To hate holiday with baby

Agree with all this! I also had a great time on holiday with my babies and toddlers. You're there now, so making the most of it is the most sensible thing. Get through the first day and sounds like DH needs to look after the baby so you can have some time to relax.

I well remember the seven hour train journey to get to our destination, with an 10 year old, and three under fives 😂 DH sat on a separate table and left me with the 4 kids 🙈😂
im sorry it was so stressful for you, a ten hour flight is not much fun regardless of taking a young child with you, but you’re there now, so put your feet up and relax. I guess you have a choice between putting the flight behind you and trying to enjoy the rest of the holiday, or holding onto that resentment and refusing to be positive for the next week. Which will make you happier?

I put you were unreasonable when I read your Op, but now reading this I retract it. You are not on holiday! Visiting family and friends is not a relaxing family holiday. I would be pissed too.

A 10 hour flight especially time (and/or extreme climate) difference with a baby is madness IMO - the only exception might be for family eg an event or elderly relatives who are too frail to travel to meet the baby.

It’a obviously not going to be much of a holiday, futile and unfair to blame DH as it was a mutual decision to go.

Oh god that sounds awful. 😫I once took ds1 on an 8 hour flight at 10 weeks which wasn’t too bad as he slept most of the way through but I can imagine when they’re older babies it would be hell.
I’ve only been on a few weekend trips with the dc (3 and 1) and I always ended up either falling ill or they start acting up. I also find hotel rooms stressful due to no child proofing so it’s impossible to relax.

Shame you had to throw in the mean spirited hard work comment to a woman who's obviously struggling, especially when you could've just made it a post with advice from experience.

Baby carrier FTW! Baby can be as close as it needs and you save your back and arms. Easier in crowds as well and the absolute best when flying.

Just buy one that is a known brand, Ergo Baby, Mancuca or such. They have a lot of off brands in Asia (i guess that is where you are) that might not be safe.

Or check out what they have locally. The traditional carriers they have in some places in Asia are fenomenal.

Or you can try the kanga/kitenge route. Easiest one to try even if it is scary. Check out tutorials on Youtube.

I'm annoyed with your DH on your behalf because I would have absolutely hated this at 6 months. It can be really hard to be assertive and advocate for yourself 6 months post partum when you're sleep deprived. No doubt there will have been guilt tripping about wanting family to meet the baby. Your DH should have listened seriously to your objections and taken them on board, but he didnt. Now you're having a miserable time and having to put on a brave face for (I'm guessing his) family. No wonder you're angry.

This isn't a holiday. Thinking of it as such will lead to more resentment. People will say try to relax and enjoy it but I know that in your shoes I would struggle to do that. Personally, I would reframe it in my mind as a business trip. I would tell myself I've just got to get through it rather than trying to force myself to enjoy it. Just remind yourself it's not forever, you'll soon be back home and then when the dust has settled and you're calm, you can sit DH down and explain that you won't be doing that again until baby is older and why you felt hurt and frustrated that your feelings weren't taken into account.

It's a completely normal reaction to being in a strange place, jetlagged, with an unsettled baby, with a partner/spouse who's in holiday mode.
Your post was tone-deaf @Candledrip

Haha. You'd need mental health issues to think long haul flights with a 6 month old is a good idea......

OP you're just tired now & it'll feel better after a good sleep.

We brought our baby to Australia on our first trip when baby was 11 months old. We had 3 x flights of 1 hour, 13 hours & then 9 hours. We were (badly) advised by travel agent to do it all in one go, as opposed to breaking it up with an overnight in Singapore etc.

Baby got sick on the flight & was really ill for the first week which was hard & we were worried for sure. But we all bounced back & we were away for 3 months & we had a ball..

We've travelled a huge amount with dc after that & enjoyed it all. Baby is a young adult now & 100% has the travelling bug!

My top tips are get as much rest & sleep as you can
Ask your husband to step up & take over the care of the baby for next couple of days (apart from bf)
Work on your expectations of what a holiday is with a baby / child. It's not the same as a prebaby holiday. It's just different not worse.

I adored experiencing new places with our baby/ child. We found it allowed us to experience aspects of places more like a local might as we were in playgrounds or parks & supermarkets etc

Apartments all the way too at thus stage so you all have a bit of breathing space especially at night when dc is asleep

Plus you have a fridge (for wine & beer! As well as baby stuff) & a cooker for baby's breakfast etc & generally a washing machine. We didn't use all these things too much but good to know they were there if needed

We rarely, if ever, did a traditional beach resort holiday & we were in a lot of cities, several trips to Australia, USA, Canada, Thailand & all over Europe. We usually tried to have an apartment with a balcony so we could sit out in the evenings

Try to get over your anger & not let it ruin your trip

How long are you going for OP? (sorry if I missed that) Do you have enough time that you can take it easy for a day or so, resting as much as you can and easing into things? Things could look quite different once you've settled into the time difference a bit more and got over the funk of travelling.

We did a similar length flight when our DC was not far off a year old and the first day was a bit of a twilight zone (not least as we'd probably been awake for the best part of 24 hours by the end of it!) but had a wonderful time afterwards, and DC adapted to the time difference even quicker than us with naps. Breastfeeding was a godsend as DC could be taken care of whatever we were doing. Hope things look a bit brighter soon and you end up having a great time - you've done the hardest bit now!

Op i was about to say, don't stress, you're there now , have fun, go and relax by the pool, don't divorce your husband, he's planned a lovely holiday for you... then you said you're there to visit friends and family. Now I'm mad on your behalf 😒

Ooh see Id rather take a 5 month old on a long journey than a 14 .month old. They older ones will be walking/crawling and won't want to be in the seat as well as being too big the bassinet

Well for next time, or for other mums that are thinking of going on holiday with theirs.

bit late

Well don't. Go on an easier holiday instead.

She's explained why. They are visiting family.

Why have you gone somewhere that's 10 hours away? Go to Spain. You can definitely have good and fun holidays with babies and toddlers but you need to be accommodating of their needs.

Many years ago I remember my GP saying to me 'babies and very young children neither need or appreciate holidays, it is a waste of time taking them and a waste of money & effort'. At the time I thought he was being a bit anal and mean........did'nt take me long to understand his logic.
OP, I think you are all jet-lagged and exhausted from the journey, this will pass I am sure. Maybe, in time, your OH will come to realise that he made a bad decision. But it is done now, you're at your holiday destination so try to relax, take it a day at a time and don't be too adventurous for want of a better word. Put this down to experience, be kind to yourself and one another. You will get through this, it is only a holiday.

I found travelling with 5/6 mo EBF babies one of the best times because they are so portable (all you need is your boobs) and they stay where you put them! Worst age definitely 16/18 months to 3 years.
Howver, the flight was always the worst and we never braved a 10 hour one!
I say get a good nights sleep if you can and see if it feels better in the morning.

Rubbish. Babies are hard work when not on holiday, even worse when you take them away. Unfamiliar environment. No one is a winner here. OP is right to be feeling down about her situation. She'll have to make the best of a sh*t situation now. We all learn from experience.

I have been away with a 9 mo and a 19 mo on holidays years ago. DH's idea both times. What a coincidence OP🤣

you are seeing family, that will be worth it op

Holidays with children under 5 are really stressful and just parenting abroad with an overheated, overstumulated little dictator. It gets easier after that!

what are your plans for the week?
are they all baby friendly