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To think that some people’s actions are so vile, it feels like they’re not even human?

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AlertBird · 06/03/2025 11:29

There are certain individuals whose behaviour just seems so cruel, selfish, or malicious that it’s hard to believe they’re actually capable of empathy or decency. Whether it’s taking advantage of others, hurting people for no reason, or just being utterly toxic - sometimes I wonder if there are people out there who are just beyond help.

Am I being too harsh? Or are there truly some people who just lack basic humanity?

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ThatsNotMyTeen · 06/03/2025 13:09

Whateverwhateverever · 06/03/2025 12:56

Agree ,anyone who tortures and murders other human beings,paedophiles , child murderers etc . These creatures shouldn’t be allowed to exist.

Yes, was watching a doco about Peter Tobin the other day. What a truly evil man.

Also agree on Andreas Lubnitz and any family annihilator types as well as usual suspects like Hitler, Kim Jong Il, etc

ginasevern · 06/03/2025 13:09

Yes OP, there are people who are beyond redemption. I read an article by an eminent psychologist recently which said that serial killers, paedophiles, rapists and people who torture animals (amongst other examples) can never, ever be rehabilitated. I used to think when I was younger that everyone could be "saved", or at least deserved the chance. I do not believe that anymore.

DaveyTheCavy · 06/03/2025 13:03

I have sympathy for thoswho feel depressed enough to take their own lives, but those who take others with them not so much. There are exceptions such as poor Andrea Yates, of course.

TotHappy · 06/03/2025 13:03

It's really dangerous to say bad humans are not even human, I think. Calling paedophiles, serial killers, dictators etc 'monsters' others them so we can argue we're alright. Whitewashing humanity won't help us fix it though and its the height of arrogance. It goes like this:

'Humans are good.'
'Those people are not good.'
'Therefore those people are not human.'

But that's logically nonsense, because the basic premise is not true - what defines us as human is not our goodness but our DNA. If they have human DNA they are human. But if that's true, your argument has to go like this:

'Humans are those with human DNA.
Some people with human DNA are bad.
Therefore some humans are bad.'

And people don't want to accept that. Some humans are bad. They're human, like you, but they're bad.

menopausalfart · 06/03/2025 13:00

We need a good news channel. A place to show good deeds being done around the world.

Whateverwhateverever · 06/03/2025 12:56

Agree ,anyone who tortures and murders other human beings,paedophiles , child murderers etc . These creatures shouldn’t be allowed to exist.

ssd · 06/03/2025 12:55

Wildflowers99 · 06/03/2025 11:39

Trump? Levi Bellfield? Yes.

Calling somebody toxic for sharing a few hard truths or not enabling you? No

I know trump is a total dickhead but he doesnt compare with bellfield at all.

nextdoorsgerbil · 06/03/2025 12:53

IEatSauerkrautBeforeItWasCool · 06/03/2025 12:51

I have a feeling OP didn’t mean politics....

This, for goodness sake!

Stop commandeering this thread to dehumanise people whose politics you disagree with. Doing that actually makes you one of the bad guys, not the one of the good guys.

Maitri108 · 06/03/2025 12:52

Of course you're not being too harsh. The people who hacked their neighbours up in the Rwandan genocide are normal people.

I've heard people who would consider themselves perfectly civilised, even decent, justifying genocide.

There's a lot of darkness in human nature.

nextdoorsgerbil · 06/03/2025 12:51

At its worst, I stopped thinking of my Ex as human. I started to think of him as 'It'. As in, 'Oh God, its home.' He didn't behave like normal adults do. There were reasons for that, but that didn't make living with him any less traumatic.

IEatSauerkrautBeforeItWasCool · 06/03/2025 12:51

I have a feeling OP didn’t mean politics....

DaveyTheCavy · 06/03/2025 12:48

Nothatgingerpirate · 06/03/2025 12:44

Alrighty.
Andreas Lubitz.

Was he that selfish pilot who flew his plane into a mountain?

JasmineTea11 · 06/03/2025 12:47

Definitely these people exist (JD Vance?!) But I'm an optimist and believe they are the minority.

lottie2008 · 06/03/2025 12:44

@AlertBird
Yes. I'm 3hrs past separation from my ex partner and father of my children. When we separated (which he also wanted) band then I met someone else.
He went on a witch hunt to separate me from my family (who I had looked after for years) and my local friends. And then they set social services on to me alleging that I was an incapable mother.
There is abuse and then there is evil.

Nothatgingerpirate · 06/03/2025 12:44

letsallchant · 06/03/2025 12:43

Of course you are. We do have freedom of speech here despite what that idiot Vance thinks. I just haven't seen any evidence of the vile actions and inhuman behaviour that the thread asks about. If you've got any, feel free to share!

Alrighty.
Andreas Lubitz.

letsallchant · 06/03/2025 12:43

Nothatgingerpirate · 06/03/2025 12:39

"Bots, Russian trolls". 🤣
I'm Czech, actually.
Am I allowed NOT to worship Zelensky and his actions???
Thank you.
PS: I speak Russian a bit, enough not to get lost if ever in their territory 😊

Of course you are. We do have freedom of speech here despite what that idiot Vance thinks. I just haven't seen any evidence of the vile actions and inhuman behaviour that the thread asks about. If you've got any, feel free to share!

Nothatgingerpirate · 06/03/2025 12:39

"Bots, Russian trolls". 🤣
I'm Czech, actually.
Am I allowed NOT to worship Zelensky and his actions???
Thank you.
PS: I speak Russian a bit, enough not to get lost if ever in their territory 😊

DaveyTheCavy · 06/03/2025 12:28

The Southport killer
Jonty Bravery (guy who pushed a little kid off a gallery balcony)
Pol pot
Hitler
Stalin

JeanPaulGagtier · 06/03/2025 12:26

I'm going with the dictators of the world and Trump.
Serial killers are likely to have physical brain damage, so even they aren't ALL "evil" - it's simply an inability to see other people are real due to (usually) abuse or violence as a child that damages the part of the brain that regulates emotions, the idea of consequences and empathy.

Trump and dictators are just narc psychopaths. This are the "vilest" kind of people as they have power, money and freedom to enact any kind of hatred they want on more people.

Snippit · 06/03/2025 12:26

Wildflowers99 · 06/03/2025 11:39

Trump? Levi Bellfield? Yes.

Calling somebody toxic for sharing a few hard truths or not enabling you? No

I thought Trump straight away. He definitely has narcissistic traits and a bully.

SpecduckularlyQuackers · 06/03/2025 12:23

I'm reminded that Terry Pratchett wrote that humans are 'where the falling angel meets the rising ape'.

letsallchant · 06/03/2025 12:23

Nothatgingerpirate · 06/03/2025 11:43

Not Trump again, surely.
How about Mr. Zelensky?
I'm sure some stuff is gonna come out in time, we might all be very surprised about.

Quick off the mark with the anti Zelensky posts! How enthusiastic you are to make this point. I'll wait to see when he mocks disabled people live on TV or one of the many, many other things that would put him on a par with let's say other world leaders.

Keukenhof · 06/03/2025 12:22

I think history has shown us that dehumanising people is very dangerous.

AlertBird · 06/03/2025 12:21

Panterusblackish · 06/03/2025 12:17

I see the bots are out.

Zelenskyy has said he would step down as leader if Ukraine could join NATO.

Hardy the act of a man who lacks basic humanity. Rather the act of a leader who puts his people first.

Excuse me? I’m not a bot, I’m a human and I post here from time to time as my history shows. Not sure why everyone if referring to Zelensky and co and the thread has turned into a convo about them, when my post doesn’t mention them.

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stayathomer · 06/03/2025 12:20

Was once at the seafront and a man and his two children were putting chips down for the seagulls to come over to, then throwing chips at them or shouting. I shouted ‘hey’ at them and got the most chilling stare back from the dad

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