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To be annoyed over school attendance letter

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constantlylactating · 05/03/2025 14:27

Just had an email from DS5's school regarding his attendance. It has dipped to 94.5% and so they are warning me that if it doesn't improve in the next 4 weeks then it will be taken further.

I do understand why they have to issue these, but they have marked him absent on occasions when he has had a 9am dentist appointment, but gone in straight after. Also his last absence was two days because they sent him home after he caught a vomiting bug from another student, and had to stay home for 48 hours.

What am I supposed to do if he gets ill again in the next 4 weeks? (Perfectly possible). Am I expected to just send him in? Or keep him off and have it 'taken further'.

I'm so annoyed I think because it feels so heavy handed when there obviously reasons that they are aware of.

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CremeEggThief · 05/03/2025 14:37

It's a standard thing and it's not meant personally. YABU to get annoyed and think it's only applicable to you.

Comedycook · 05/03/2025 14:36

I understand...I was outraged at getting one because my dcs attendance had dipped below 97%...it was something like 96.8! But yep pretty sure they are just automatic letters

frecklejuice · 05/03/2025 14:36

Bin it and ignore. We are on holiday this week and I'm sure my dd's school are foaming at the mouth but who cares.

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constantlylactating · 05/03/2025 14:35

Xraytime · 05/03/2025 14:34

But the dentist give you a time and sometimes won’t let you change it. I asked for a weekend appointment for my child and was told only private patients on weekends.

This is it, if I don't accept the time they give, there's no other option.

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constantlylactating · 05/03/2025 14:35

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Send him in when he's vomiting? Or when he's in hospital being tested for meningitis, because those were his last two absences?

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Xraytime · 05/03/2025 14:34

But the dentist give you a time and sometimes won’t let you change it. I asked for a weekend appointment for my child and was told only private patients on weekends.

rwalker · 05/03/2025 14:33

Don’t stress it’s a standard process they follow for everyone

if it does come to the take action stage kick it back to them for advice on how to improve

don’t take it personally they can’t pick and choose they have to treat everyone the same from piss rakers to genuine

tbf they’d probably recommend dentist in school hols or after school and that’s it

BeUniqueSheep · 05/03/2025 14:32

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Octavia64 · 05/03/2025 14:30

They are automatic letters,

File them in the bin where they belong.