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To not sleep with my boyfriend because he had norovirus?

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Letskeepthisbetweenus · 05/03/2025 16:19

My BF caught norovirus last week, d and v. His last synptoms were at the weekend - d on Saturday and v on Friday.

I am going away for three weeks tomorrow morning to Indonesia for work, and I am taking two planes and a boat. Tonight will be the last night we see each other before the three week gap We really want to sleep together but I just don’t want to catch it, especially as I am about to travel.

what do you think are the chances?

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Sandsnake · 05/03/2025 17:26

I wouldn’t risk it. Noro is unbelievably contagious and the 48 hour thing is a rule of thumb and not precise. My parents once caught noro from us four days after we were last sick / had diarrhoea! There’s obviously a chance that you’ve already picked it up from him but I’d still try to minimise risk by avoiding close physical contact contact. Good luck - hope you don’t get it!

Imbusytodaysorry · 05/03/2025 17:22

Letskeepthisbetweenus · 05/03/2025 16:27

Last diarrhoea was Saturday, last vomiting was Friday. So we are past 48 hours but I still really don’t want to get it

Have you seen him in this time at all ?
Have you been near each other kissed ! Or is this just about sex

WiddlinDiddlin · 05/03/2025 17:16

If you've been spending time with him, touching one another, touching the same things he's touched, then you're at risk anyway. I'd have totally avoided him, not just not slept with him.

beadystar · 05/03/2025 17:14

You'll be fine for three weeks. I wouldn't see him. Imagine V&D on a plane. Hard pass.

Nanny0gg · 05/03/2025 17:08

Letskeepthisbetweenus · 05/03/2025 16:27

Last diarrhoea was Saturday, last vomiting was Friday. So we are past 48 hours but I still really don’t want to get it

Not worth the risk

You're not gone that long

Tagyoureit · 05/03/2025 17:07

God good no!! How positively icky!!

Imagine he does pass it on to you and it hits mid flight?? 🤢🤢

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 05/03/2025 17:04

The 48 hours is a minimum not an absolute rule and I believe people can be contagious for longer. If you do see him I'd meet out somewhere , not go to his, as think contaminated surfaces etc can remain infectious for longer

CalicoPusscat · 05/03/2025 16:55

Well I wouldn't want to sleep with me last week when I had it. And yes it does take a few days to start to recover.

He should rest and get plenty of fluids and start eating again, if he hasn't already. You're not away for long.

HardenYourHeart · 05/03/2025 16:46

Technically, 24 hours after the symptoms are gone should be fine. However, what's the rush? You'll be back in three weeks and he will likely still feel rough recovering from noro.

outerspacepotato · 05/03/2025 16:41

My last bout with Noro put me in the hospital so I would not be seeing him at all. He could still be shedding the virus.

Original poster
Letskeepthisbetweenus · 05/03/2025 16:27

Last diarrhoea was Saturday, last vomiting was Friday. So we are past 48 hours but I still really don’t want to get it

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Crunchymum · 05/03/2025 16:26

He should be long clear now? 48h from last incident was Monday?

That said I am emetophobic so I'd be waiting a while longer.

Huckyfell · 05/03/2025 16:24

It is an awful sickness. 3 weeks isn't long really,
or 3 weeks with the first week travelling with norovirus.. no chance I would. You'll be back home before you know it.