To really not be enjoying having two children?

They are young though you had baby & toddler now toddler&preschooler it Is hard work, they are going to be fighting for attention but you don't have to get into the middle of every disagreement just let them crack on and work it out.

Not being unreasonable. It is OK to feel out of your depth and overwhelmed. I have 2 kids (5&3), and despite it being much easier now (play together nicely for the most part, both potty trained, sleeping reasonably, not really using buggies etc), it is still tough. My mum said 'double the kids, triple the work'.

Do you have any family close by who you would be OK stepping in and helping? I have my inlaws and mum, and I tend to schedule days out and trips when there is someone else coming with me (husband, and grandparent, friend etc).

Do you get any time to yourself at all? Even if it is just a couple of hours to do something you like solo?

But the reality is, that it is hard. I just want to give you a big hug, as I could have written your post a year ago.

I know it’s probably been said to you but it will become easier when they get older, they’ll play together and you’ll have a bit of time to yourself! Two year olds are hard work never mind mixing in a four year old. My two are 10 and 7 and will quite happily play together for a good hour or so. Just push through, I think when the summer hits you’ll feel better, you may be able to sit in a chair in the garden watching them both in a paddling pool!

How old are they?

I found it went in phases - it would be lovely having two for a while and then one would go through a developmental leap and then it would be hell for a while until everyone adjusted.
I was a SAHM, with very little help until DH got in from work each evening (at bedtime if I was lucky!). I found it helpful to get out of the house at least once a day either to parent and baby/toddler groups or just a trip to the park, library etc. Sometimes we met up with friends and sometimes grandparents if they were around.

What ages are they?