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To not sleep with my boyfriend because he had norovirus?

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Letskeepthisbetweenus · 05/03/2025 16:19

My BF caught norovirus last week, d and v. His last synptoms were at the weekend - d on Saturday and v on Friday.

I am going away for three weeks tomorrow morning to Indonesia for work, and I am taking two planes and a boat. Tonight will be the last night we see each other before the three week gap We really want to sleep together but I just don’t want to catch it, especially as I am about to travel.

what do you think are the chances?

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Mummyoflittledragon · 07/03/2025 04:55

Idk what you decided op. But I got it from a friend / her house 7 days after all symptoms in the family had stopped.

CalicoPusscat · 07/03/2025 04:07

@Letskeepthisbetweenus hope you got off OK.

When you speak to your boyfriend warn him to stick to bland foods only for the time being, I had a bad reaction to a Thai this evening (I had it about the same time as your boyfriend).

Happy hols!

jolies1 · 05/03/2025 20:35

I have it now and would NOT risk it! Can’t imagine anything worse on a flight or while travelling. My son was sick on Fri, my husband yesterday, me today. It’s a horrible virus.

AlmostAJillSandwich · 05/03/2025 20:33

I wouldn't want to go long haul overseas without some goodbye affection and comfort from my partner, especially if i hadn't seen him for over a week before leaving. (Assuming you havent seen him since before he got ill, so several days before his last D or V symptom, would mean you last saw him over a week ago?)
I only see my partner on mondays overnight, and i hate the tuesday evening til next monday lunchtime gap to see him again. By the time i get there i cant wait to grab him for a cuddle, and of course i also crave the sex later in the evening after dinner and movies.
If you're going to see him in person regardless, i dont think it matters if you have sex or not as its the surfaces of the environment you're more likely to pick up the virus from. As long as he washes his hands after the toilet and theres no absent minded arse touching/scratching etc if he is still viral shedding in his stool, and you avoid any anal play (if thats your thing) then sex is probably no more risky than kissing and cuddling.

JoyousEagle · 05/03/2025 20:30

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 05/03/2025 17:04

The 48 hours is a minimum not an absolute rule and I believe people can be contagious for longer. If you do see him I'd meet out somewhere , not go to his, as think contaminated surfaces etc can remain infectious for longer

Yes, I think 48h is just the most contagious period (and I guess in terms of staying off school it's the time when symptoms are most likely to reappear if you're not totally better).
You can shed the virus for 2 weeks, although only in poo and vomit, not by breathing or coughing. That's partly why it spreads so much in schools I guess - less than thorough hand washing of 5 year olds after they go to the loo!

I probably wouldn't be risking it given the holiday. If there was no holiday I think I'd be fine as the risk is small, it's just the consequence if you get sick on holiday is worse.

FastFood · 05/03/2025 20:24

Stay away. He's not your boyfriend for now, he's an infected creature.
Having noro on a flight would be hell. No partner / child / dog / parent is worth taking that risk.

3Sheetstothewind · 05/03/2025 20:23

Voted yanbu just from the title lol

3WildOnes · 05/03/2025 20:21

I wouldn't even be in the same room as him. You can still be contagious 2 weeks later with Noro.

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LucyLou0527 · 05/03/2025 20:16

my sister in law was symptom free for 3-4 days, I gave her one hug for 5 seconds and me and DH were bed bound for days. Good luck lol

ChompandaGrazia · 05/03/2025 20:11

Do you mean sleep as in sex or sleep as in share a bed?

Would he really want sex once he’s been ill?
As said up thread I’d swap not having sex for not shitting myself on a plane or anywhere else.

onestepfurtheragain · 05/03/2025 20:08

Even if symptom free you can shed it in stools for up to two weeks later - partly why it is so contagious... and why hand hygiene so important.

I really wouldn't!

Catwoman8 · 05/03/2025 18:28

That would be a big no from me, it would be horrific to come down with noro whilst travelling. I know they say 48 hours as a rule of thumb, but I'm sure the virus can remain on surfaces for longer.

sixtyandfabulousofcourse · 05/03/2025 18:17

Just had it and it took me 4 days before I felt right again. best not take chances as I understand where you are going is high risk anyway

HelmholtzWatson · 05/03/2025 18:10

If you're that worried, why see him at all?

OkayLetMeKnowHowItGoes · 05/03/2025 18:06

Would you regret not having nookie more vs shitting yourself on a plane?

Simple choice to me.

Idontknowhatnametochoose · 05/03/2025 18:00

I wouldn't. Not worth the risk. Noro can hang around for two weeks.

BruisedNeckMeat · 05/03/2025 17:58

Not worth risking it.

gamerchick · 05/03/2025 17:41

He'll probably be alright. But it can live on surfaces for ages, weeks in water. If he can give his touch points and bathroom a good clean, change his bed etc then it'll probably be alright.

WhatMe123 · 05/03/2025 17:39

I wouldn't I'd assume he's still shedding virus when he goes the loo. They say 48 hours but it can be much longer than this. It's not been too long at all op

MajorCarolDanvers · 05/03/2025 17:34

After 48 hours he should be fine.

Pieceofpurplesky · 05/03/2025 17:33

Has he scrubbed every surface and washed his sheets?

I wouldn't it would ruin your holiday if you got it!

Didimum · 05/03/2025 17:32

I think you’re being way past over-cautious. You’re 120hrs past last symptom.

Overitallnow · 05/03/2025 17:29

Not a chance I would.

TumbledTussocks · 05/03/2025 17:28

I would wait and see him when you get back

If you're going round anyway and he's still contagious you'll get it anyway.

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