11+4 and having cravings - husband says to go out on bike to get snacks

I think that you need to make sure that before this baby arrives you have a good mode of transport for your daily independent movement.
you can’t be dependent on your husband.
your life will be frustrating and miserable.
even more so when you have kids.

before I could finish what I was saying and explain that it can wait till he finishes work, he said I should cycle to the motorway service station.

So what did he say when you said about him waiting until he finishes work?

If I asked my DP to go shopping and then he interrupted me thinking I meant now, I would have corrected him and told him I meant later on when he finished.

If he refuses to drive you to the shops even when he’s not working, then you’re not BU and he’s BVU.

But if he didn’t want to stop working and drive you immediately to the shops and told you to cycle/walk yourself if you wanted it soon (which you are more than capable of doing), then he’s not BU.

He's being a bit of an arsehole imo. My dh would cycle himself to get me snacks when im pregnant.

I know, I feel for you and hope your partner steps up. I was talking about how little love and kindness others seem to be okay with receiving, if doing a shop run is too much to expect while carrying his child.

I think you are both unreasonable tbh. It's not that much of a bother for him to get you some snacks at the end of the day given how ill you are feeling. Sounds like a total lack of empathy on his part but I can also see how it might annoy him that you are reliant on him for everything transport wise. There is no way in hell I would live in the countryside and not be able to drive. You are basically trapped and that fills me with dread!
I would seriously prioritise learning to drive OP. There is no reason why you can't start learning now while you're pregnant and if you are any good you might get passed before baby is here. Don't ever rely on a man to do things for you.

Right I agree there are bigger issues here, how are you going to cope throughout pregnancy, or worse with a baby? If you need to go for antenatal apportionments, to A&E, to all the thousands of things you’ll need to take the baby to. What about school when the time comes?

It’s fine not to drive of course but anyone o know who doesn’t drive lives in a city with excellent public transport.

I get the WFH part but at the same time I don’t think thats how a good partner would respond regardless. You’re supposed to go out of your way for each other and look after each other- I don’t think OP has that,

‘I’ll go and get everything you want just as soon as I have five minutes, I’m sorry that I’m so busy darling’ or similar is what I’d expect if he couldn’t go until later.

People are being harsh, perhaps they had easier pregnancies? I had unbelievable nausea and could only have very plain food at times - lots of crackers and things. I couldn’t imagine cycling on a smoggy motorway while feeling like hurling. Honestly I think he’s a jerk - both my partner and I have picked up things for each other when someone is feeling ill or just exhausted. He doesn’t sound that caring tbh. I would start the ball rolling on driving lessons asap as it really is easier with kids if you can drive places!

Uber? Deliveroo? JustEat?

You're getting a rough ride here OPand I'm not sure why.
Pregnancy can be tough and if my DH had told me to cycle near/on a motorway to get snacks I would've told him to stop being so fucking ridiculous. Getting something on the way home isn't that much of a hardship, I'm not sure why a bit decency and understanding for the woman you love, who's carrying your child is so hard to understand.

I wouldn’t at all judge someone for not wanting to drive, people don’t want to or can’t for lots of reasons.

But when people don’t drive and then expect someone else to do all the driving for them, that’s a different thing entirely.

People can be right twats about others not driving, people treat me like I'm.backwards because I don't drive, even though it's because I also have epilepsy. Someone even suggested I just get a small car once as if that made a difference to the size of a crash I could cause.

Anyway I digress. Its perfectly possible to have kids without driving, I have 3, but live in a large town. However your life will be infinitely easier if you can learn to drive.

I don't think your DH was being unreasonable, mine is very patient about doing all the driving but am sure he gets fed up at times.

I think this will be a very loooong pregnancy

There was food in the house but as OPs title says she had a craving and wanted a snack.

How many times on MN do we say WFH is still working and no one would be turning up at their partners work saying they were craving a particular snack.

You do not need to eat the things you crave.

As OP said, she was happy to wait until he had finished work and so it obviously wasn’t an issue about being hungry.

I had horrendous sickness from 6 weeks through to 24 weeks with dd. Just going into a shop would make me heave due to the smells. I think unless you have experience it, it's really hard to understand just how bloody debilitating 'morning' sickness can be. I ended up being off work at one point, because I was running to heave into the bogs at certain smells. Dh had to do all the shopping. At one point I was craving strawberries (in the middle of winter) and bless him, he went the extra mile to find some (I know you can get strawberries year round now, but this was several years ago and like you OP, we're rural, dh husband drove 30 miles, just to get me some...at the point I was losing a lot of weight as I was struggling to eat anything, or keep anything down).
Whilst I can understand he might not have had the time to go if about to have a work call, he could have said 'I'll go in my next break'. Added to which 10 mins on a bike is a few mins in a car.
Good luck when the baby arrives, I think you might need it, and don't give up your job, whatever you do.

The bar is so low it’s practically in hell with some people 😂

How are you going to get out with the baby?