DS punished for teachers mistake

And when the SLT have their next book look/observation and the teacher is pulled up for the book and the poor state that its in and how it doesn't conform to the standards set by the school.

Will you stand by your words and your department staff or will you fold like a bad deck of cards and sell the teacher down the river?

Umm - well he shouldn’t be opening stuff on his iPad when he’s not supposed to be, of course he should be punished for that.

Another returner and yes me too occasionally, particularly school stuff. A teacher that sends a lengthy, strongly worded email outlining the consequences of child opening something they're not supposed to on their iPad in class (nothing banned, an app that's allowed but he opened it when he should have been listening to the teacher) - when he's just seen me at the classroom door and not said a single word. Everything seems very serious and formal and behaviour modified by constant reward and punishment rather than respect and genuine affection.

I would stick the page in and write a note to say you do not support the accusation of vandalism and that it's fucking March and you should know Tommy's name after teaching them for six months.

And passive aggressively spell her name wrong or incorrectly abbreviate it. 😂

Teacher is on a power trip. You need to ask for a meeting with the Head.

I would definitely address the misuse of the descriptor 'vandalism' - you don't want that in his file.
Regarding the books - I would write 'Part2' on the new book, tell the teacher that's all she's getting, and leave it at that. Maybe inside the front cover or something. Many classic literary epics have multiple parts.
Re the name - my DD prefers her middle name. No-one has a problem with that. Schools and beyond address her by her preferred name, with official paperwork in her 'paper' name. Easy. We also manage this in the health service where I work, with many people having more English names for their day-to-day, by their real name on the paperwork. We make a little effort and it goes a long way. Names and identities matter.

I'd tell her to have some common sense. The HoD had probably told her that she could issue a punishment for vandalism. This isn't vandalism: the child corrected the teacher's mistake.

Double post.

Oh yes I remember doing that once.

Having to fold the book to reach he middle with the stapler!

Genius

Teacher here, honestly, I'd just tippex it and write the correct name on the label and apologise to the child. This is ridiculous. Do not make him rewrite it. I'd be furious if this was my child. So silly.

Why do people seem so nervous to stand up for themselves or their children?

if this were me I would go speak to her in person at drop off in the morning and say “ NO he will not be doing that because of your mistake, you will print out another correct sticker and stick it over the incorrect name or leave the book as is or you can copy out the work but he will NOT be doing that and don’t you dare ask him to when I’ve gone!, and for the record his name is X please call him by that and proof read your own work before meting out arbitrary punishments”

This is important, take the morning off work if needs be. By not speaking to her you leave him open to her punishing him!

write a note back and spell the teachers name wrong. Utterly ridiculous waste of a workbook too. Teacher IBVVU.

Primary schools sound fucking ridiculous if SLT are fannying about with whether things are stuck in straight or not and whether labels are printed. How is that improving education?

As a secondary teacher I think the only thing I really objected to on the front of someone's exercise book was a bunch of penises. I stuck labels over those.

Former TA here. When I started, kids would write their own names on their books, it looked nice and authentic. Then it was decided to ‘improve standards’ by using labels…. I got it down to a fine art so I didn’t waste any sheets. Some TAs were known to hoard boxes of labels, such was the importance of these labels! I would always, always double check from the list of names we were given before printing but occasionally there would be changes. Names are important, children want to be called by their name, it’s theirs, it is part of their identity so if a mistake had been made, we would have said something like, “We are so sorry but don’t worry, we will get another label printed out by tomorrow.” We would never have expected a child to copy out work into a new book, what a waste of precious time and resources.

It probably is the scribbling out rather than crossing out neatly that's the issue?

I remember having to use a ruler to cross out neatly!

I didn’t see your corrections, apologies.

Peel sticker with correct name on and put on old book like others suggest.

Then email teacher with miss spelt name Smythie instead of Smith like someone else suggested and add;

I have taken the initiative of using the new sticker which has the correct spelling of my son's name and put it on the original book.

He will not be repeating the work you requested.

You described his great initiative as vandalism which I was quite disappointed at. Please refrain from calling him from the incorrect name.

Regards

Tommy's mum.

... and if anyone wants the exhaustion of continually correcting people for an unintuitive spelling, that's on them.

i'd say school books count as something official.

one of my kids chooses to use a shortened version of her name and refuses to acknowledge the full version.. its her name, her choice, and her school respects that, so uses her preferred version on everything ,including her records.

If her school and its teachers of 3k pupils can manage it, no-one else has a leg to stand on.

If you choose to let it slide, that is on you.

My son would have done the same. He hates people using his full name as we’ve always used the shortened version but wanted to give him the full version so he has options when he’s older. Think along the lines of we called him Edward but use Teddy, full name would look better on a CV type situation. However, when naming him we didn’t realise he was autistic and is now very fixed on his abbreviated version 🙈🤣

I have slightly uncommon first and last names. People regularly spell and say them wrong. I never correct anyone, except when they have to be exact for some official purpose. My first name is also shortened, occasionally even lengthened, in various ways. Again, I just happily go along with it. I can't imagine constantly correcting people. In fact, I would note that it sounded more 'correct' to them the other way.

Maybe... Or maybe the teacher is an arsehole? It does happen you know.

One teacher took a shocking level of dislike to me towards the end of year 6. My friends still mention to this day how much of an unprofessional cunt she was.

It is absolutely is a hill to die on, i agree.

My kids both have 'not-common' spellings of names, think Jonathan instead of Johnathan and Clare instead of Claire type things that are specific to their heritage.

The teachers CONSTANTLY spelled their names wrong, and i pointed it out every time.

If his name is Thomas, it should be written as Thomas, not Tom. I wouldn't accept a name with an incorrect name on it as an adult, why should they as kids?

Photocopy the pages and stick them in the new book :-D