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Outrageous comments from best friend:s DP

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Lucelady · 06/03/2025 18:49

I'm shocked and don't know what to say.
My friend of thirty plus years moved in with a new partner last year.
She had few options due to three divorces and very few savings.
I've met the chap once, he seemed OK but over handy for my liking. Both her adult daughters have said they don't like him. I thought it was an age and class thing (he's 27 years younger).
It turns out he is an admirer of Hitler and Trump.
I said to my friend well he won't be invited to dinner here. He apparently made the statements at a family party last week. The daughters quite rightly walked out. I'm disabled, my husband not white. My uncles POW. I can't believe she's with him. She was very lonely. Aibu to be shocked or none of my business?

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Triakne · 06/03/2025 22:51

This is the maddest thread on mn in a long while 😂

Errors · 06/03/2025 22:48

Ima create a new government department called DOGe

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JorgyPorgy · 06/03/2025 22:40

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Why you say that ?

Gymnopedie · 06/03/2025 22:40

The dogs are all my fault...

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 06/03/2025 22:39

Are you absolutely sure he wasn't joking? I cannot imagine anyone being a fan of Hitler. Yes, I know Trump's awful, but he hasn't tortured and killed six million people for their religion. (I personally don't like the Trump/Hitler comparisons. Hitler's in a class of evil all of his own.)

Either he was joking or this isn't real, because I cannot imagine the Hitler thing. Even if true and even if he was a Hitler fan, it seems most unlikely that he would say it out loud.

Lark1ane · 06/03/2025 22:34

Invite him for dinner and lay a trap.

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Shakey2022 · 06/03/2025 22:34

Gymnopedie · 06/03/2025 18:57

Sorry, I have NO idea where the dog came from, and if I go into 'edit' it's not there so I can't remove it.

Not the impression I was trying to create.

😂😂

PixieTales · 06/03/2025 22:25

I am enjoying the mix of discussion and dogs. I think more threads need this!

FozzieWozzieWasABear · 06/03/2025 22:23

BlueBatsAndOranges · 06/03/2025 20:49

I demand more dogs!!!

Your wish is my command!

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graceinspace999 · 06/03/2025 22:19

You should invite them to dinner. I believe hemlock pie, chips and mushies would go
down very well.

AllTheTreesOfTheField · 06/03/2025 22:18

His wet dream

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Anonycat · 06/03/2025 22:18

Up to you but I couldn’t remain friends with someone who didn’t mind her partner admiring Hitler. Even if she binned him now, I coukd never feel the same about her.

Mylittlepea · 06/03/2025 22:16

Loving this thread. I think all these dogs (and cats & hamsters😂) would make a better president than the current one 😵‍💫

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HelpMeGetThrough · 06/03/2025 22:14

It turns out he is an admirer of Hitler and Trump.

But won't admit to knocking one out over Putin.

Nanny0gg · 06/03/2025 22:14

Horriblevirusagain · 06/03/2025 20:43

Hitler and Zelensky are Dictators.
Trump is a leader who wants peace and what's best for his people.

Trump wants what's best for Trump

NancyBellaDonna · 06/03/2025 22:13

Don't forget Lassie!

RIPVPROG · 06/03/2025 22:09

Anyone remember this guy

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Cherrysoup · 06/03/2025 22:08

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? Because they’re virtually indistinguishable?!

JD Vance is alleged to have called Trump the Hitler of America before his re-election.

Lavender14 · 06/03/2025 22:07

Also really appreciating the dogs! The canine derailment of this thread greatly amused me at the end of a long day.

Op I think the men are a symptom of her own loneliness. It's a really difficult thing to live with so I'd probably be a bit concerned for her absolutely.

BlueBatsAndOranges · 06/03/2025 22:06

RIPVPROG · 06/03/2025 22:05

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Mixing it up a bit with other animals. I like it.

RIPVPROG · 06/03/2025 22:05

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NancyBellaDonna · 06/03/2025 22:03

Couldn't resist a pup!

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ItWasnaMeGuv · 06/03/2025 22:01

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Agree. Its some years now but I remember being shocked at the photos of nazi symbols on various war machines from the original conflict between Ukraine and Russia. I had no idea they held such anti semitic beliefs Sad. I hope and pray that Donald Trump brokers a peace deal asap. There has been enough killing.

Sadly, there are many who suffer from TDS who still insist that DT is literally Hitler Hmm.

TunipTheVegimal24 · 06/03/2025 22:00

Your friend sounds like a bit of a weirdo, sorry OP. You clearly love her, after 30 years of friendship though. Hopefully she'll ditch this one off after not too long, and he'll just be an embarrassing memory.

After 30 years of friendship (and a relationship lasting longer than any of her previous husbands, presumably?), I'd have a word if it were me. Maybe she's having some sort of breakdown? Whether you do or not, there's no way I'd be having anything to do with him. All you can do really, is be honest and say you're happy to see her, but want no relationship with him. Hopefully she'll understand. But if not, there's not much you can do except let her end the friendship. You can hardly sit around with him, discussing the merits of the third reich over Sunday roast 🤷‍♀️ .

NancyBellaDonna · 06/03/2025 21:58

Does he play football in a Sunday League and been banned from the local pub?

Thought that troll had been zapped.