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To find it hard to leave tips in restaurants these days?

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RubyFlax · 05/03/2025 21:04

Went for a nice meal out this week with DH, to a restaurant we’ve not tried before. Food was really nice, atmosphere and service both good. All in all a lovely time.
However am I the only one who finds it hard to leave a tip these days?
I know some places will add a service charge to the bill… no issue with this (assuming the meal / service has not been a disaster), but many others do not, and I’ve found a number of times, as happened this week, the server will just hold out the card machine for you to tap contactless with the amount already on, with no mention of a tip, and no way to add it yourself as you can’t see the screen / are not holding the card reader.
What do you do in these instances ? Ask the server to amend the amount / add a tip?
Like a lot of people we hardly ever have cash on us, and often pay for stuff via Apple Pay on phone so I don’t have cash I can leave on the table afterwards.
Interested to know what others do as I feel a bit bad for not leaving one this week. Should I be verbally stating I want to add a tip before they hold out the card machine (in my opinion a bit awkward) or should I be making sure I’ve taken some cash out to leave as a tip !?
I used to work in hospitality/ waitressing as a teenager & know how appreciated tips are so it doesn’t sit right with me to not leave anything.
In the UK by the way, as I know tipping culture varies by country!

OP posts:
user1471453601 · 05/03/2025 21:46

A restaurant is one of the few places I pay cash, for this reason.

I often eat out with two different groups, and We all do it. It's an attempt to ensure the tip goes to the servers and we hope the cook

TheChosenTwo · 05/03/2025 21:46

I will either ask to add it to the bill if they hand out a card machine or leave cash if I have it.
So no, I don’t find it hard to tip, it’s very straightforward in fact!

Applestrudeled · 05/03/2025 21:44

I make an effort to carry a bit of cash for tips. Every time it comes to leaving a tip, my friends act like it is a massive surprise. It's not terribly difficult to prepare for! (And I rarely spend cash normally - generally I just spend notes so I can get a few coins in change for situations like tipping.)

Nanny1983 · 05/03/2025 21:44

My dd works in a well known restaurant and she gets to keep any tips in cash given to her to take home that night but if they pay card or add to the bill she gets a percentage in her wages and has to share the rest of her tip with the kitchen .

Give a tip in cash especially if the service has been lovely from a certain member of staff .

DuringDinnerMints · 05/03/2025 21:42

I ask the server if they get to keep their tips. Quite often, they can keep cash tips but anything on the card reader gets kept by the owner.

yeesh · 05/03/2025 21:41

in a lot of places they don’t get tips paid by card we always just take some cash first a tip.

UpToonGirl · 05/03/2025 21:41

DH always asks them to add X amount, even if they are holding the card machine out. Bit of a faff as they have to go back a few steps. I try and make sure I have cash.

InsegnanteScozzese · 05/03/2025 21:28

I just ask if I can add a tip on if service isn't included.

scissy · 05/03/2025 21:27

I usually end up having to ask the server if it's not obvious. There's usually a way to do it in the card machine as part of the transaction, so just ask? In those cases they've been able to sort it for me.

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 05/03/2025 21:20

Take cash and give it to them that way

OldJohn · 05/03/2025 21:16

I often ask if I can add a tip to the bill ot get cash back which then goes into the tips.

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