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Whole bundle of smelly, smoky baby clothes from Vinted ☹️

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CaptainCabinets · 06/03/2025 20:44

I ordered a bundle of BNWT baby clothes from Vinted and they’ve arrived absolutely reeking of cigarette smoke 😩 so many lovely little clothes and they smell bloody awful. Nothing in the seller’s reviews to suggest that they’ve been selling smoky clothes, so no warning. I normally only buy stuff from sellers who explicitly state that they have a ‘smoke free home’ but this is the one time I didn’t bloody check, and I would hardly expect someone with a tiny baby to be smoking indoors anyway!

Two questions, really (one of them is an AIBU!)

  1. AIBU to give negative (but honest) feedback or suck it up because I didn’t check if the seller was smoke-free?

  2. Should I attempt to get the smell out so the clothes can actually be worn, or just bin them? Is it safe for my baby to wear them even after washing them or do the chemicals from the smoke linger in the clothes? They were inexpensive so I don’t mind binning them if need be, but it seems such a waste to throw them away as they are all unworn with tags, they just stink! If I keep them, how can I get rid of the smell and the chemicals?

Please be gentle with me, I’m having a bit of a tough time with PPA and have been making a lot of mountains out of molehills lately 😬

OP posts:
Hols23 · 07/03/2025 08:22

Sorry, just noticed @boredwithfoodprob said the exact opposite to me!

Hols23 · 07/03/2025 08:21

They'll be absolutely fine after a normal wash. Remember when smoking was allowed in pubs and clubs and your clothes would reek the next day? They were always fine after a wash.

boredwithfoodprob · 07/03/2025 08:16

I would apply for a refund. Sounds weird but I never would have put my babies in clothes that had smelt so grim even after washing. Anyway, I remember at university in the 90s all my clothes stank of cigarette smoke and even after washing once back home at my parents, it didn't properly come out especially to me as a non smoker smelling them.

Tricho · 07/03/2025 08:06

fashionqueen0123 · 06/03/2025 20:51

I’d ask to return them. If they say no I’d leave a bad review saying they stink of smoke. I wouldn’t use them.

That is incredibly wasteful when you can wash them and thell genuinely be fine

Riverswims · 07/03/2025 08:05

Strawberryfruitcorner · 06/03/2025 20:53

I wouldn’t use them on principal.

Have you marked as ok yet? I would return them.

Someone sent me a £5 toy covered in food the other day I could have washed it easily but I said It was not as described (nearly new) and got £2 off which isn’t a lot but again it’s the principal.

*Principle

Barleycat · 07/03/2025 06:57

Just wash and leave a bad review.

AlmosttimeforChristmas · 07/03/2025 06:55

You’ve handled it well, OP. Hope your anxiety improves. I think being a first time mother in modern western society (I’m assuming you’re uk based because of vinted) is inherently lonely and anxiety inducing so don’t let pps stress you out xx

Ineedcoffee2021 · 07/03/2025 05:41

YABU
Buy 2nd hand, you cant expect perfection
If you want new smell - BUY NEW

You didnt check it was 'smoke free'
Seller is under no obligation to disclose their smoker status

cheerupbuttercup · 07/03/2025 04:33

I personally have never thought any clothing smells of smoke, but I smoke/vape myself so nose blindness is real!

Believe me when I tell you that your clothes stink of smoke and yes, the smell is awful.

PandaTime · 07/03/2025 01:23

I think your feedback was unfair. The seller never claimed it was a smoke-free home. If that was important to you, you should have checked. It's not something you should just assume. Plus a lot of people buy bundles to sell on. It doesn't mean they have a baby in the house.

(Recently a seller sent me something packaged in a Sainsbury's Parmesan & Garlic Twists box. The stink from that was unbelievable! Thankfully, it wasn't clothing.)

LilyJosephine · 07/03/2025 00:32

YANBU.

Had a similar thing twice on eBay - I buy a lot of second hand items for my son to be more environmentally conscious, but once I received a “like new” pram cover that really stank of smoke; and once some bulk “great condition” Duplo that was really encrusted with dirt 🤢 (I’d never seen the like, except maybe at one playgroup- it wasn’t visible on photos as it was pictured from a distance and the dirt was mostly underneath).

Took multiple washes to get them clean (and a long air outside too for the cover). But I couldn’t leave bad reviews as they weren’t in damaged condition or technically unusable and didn’t specify that they’d be “clean” 🤦‍♀️. I’d have been embarrassed to send anyone something like that though, especially knowing it will be used for babies/young toddlers.

I’m afraid this will be a similar scrub job OP - wash twice and then air outside (maybe the first wash with some vinegar or dettol?). And then leave a completely factual review, it doesn’t need to be wholly negative but should be fair.

Helene8 · 07/03/2025 00:29

user1473878824 · 06/03/2025 23:06

They are second hand clothes. It’s a bit much to assume someone was blowing smoke in the baby’s face and they weren’t covered in heroin.

it’s shit for you you got clothes that smell like smoke. Can we perhaps stop acting like they were covered in blood and heroin?

Third hand smoke?

It’s still bad even if smoke isn’t being blown into the baby’s face. I bet that child’s clothes and bedding they’re sleeping in/on right now stink of fags.

RiderOfTheBlue · 07/03/2025 00:27

Hard to picture a person with small baby keep just sitting smoking next to a bunch of new clothes. Would they not be in some cupboard.

Even if they had been in a cupboard they'd still smell if people were smoking in the house. The stuff I bought via Vinted last year had been stored in a loft, in plastic bags, but still stank of cig smoke.

Frozensun · 07/03/2025 00:24

I’d wash and use them when clean. But if you really can’t, how about putting on your local Facebook/marketplace as giveaway with a clear description? At least they won’t go to waste if someone wants to take them.

EdithBond · 07/03/2025 00:14

That sounds grim. Must be horrible when you have PPA. I’d deffo message the seller and/or leave a review. You should get a refund.

It’s possible the clothes were stored in someone else’s home (other than a baby’s) who smoke. But the seller must have realised they smelled of smoke.

You’re quite right to buy second hand clothes as throwing baby clothes away is such a waste. The smell should comes out via a hot wash with:

Baking soda

  • Add a cup of baking soda to the washing machine along with your regular detergent
  • If the smell persists, wash again with baking soda

Vinegar

  • Add a cup of white vinegar to the washing machine
  • Vinegar's acids help trap and neutralize odors

Lemon juice

  • Mix equal parts detergent and lemon juice
  • Lemon juice's enzymes break down oils left on clothes by cigarette smoke

Air out

  • Hang clothes outside to dry in the sun and fresh air
LBFseBrom · 07/03/2025 00:11

Put them in the washing machine, smoke smell comes out of clothes if they are washed.

kingat · 07/03/2025 00:06

nm read your update

kingat · 07/03/2025 00:04

is it possible they smell because delivery guy smokes in his car?
Hard to picture a person with small baby keep just sitting smoking next to a bunch of new clothes. Would they not be in some cupboard.
Anyway I would message the seller first and wash them like 3 times and maybe donate to a charity if you still worried, but they should be after couple of washes.

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CaptainCabinets · 06/03/2025 23:59

I mentioned that I’m experiencing PPA in my OP so I didn’t get people asking if I was usually so anxious. Didn’t expect people to be using it to get their sly little digs in, what a cheap shot to take Confused

Anyway, feedback has been left and the seller has admitted to being a smoking household. If the smoke is in the clothes, the smoke is also in the poor baby who lives there so I feel more sorry for that baby than myself!

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user1473878824 · 06/03/2025 23:59

CaptainCabinets · 06/03/2025 23:52

No, I didn’t say that, did I? I said that it is how I would FEEL, not that it is the same. Clearly you’ve never experienced anxiety because it isn’t rational. I know it isn’t the same.

Stop trying to gaslight me, the clothes absolutely fucking stink. Happy to post them to you for a sniff. Although perhaps you won’t be able to smell them as your insistence on defending the seller makes me think you may perhaps be also be someone who smokes around babies?

Return them or wash them and leave a bad review.

I am very sorry you have anxiety. Those are your two options.

And yes, of course, I’m currently lighting my two year old’s Rothman’s because her motor skills aren’t great yet.

Boodahh · 06/03/2025 23:58

Give them a good wash. They'll be ok!

(Wondering how I've survived - I grew up in a smoking home)

CaptainCabinets · 06/03/2025 23:55

cherish123 · 06/03/2025 23:21

Don't buy second hand baby clothes. You can buy them for very cheap prices in the supermarket.

Thanks Hmm

I’ve explained already why I shop on Vinted, and it’s not the price.

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CaptainCabinets · 06/03/2025 23:52

user1473878824 · 06/03/2025 23:46

Also op says said that clothes smelling of smoke is the same as putting a lit cigarette in her baby’s mouth so I’m not 100% sure I trust her on how much it smells.

No, I didn’t say that, did I? I said that it is how I would FEEL, not that it is the same. Clearly you’ve never experienced anxiety because it isn’t rational. I know it isn’t the same.

Stop trying to gaslight me, the clothes absolutely fucking stink. Happy to post them to you for a sniff. Although perhaps you won’t be able to smell them as your insistence on defending the seller makes me think you may perhaps be also be someone who smokes around babies?

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