06/03/2025 23:06

CaptainCabinets · 06/03/2025 22:59

There is definitely a baby as she’s selling worn clothes of all sizes as well as new.

Sadly some people are just scumbags who smoke around babies 🤷🏼‍♀️

They are second hand clothes. It’s a bit much to assume someone was blowing smoke in the baby’s face and they weren’t covered in heroin.

it’s shit for you you got clothes that smell like smoke. Can we perhaps stop acting like they were covered in blood and heroin?

user1473878824 · 06/03/2025 23:03

Leave honest feedback but won’t you be washing them anyway? Surely you wash even new clothes?

CaptainCabinets · 06/03/2025 22:59

Biculturalfamily · 06/03/2025 22:30

Just a thought, if the clothes have never been worn, there may never have been a baby :( and that might explain destructive behaviour like smoking. I would say clothes not as described, rather than giving any details.

There is definitely a baby as she’s selling worn clothes of all sizes as well as new.

Sadly some people are just scumbags who smoke around babies 🤷🏼‍♀️

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WhenICalledYouLastNightFromTesco · 06/03/2025 22:56

Wash them with white vinegar as PP suggested, and then do a normal wash. If you can't bring yourself to use them, then please wash and take to the charity shop. Stops the waste of them being thrown away.

Beeloux · 06/03/2025 22:49

It reminds me of when I bought a wooden cot off marketplace and a family member kindly picked it up for me. They had a cold at the time so didn't smell it absoloutley reeked of smoke. The whole bedroom stank for days even though the pieces were only in there a few hours. 😷
Also bought a ‘new without tags’ baby bundle on Vinted once and one of the bodysuits had shit stains on it. Definitely leave a negative feedback!

ThisFluentBiscuit · 06/03/2025 22:43

Ohapal · 06/03/2025 22:14

I wouldn’t be washing all that filth. I’m surprised so many people are advising this. My dc are adult - but there is no way I would have put them in these clothes. Even if you can wash most of the detectable smell out, there will be lingering chemicals from the smoke.

Can you say they smell of smoke and are therefore unsuitable for your baby and get a refund?

I would be extremely surprised if there were harmful chemicals left in the clothes after washing properly on 60 degrees. Where did you get that idea?

Bunnycat101 · 06/03/2025 22:43

I wouldn’t use them. You’ll always be wondering even if the smell goes and it won’t do you any good. I wouldn’t put a baby into those clothes even after a wash. Even if the remaining risk is tiny your mind will start racing if the baby has a cough etc.

Helene8 · 06/03/2025 22:39

VenusClapTrap · 06/03/2025 22:32

I’d wash them and give them to a charity shop. I’m normally quite pragmatic and non-fussy about things, but I have a quite visceral reaction to the smell of cigarette smoke in clothes as a result of a childhood spent in a perpetual nicotine fog. Awful smell.

Same. I’m convinced I’m chronically asthmatic courtesy of passive smoking. The smell triggers an emotional response in me and reminds me of having a chest infection when young yet still being exposed to smoke.

fartfacenotfatface · 06/03/2025 22:37

Soak them in cold water with a very generous squirt of white vinegar, then wash a couple of times. I made the same mistake once and this method removed the fag smoke smell very well.
And yes, add a bit to the feedback to say clothes smelled strongly of cigarette smoke (but comment positively on speed of delivery or something else if applicable). Honest but fair.

Ohapal · 06/03/2025 22:35

Shelby2010 · 06/03/2025 22:24

If you’re worried that chemicals don’t wash out, then you probably shouldn’t use cotton full stop. Plenty of dangerous chemicals used as pesticides, herbicides & bleaching agents used in the processing of cotton.

I'm not worried about any of it. Like I say, my kids are adults. I'm just advising the OP - since she has a choice - not to put her baby in clothes that have been exposed to loads of cigarette smoke. And I think that's pretty sensible advice.

MyMintHam · 06/03/2025 22:35

Do people not walk? Take their children out near cars? Do you bin their clothes when you come home?

https://www.surrey.ac.uk/news/when-are-babies-prams-most-exposed-air-pollution