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DS punished for teachers mistake

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babynot · 06/03/2025 16:54

DS's(8) class were given a new work book at school last week with with printed labels on the front.
Imagine his name is something like Tommy but this book said Tom which he is never called and hates.

He told the teacher his name was wrong on the label and was told not to worry about it, he didnt ask and so wasn't told not to correct it but decided to scribble out ‘Tom’ and write ‘Tommy’ below. It looks fine, obviously not as neat as it would printed but you can clearly read what it says.

Teacher has left a note saying he needs to rewrite his work into a new book which has been sent home because he vandalised the first one. Its only a few pages of work but will take him at least 20 minutes to do

AIBU to think this is unfair and it’s not his fault they put the wrong name?

OP posts:
indigovapour · 06/03/2025 19:41

Utterly bonkers of the teacher. I'd certainly refuse and ask for a new sticker. I'd probably also make a point of getting the teacher's name wrong in all future correspondence.

Tourist29 · 06/03/2025 19:38

Dolambslikemintsauce · 06/03/2025 18:09

In secondary school ds's gf drew a heart next to his name on an essay jotter book....
He was made to rewrite the whole book after it was' vandalised'..
Apparently even though it had ds's name on it was still school property..
Alternative option was a week's suspension..

In year 7 my son was given a detention for ‘vandalising school property’. This just appeared on the portal, I was shocked and asked him what he’d done - he’d drawn a smiley face in the glue. I told him the teacher was just asserting authority at the start of the year. Years later it still really annoys me (I actually thought the teacher was ridiculous)

howdoyousolvethisproblem · 06/03/2025 19:32

WearyAuldWumman · 06/03/2025 17:30

Former secondary HoD here. I agree. If a member of my staff had done this, I'd be having a word with them in private.

I’m a head teacher. I’d be very disappointed in any staff member who did this and would agree with any parent who refused to do it.

RaspberryCombat · 06/03/2025 19:32

This is a miserable attitude on the teacher’s part.

DS6 goes to a pretty gentle, fluffy school (compared to a lot
of what I read on here!) but even there copying out work seems to be a bit of a go-to for teachers. He has had to redo a couple of pieces of work because he didn’t follow instructions properly and teacher has stuck two pages of his book together to ‘hide’ the improperly completed work. This struck me as a bit harsh although I do accept that it’s important to instil listening to instructions, concentration, and pride in work. Obviously these don’t apply in your DS’s case, just remarking!

Cakeandcardio · 06/03/2025 19:28

YourHappyJadeEagle · 06/03/2025 17:03

This. And no wonder so many teachers complain of stress when they get het up over a child writing their name correctly. Why on earth punish a child over that. I find Britain a very strange country since I returned.

Well I am a teacher and surely any normal teacher would feel embarrassed for themselves that they had made such a mistake, apologise to the child and print a new label?
This is not the stuff that causes me stress in the job.

Lostworlds · 06/03/2025 19:27

As a teacher, I think this is awful! If I had printed the wrong name then I wouldn’t be annoyed at the build for correcting it and would try print a new name as soon as possible.
I would not make him rewrite his work and would send her a polite letter pointing out her mistake and that the ‘vandalised jotter’ was in fact your child writing his name properly. If she has issues with this then she can provide a new jotter and staple his current work into it.

Strictlymad · 06/03/2025 19:26

babynot · 06/03/2025 17:21

Copy it out for him and write a note explaining you’ve done this as you didn’t want him missing his free time at home for her mistake.

Yes I'm tempted just to do this as I'm not happy making DS do it.

I agree, make a poor and do it for him/photocopy etc and glue in. He shouldn’t be punished for her error. And yes leave a signed note to say so

BrickBiscuit · 06/03/2025 19:26

babynot · 06/03/2025 17:05

His name is correct on the new book

Is his name uncommon, not spelt as pronounced, or typically shortened to what the teacher wrote? If so, he might be in for a lot of this. In your hypothetical example, Tom is probably more common than Tommy, and people will call him that no matter how much he hates it. Perhaps be wary of becoming one of those "It's Peter, not Pete" types (random example, sorry Peters).

Ellie1015 · 06/03/2025 19:24

Itisbetter · 06/03/2025 17:13

Copy it out for him and write a note explaining you’ve done this as you didn’t want him missing his free time at home for her mistake. Suggest next time printing a correct sticker and sticking it over the previous one would be better. Leave your mobile number if she’d like to discuss further.

I would absolutely do this. And i rarely would contact teacher even if I disagree I try to support them but this is ridiculous.

Pebbles16 · 06/03/2025 19:23

Itisbetter · 06/03/2025 17:13

Copy it out for him and write a note explaining you’ve done this as you didn’t want him missing his free time at home for her mistake. Suggest next time printing a correct sticker and sticking it over the previous one would be better. Leave your mobile number if she’d like to discuss further.

This is the way forward

steff13 · 06/03/2025 19:21

It's ridiculous. It's a workbook belonging to an 8-year-old; she certainly couldn't expect them to remain in pristine condition, did she? Some of them probably won't even have covers by the time the kids are done with them. Who cares if he crossed it out and wrote his correct name?!

ThriveAT · 06/03/2025 19:20

noblegiraffe · 06/03/2025 17:01

No, ask the teacher to print a label with the correct name to stick over the first book.

Yes, this,but nicely.

sunshineandshowers40 · 06/03/2025 19:19

The teacher is being ridiculous and petty. I wouldn't make him do it and would send an email politely telling them why.

Pottedpalm · 06/03/2025 19:16

Spirallingdownwards · 06/03/2025 18:54

No - read the post. He WASN'T told not to correct it

Yes, my mistake, already acknowledged

diddl · 06/03/2025 19:15

What does "not to worry about it" mean I wonder?

Perhaps Op you should call her by an incorrect name & tell her the same?

Could she not have altered the name for him herself until a new label was printed & stuck over?

Pottedpalm · 06/03/2025 19:15

Motorroller · 06/03/2025 19:13

It’s this type of leadership that creates disobedience - punishment for somebody else’s mistake, by the person that made the mistake, for correcting their mistake. Retaliatory and small-minded do not a leader make. Multiplied a number of times when it relates to a young child.

I hope you’re not in a position of leadership, as I suspect there might be a few miserable people.

Bit harsh! I misread the OP, as acknowledged twice

Cantabulous · 06/03/2025 19:13

babynot · 06/03/2025 17:21

Copy it out for him and write a note explaining you’ve done this as you didn’t want him missing his free time at home for her mistake.

Yes I'm tempted just to do this as I'm not happy making DS do it.

It’s only 20 minutes of his time, and good writing practice. I wouldn’t get het up over this. I certainly wouldn’t do it for him.

Motorroller · 06/03/2025 19:13

Pottedpalm · 06/03/2025 17:24

He was told not to correct it, but he did. Not ‘vandalism!, but he ignored/disobeyed an instruction.

It’s this type of leadership that creates disobedience - punishment for somebody else’s mistake, by the person that made the mistake, for correcting their mistake. Retaliatory and small-minded do not a leader make. Multiplied a number of times when it relates to a young child.

I hope you’re not in a position of leadership, as I suspect there might be a few miserable people.

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 06/03/2025 19:09

babynot · 06/03/2025 17:21

Copy it out for him and write a note explaining you’ve done this as you didn’t want him missing his free time at home for her mistake.

Yes I'm tempted just to do this as I'm not happy making DS do it.

No way! Neither of you should waste time on this. I’d question the use of vandalised and say he corrected it. And send a letter saying that you don’t agree with this outcome and that either he starts with the fresh book but doesn’t copy the work, or you keep the old book with a new sticker over it.

Velmy · 06/03/2025 19:09

Yeah the teacher would be getting a very clear 'no' from me, plus a definition of 'vandalism'.

WonderingWanda · 06/03/2025 19:09

This is insane. I would personally vandalise the new book with a note from me telling the teacher that the old one is fine and he didn't vandalise it be simply put his correct name on it.

mogtheexcellent · 06/03/2025 19:07

I would cut the pages out and stick them in the new book.

OneBadKitty · 06/03/2025 19:07

The teacher made a mistake, and told your child not to worry because no dobt she was intending to reprint the label correctly to stick over the original one. Howverver, your child took it on himself to scribble on it and write on the actual cover of the book. Maybe next time he should listen to his teacher.

dailygrowl · 06/03/2025 19:01

welshmercury · 06/03/2025 18:41

Former teacher here. You would not believe just how difficult some senior leaders can be. The teacher may have been worried about a potential book scrutiny that they would be pulled up on it.
I have been given handwriting targets where the kids were writing but not joining and I was given a talking to about what a rubbish teacher I was because of this and would be put on a support plan.

sometimes teachers are so overwhelmed and scared of leaders that they lose all sense of reality as they are worried about losing their job over the most ridiculous things.

this is what it is like in many schools

Perhaps this will teach the teacher not to be sloppy about names next time.

It ludicrous and completely unreasonable of her to expect a small child to bail her out for her error.

Notgoodatpoetrybutgreatatlit · 06/03/2025 19:01

Wow I'm in secondary this is like a window into another universe!
My dad would have made me copy it and he would have said it would be good handwriting practice. End of argument. He would however had followed it up with a lecture about how lucky I was to go to a school with exercise books, and walls and a roof etc, and how there was a war on when he was at school and a bit of a digression into how important it is to accept life is unfair and not to whine about hardship.
Which is why I wouldn't have told him. My mum wasn't an active parent.