NC as this could be outing. A close friend who I have known for 15+ years is getting married this year. Not really seen too much of them since they moved away about 7 years ago. The wedding is around 2 hours away and no children allowed therefore would need to find childcare for 2 nights which is the first couple of inconviences. I would like to go however DC will still be young therefore not I’d rather not leave them with someone however I do feel as though I’m abliged to go as I don’t want to upset them. Friend hasn’t made an effort at all with me postpartum (they don’t have children themselves which could be why). I have already turned down the abroad hen do and wouldn’t want to ruin the friendship by not going to the wedding. AIBU?
edit to add also the current prices of hotel rooms nearby for 1 night is £200 but feels necessary to stay over because of the length of the drive and to be able to have a few drinks.