My niece is getting married in July. They want a quiet wedding, no fuss so it is just her, fiancee and their parents, grandparents and siblings. I have no problem with her decision.
My sister and her DH are doing all the organising. I am very close to my niece, as is my brother. I learned yesterday that my brother will be at the wedding as the photographer, this has been arranged by my sister and her DH, not by my niece. I know my niece would be devastated to know I am upset.
I am very hurt, we are a small family, my sister and I are each other 's best friends, or so I thought, but I shall be the only member of 'our' family who will not be at the wedding.
I know I can't go as my BIL has 3 siblings who have not been invited and if I go it will cause him huge problems.
I have told my DS and BIL that I am upset, they have apologised, they just didn't think it through. They too are now upset.
AIBU to be upset or have I got it all out of perspective.