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DS punished for teachers mistake

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babynot · 06/03/2025 16:54

DS's(8) class were given a new work book at school last week with with printed labels on the front.
Imagine his name is something like Tommy but this book said Tom which he is never called and hates.

He told the teacher his name was wrong on the label and was told not to worry about it, he didnt ask and so wasn't told not to correct it but decided to scribble out ‘Tom’ and write ‘Tommy’ below. It looks fine, obviously not as neat as it would printed but you can clearly read what it says.

Teacher has left a note saying he needs to rewrite his work into a new book which has been sent home because he vandalised the first one. Its only a few pages of work but will take him at least 20 minutes to do

AIBU to think this is unfair and it’s not his fault they put the wrong name?

OP posts:
FrippEnos · 06/03/2025 19:00

WearyAuldWumman · 06/03/2025 17:30

Former secondary HoD here. I agree. If a member of my staff had done this, I'd be having a word with them in private.

I'm curious as to what that private word would be?
Because apart from the name of the child, which may not have been her error, depending on how many people it went through.
Everything that she has done has been to follow to school rules which would be passed down to her through the HoD.

LBFseBrom · 06/03/2025 19:00

noblegiraffe · 06/03/2025 17:01

No, ask the teacher to print a label with the correct name to stick over the first book.

Yes, that.

MrsPCR · 06/03/2025 18:56

babynot · 06/03/2025 17:05

His name is correct on the new book

I’d be cutting the sticker off of the new book, sticking it on and just to be pedantic, sellotape 20p to a post-it note to cover the cost of the vandalised book and offer it back as scrap paper. 🤣

Pieceofpurplesky · 06/03/2025 18:56

Just maybe ....... The teacher probably said 'don't worry about it for now' and would have printed a new label out later.

dailygrowl · 06/03/2025 18:56

Moonnstars · 06/03/2025 18:25

He shouldn't have scribbled his name out. He should have asked to change it or been patient as I am sure the teacher would have sorted it (but couldn't immediately as they were trying to teach the lesson).
He shouldn't have been asked to rewrite his work but he does need to learn to be more patient and understanding when mistakes happen (those saying the name should be known by now, maybe an old register was used). I would ask the office to check the school files that he hasn't got the wrong name written down somewhere...also check he doesn't actually call himself this at school. My son has a friend using your example who was always called Thomas by his parents. It's only when he started school he started being called Tom, and his mum didn't know! She made a joke about it in the class chat group introducing her son Thomas, who everyone else knew as Tom!.

Tom isn't his name. Why should he accept a fake name? It's highly disrespectful of the teacher to change it- once pointed out she should apologise and promise to relabel it as soon as she can. He didn't deface the book with a doodle. The teacher's label is the one defacing the book.

Spirallingdownwards · 06/03/2025 18:54

Pottedpalm · 06/03/2025 17:24

He was told not to correct it, but he did. Not ‘vandalism!, but he ignored/disobeyed an instruction.

No - read the post. He WASN'T told not to correct it

JillMW · 06/03/2025 18:54

I have my book from infants school. My sister scribbled out my name and added hers. I turned the book upside down and wrote my name neatly on the back which now became the front, the big gap line was at the bottom not the top. I always thought the teacher had not noticed, of course she had but even the strict teachers of yesteryear sound kind compared to your son’s teacher. I imagine she was absent from school when diplomacy and self awareness were taught!

Brefugee · 06/03/2025 18:53

It won't be the child's class teacher who made this rule...this will have been the Senior Leadership Team. The class teacher will just be following the ridiculous policy on this stuff.

so? teacher can take one for the team. It is a simple matter of sticking a new label over the old one, and not being a twit about a child's name in future. Teacher has learned something here.

AdoraBell · 06/03/2025 18:53

Vandalised ? WTF? He didn’t vandalise the book he simply corrected the error. It’s not an expensive first edition.

KeenGreen · 06/03/2025 18:51

Crunchymum · 06/03/2025 17:28

I'd be more pissed off they've wasted a book, as opposed to just printing a new label. Seems so wasteful.

This was my thought too! Wasteful when a new sticker or the corrected one is absolutely fine.

OP- I think this is ridiculous and I would absolutely be raising it!

Puppupandaway · 06/03/2025 18:51

Remove the staples from the old book, take out the pages of work then take the staples out the new book, insert the work then put staples back in. Simple.

Gently suggest to your child that in future they ask for a replacement sticker rather than changing it himself. Hopefully the teacher won't make the same mistake again.

TicklishMintDuck · 06/03/2025 18:50

Ridiculous! He’s only 8! I teach in a secondary school and wouldn’t behave like this.

cheddercherry · 06/03/2025 18:50

If its a member of senior leadership this is filtering down from then I’d be asking to speak to them directly about how the inane pressure they’re filtering down to their staff has resulted in your child being punished for a mistake that wasn’t his - and apparently sense has left the building and instead or re labelling a book we’re now just wasting almost unused resources for the sake of a sticky label. And we wonder why teachers are leaving in droves.

I agree with posters that I wouldn’t be making my son re copy anything back out and I’d be explaining why. If he’s repeatedly corrected them on his name for the entire school year they’ve already had six months to learn his name, I’d be pissed off too. Would teacher like it if he started abbreviating her name? I doubt she’d be particularly patient.

MerryMeet · 06/03/2025 18:47

welshmercury · 06/03/2025 18:41

Former teacher here. You would not believe just how difficult some senior leaders can be. The teacher may have been worried about a potential book scrutiny that they would be pulled up on it.
I have been given handwriting targets where the kids were writing but not joining and I was given a talking to about what a rubbish teacher I was because of this and would be put on a support plan.

sometimes teachers are so overwhelmed and scared of leaders that they lose all sense of reality as they are worried about losing their job over the most ridiculous things.

this is what it is like in many schools

This kind of thing is why we leave.

Onelovelyone · 06/03/2025 18:47

I would send a message back to the teacher saying that due to them mis-naming him, he corrected the error and that you would like a sticker to cover up the original error. Making him rewrite the work and saying he has “vandalised” his book is preposterous. I would not be asking him to redo the work and I would not be doing it either. That’s a very draconian punishment for a young child when the error is not his.

MerryMeet · 06/03/2025 18:47

LostMyLanyard · 06/03/2025 18:42

It won't be the child's class teacher who made this rule...this will have been the Senior Leadership Team. The class teacher will just be following the ridiculous policy on this stuff.

At a previous school I worked in, I was once quite literally called 'lazy and disorganised' following a book scrutiny, because ONE of my classes 34 writing books had ONE 'date and learning objective' sticker stuck in every so slightly crooked...and I'm talking about a tiny 'slant' of an angle not quite straight!!! It was UTTERLY bizarre, but I got an official warning letter about 'presentation standards'.

I'd been teaching for 25 years at this point and was Writing Lead and an LEA Writing Advisor...so definitely NOT lazy and disorganised!!

I handed my notice in that term...such a toxic environment.

That’s true actually - the teacher afraid of the “book look” - but to make the child write the work out again is unreasonable.

ThesebeautifulthingsthatIvegot · 06/03/2025 18:47

I mean... I'm a teacher and I wrote about my experiences. I have seen it in all five schools I have worked in. I strongly suspect it is a factor in this school.

MerryMeet · 06/03/2025 18:44

noblegiraffe · 06/03/2025 17:01

No, ask the teacher to print a label with the correct name to stick over the first book.

Agree. Totally unreasonable of the teacher - what a power trip.

LostMyLanyard · 06/03/2025 18:42

ThejoyofNC · 06/03/2025 17:30

I'd tell the teacher straight that he's not doing it and under no circumstances is he to miss any play time etc in order to do it at school.

With all the shit teachers have to deal with I seriously don't understand why she's choosing to create problems where they don't exist.

It won't be the child's class teacher who made this rule...this will have been the Senior Leadership Team. The class teacher will just be following the ridiculous policy on this stuff.

At a previous school I worked in, I was once quite literally called 'lazy and disorganised' following a book scrutiny, because ONE of my classes 34 writing books had ONE 'date and learning objective' sticker stuck in every so slightly crooked...and I'm talking about a tiny 'slant' of an angle not quite straight!!! It was UTTERLY bizarre, but I got an official warning letter about 'presentation standards'.

I'd been teaching for 25 years at this point and was Writing Lead and an LEA Writing Advisor...so definitely NOT lazy and disorganised!!

I handed my notice in that term...such a toxic environment.

ZowieCavey · 06/03/2025 18:42

My daughter's name ends with an 'ie'. At her foundation year parents evening I found they'd been spelling ending just 'i'. I added the 'e' to everything - her books, her tray, her peg. The teacher didn't accuse me of vandalism, she apologised for her mistake. Like your son's teacher needs to

welshmercury · 06/03/2025 18:41

Former teacher here. You would not believe just how difficult some senior leaders can be. The teacher may have been worried about a potential book scrutiny that they would be pulled up on it.
I have been given handwriting targets where the kids were writing but not joining and I was given a talking to about what a rubbish teacher I was because of this and would be put on a support plan.

sometimes teachers are so overwhelmed and scared of leaders that they lose all sense of reality as they are worried about losing their job over the most ridiculous things.

this is what it is like in many schools

Bleekers · 06/03/2025 18:39

Carefully cut out the page and tape it in.

B1indEye · 06/03/2025 18:39

eurochick · 06/03/2025 18:10

I would be telling the teacher that my child would not be doing this and I'm unimpressed by the waste of resources. This was the school's error and he corrected it. She can stick a sticker over it if she wishes.

Absolutely this, why is anyone even contemplating anything with a second book, what a ridiculous waste of resources

Marshbird · 06/03/2025 18:39

Say to teacher she needs to tell you what she is doing here

  1. is she punishing your son by making him “write out his lines” for 20 mins because she made a mistake
  2. or does she want to relabel the original with two nice labels - given it was her mistake and not be so OCD.
  3. or should sh neatly cut out his original writing and stick it into the new book

as much as anything issuing him with a whole new exercise book is a waste of money and funds fgs. Unless she plans to acquire it and take it home to use.

Make the bloody point to her it is not acceptable to punish your child because she has invented a random name for him, which is not what he is called.
she made a mistake. And telling him to ignore his name is pretty disrespectful . Can he just call her a random name?

Brefugee · 06/03/2025 18:33

babynot · 06/03/2025 17:05

His name is correct on the new book

can you cut out and stick the pages in the new book? or can you get the cover off the new one and replace the one on the old one? any fuss from teacher needs to be shut down.