Mom and toddler

OP, you need to get some help with your own anxiety/issues. Your daughter sounds like a perfectly lovely 2 year old. At most she might be a bit anxious but then if she’s spending a lot of time with you and you’re an anxious person she’s most likely learnt it from you.

This seems pathological now. Mods - would this be considered vexatious posting?

The cutlery and repetition are totally normal as well. Mine is a bit older than yours, and will repeat a phrase over and over until I say it back - they want to be acknowledged that they're heard. And cutlery is hard! A year ago they didn't even have purposeful movement of their hands, let alone fine motor skills to that degree.

Toddlers are also very much about what's in front of them, so it wouldn't be too odd she hasn't mentioned your DP if she hasn't seen him in a few days. What's their relationship like typically? Do they spend much 1:1 time together?

It's clear you care about your DD very much. Instead of worrying about therapies, why not try get out to a swim class or soccer class where you both can meet new people and see different behaviours modelled in different environments? 💐 At this age they don't make friends per say, but it can help to expose them to new situations to ease them in.

OP everything and I will say it again EVERYTHING you have described is normal for her age.

Why are you trying so hard to turn normal toddler behaviour into something else? You need help!
Stop trying to convince everyone that theres something wrong with your child. What does your husband say? I'm hoping he is being sensible at least.

The only ‘red flag’ is the high anxiety but from your description that could be learnt behaviour.

Typical and normal behaviour OP. Nothing. You have said would concern me except maybe the learned behaviour of being anxious. Children that young should necessarily know that emotion and are seeing the world through your eyes. If she is having that big of a reaction it’s because she is seeing it from you. Consider how you can help her to understand this emotion .

She sounds like a completely normal toddler. That level of speech, and conversation, is completely typical. And at this age, toddlers just stand and stare at each other instead of play - they don't engage in more than parallel play until after 3.

It does sound like you're fixating on this, and I completely understand the drive to do as much as possible for your kids. It doesn't sound as if she's behind in any way, so no additional therapies would be needed unless there's something you didn't detail in your OP.

Your daughter isn't 'flying under the radar', there's just nothing wrong with her. She not being picked up as ND, because she isn't ND

Get some help for your anxiety before you damage your child with it.

@Toddlermama123 please I beg you....
get some help.
Not for your daughter but for you.
You are obsessed. Your daughter sounds normal and fine.
Get. Some. Help.
Please.
Stop posting over and over on here and book an appointment with your GP who should be able to refer you for help. For YOU.

But some autistic children are non verbal or have delayed speech. Similarly some children are NT and may develop speech more slowly, but then catch up and be perfectly fine. (A few of these in my family.) Your child may not do evrything like other kids but it doesn't mean she isn't NT.

AS can present as communication delays. I'm not sure why you would think otherwise.

I think a lot of it sounds normal toddler behaviour but if you do think she has ASD there’s no harm in a wait and see approach at this age.
My DD was diagnosed with ASD at 7 and at 2 I had no inkling but it did become apparent as she got older and the differences between her and her peers grew

You really need to get some help for yourself. Please try to get some counselling or therapy, and consider trying a medication.

I can see you desperately want to do the right thing for your child, but at the moment you're fixating on the idea that she is autistic in a way that's going to be really unhealthy for both of you.

Like you've been told by lots of posters, your daughter sounds like a normal, happy toddler.

This all sounds completely typical OP.

You can't be a little bit autistic. It's a fallacy.

If it gets to the point where professionals eg school, HV etc think you need to explore this,a professional will assess and diagnose your child. A professional diagnosis has a threshold so you either are or you are not ASC. You may display some symptoms (I certainly do) but you won't meet the threshold for a diagnosis which is very specific.

Therefore please stop worrying about it and let your child develop at her pace.

What do you hope to gain from this thread that you haven't got from your many previous ones @Toddlermama123 ?

Your gut feeling is wrong. Your toddler doesn't need therapy.

YOU need therapy to tackle your anxiety and fixation about this. Deal with your anxiety before it damages your child. I say that as a mother with anxiety.

My DD had completely (as far as I could tell) normal development until the age of around 5. Very social and engaged with the world around her. She is now 13 and diagnosed ASC.

What I'm saying is you can't always tell anyway what will happen down the line. As pp has said. Stop pathologising your daughter's behavior because it sounds as if you are currently projecting your health anxiety on her.

She may be found to be ND down the line, or not. You can't control it so unless there are huge deficiencies which there clearly are not, enjoy your child and more so let her enjoy her life without her parent constantly thinking she's is not developing properly.

So professional have said your child has no problems at all, stop looking for them.