11+4 and having cravings - husband says to go out on bike to get snacks

Pregnancy isn’t irrelevant! She’s nauseous, ravenous, and living on marmite sandwiches.
Not ideal to be cycling when nauseous and overly hungry, to be honest.

Next time order a supermarket delivery of the snacks you want topped up with food you need.

In fact, do that now so that tomorrow whether you fancy hotdogs, crisps, lime pickle or ice cream, then you have them!

At that stage I was throwing up when I didn’t have the right food, and often when I did. I remember eating hot dogs out of the jar, thinking at last I’d found something that I didn’t throw up! I was wrong, as it happens.

People saying she’s unreasonable, why? She’s pregnant with his child and hungry, my DH would’ve brought a whole selection of snacks, drinks and surprises as soon as he could and apologised for leaving me without everything I need or want. He’d also have some choice words for a man suggesting his pregnant partner cycle down a motorway for her own snacks.

I’d tell him to fix up and fast, he’s not a good example of a partner or future father from what you’ve said.

Although I agree that people shouldn't be unkind I'm sure you're daughter wouldn't choose to live somewhere where she can't walk and/ or get the bus to the shops!

It isn’t the lack of driving, its choosing to live somewhere and then also being scared to go to the nearest shop. Presumably she wouldn’r choose to live somewhere with poor to no public transport?

This is madness op, you live somewhere remote and don’t drive and don’t want to cycle. You’ve effectively made your own life very restricted

Depends on his tone and how much you’ve taken it to heart. There is a difference between craving and not being able to eat anything. Sometimes cravings can be exaggerated, whereas only being able to eat a certain thing is more dire.

When I was pregnant recently I would express my cravings and sometimes would “wait days” - but I thought that was reasonable as I didn’t need it then and there.

Whereas at the beginning of my pregnancy I couldn’t eat a thing. And my OH was so concerned that we did take a break from working from home and took a walk until we got something I could stomach. Plus when I had gestational diabetes and he made a meal, I couldn’t have some of the stuff so he rushed out to get the whole grain equivalent.

So I get why you are annoyed. But can the craving wait?

YABU

You are a grown adult and if you want a snack then you can go and get one.

If there’s no food in the house then you can ask DH to take you food shopping after work.
But it’s taking the piss to ask him to go to the shop just because you want a snack.

You being pregnant is completely irrelevant.

Any neighbours with well stocked cupboards uou can walk to?
But yes you need to plan for urgent urgent needs with newborn what delivery services are available to you?

Can I just point out that there are many very good (and in fact legal) reasons why someone might not drive.
My DD has epilepsy, she may never be allowed to drive.
I hope people are a bit nicer to her if she ever has a baby.

Fucking hell 😂. What warriors us women are 🙃

I had cravivgs in pregnancy and I live in a rural area.
If I wanted something I didn’t have at home… I didn’t have it.

Yeah, sorry, YABU. I’m 34+5 so I get the pregnancy angle, but you’re still being unreasonable here.

Deliveroo,uber eats, Tesco whoosh? Do any deliver to you?

You are an adult. Get your own or do without.

My husband learned to drive when I got pregnant for the same reason.

You are being a bit unreasonable, OP, but I do also sympathise - I was sick every day until 16 weeks when I was pregnant and whilst I could manage it was a lot harder!

Here on Mumsnet you'll get mostly the response that you should cycle through 10 miles of snow before asking your DH to get you a pregnancy craving.
Something about pregnancy cravings really sets people off here...

I'm guessing a lot of women don't have partners who are kind and helpful and would want to take care of them whilst they are sick from carrying his baby.

OP, my husband would have said "as soon as I can I will go and get it for you, do you think you can wait that long?".

Only if I had said I couldn't wait, would he of suggested I cycle. (Even then, I don't think he would have suggested it tbh).

Sometimes I wonder about the responses on here as they just don't reflect the relationships I see around me.
Sure a lot of men are jerks, but pregnancy cravings are something men can do to help during pregnancy.

9 months of you sacrificing your body and your health to bring BOTH of your child into the world.

He is doing sweet F all in this situation other than having had sex in the beginning.

Getting them happily and with love is the bare minimum.

I will never get why non drivers choose to live rurally or not within walking distance of shops then expect the husband/ wife/ other person to do all the running around at their whim. I would hate to be expected to always nip out if my OH wanted something pregnant or not

Maybe you need to think if this location and house is best for you, DH and baby in the long term as newborns can be unpredictable you may need to be within walking distance to ship’s activities etc

This, can you move before baby arrives as I don't think it will be great not being able to go anywhere then

I can see both sides. If you've suddenly started with the nausea since you last went food shopping, then I think he should cut you some slack. If you've been asking him to pop to the shops every other day for weeks, then I can see why he wants you to go yourself.

YANBU. Most partners would nip out to get you something. The fact he cut you off before you finished what you were saying was rude too. I can’t believe he’d want you to cycle on that route. Do you think he’s jealous and grumpy?

This is a massive non event. You are both working so neither can just down tools to 'go and get snacks'. Wait until 'home time' or eat what's on hand.

I think a lot of people are being really unfair. I felt wretched at 11 weeks and didn't really feel better until about 20 weeks. I couldn't eat what I usually did and needed certain things to keep the nausea at bay. I felt like I had a severe hangover and wouldn't have felt comfortable cycling on a busy road. I did manage to swim and walk a lot though. You need need to address the transport issue going forward. Having to rely on lifts everywhere will be miserable with a baby. Is there a reason you're living somewhere so inconvenient.

Good luck and I hope you feel better soon. Pregnancy nausea is the absolute pits.

Uber eats? Delivery?

I’m with you OP. With my first DC I had horrendous nausea and food aversions during the first trimester, if I could find something I wanted to eat it was a bloody miracle. If we didn’t have it in the house my DH used to pop to the shop for me after work (we both worked full-time). Not because I was incapable, just because it was kind. Pregnancy can be really tough sometimes!

You need to get a wiggle on then. Baby will be here in about 7 months and you need to pass your theory before you can take the actual driving test, you aren't leaving yourself much time.