Wtf is wrong with people when it comes to hidden disabilities?

I’m doing nothing currently as he’s not old enough.

In the future, he’ll be told that he stands up for himself and if that involves hitting, then so be it.

The behaviour of some other kid isn’t my responsibility. That lies with their parents, the school and whatever other agencies may be involved.
My son will never be anyone’s punching bag for any reason - disability, behavioural issues or them just being a little bully. Doesn’t matter, they hit him, he’ll hit back.

You are training your child to consider disabled children to be little arseholes and to thump them. 🤔

If that boy can’t be reliably prevented from groping women in the street, he shouldn’t be allowed in the street, period.

It’s a sad situation, and I’d feel sorry for the boy, but that wouldn’t trump a woman’s right not to be molested in the street.

Have you not heard of family carers?
The hundreds of thousands of them?
It’s not something they choose.

To be clear I don’t think anyone should be hit for any reason.

But I think you’re being very dismissive of family carers. That’s the point I’m making. You seem to have never given their reality a single thought. Most people caring for troubled children, especially those with hidden disabilities, are not trained professionals and they did not choose this.

Parents/carers have an incredibly difficult job and have my sympathies and admiration, but it would be unreasonable to expect anyone to find assault acceptable.

At risk of being raked over the coals for offering an opinion. What I taught mine was to say getting louder with each sentence if it didn’t stop

STOP You are hurting me Anna

STOP ANNA you are hurting me

STOP ANNA YOU ARE HURTING ME

IMO if a teacher/adult hasn’t stepped in by then they can hit back and run away. If they saty the other child’s name it helps the person in charge see what’s happening more easily. That obviously doesn’t work if you have a violent child throwing things across a room but hitting him won’t either.

I hear you, I know the negative potential outcomes for the future.

It’s when I read threads like this and hear about the prevalence of primary school violence that I just can’t bear to think of my son turning into an anxious, crying, fearful shadow of himself. 😫

Rock and a hard place.

It sounds so much better @Downtoearthandsinksthesun you must be so relieved.

They said there will be a special teacher with him from Monday, so sorry can’t remember the name they told me. A couple of weeks ago this child got very upset and threw a chair at another child, got him in the back of the head so there was a hospital report, don’t know if that has anything to do with it.
I also don’t know how it will work but it’s a hell of a lit better than where we were.

You might regret that @NC28 it’s going to open him up to so much that really isn’t good.

This “if you want your child not to be hit, remove them from the school” is exactly why my boy will have my full backing and encouragement to hit back (hard and without guilt) any little arsehole who ever puts their hands on him once he starts school.

I want to make sure that if they him once, they’ll never do it again.

@Downtoearthandsinksthesun i think that sounds more positive but what are school doing to keep your child safe in the meantime?

After posting here yesterday, I decided to call the school again this morning. Seems the child WILL be removed mid April as a specialist place has been found. Parents of said child have given permission for this information to be given now as so many people are concerned and have been repeatedly calling the school. Maybe that’s what they wanted all along, people to complain, who knows.
We have a few weeks to go yet but the end is in sight. Both the child in question and the 29 other children affected will be better off. I cannot begin to explain how relieved I am and if that makes me a bad person, so be it. I don’t care.

I hope somebody else is teaching your children kindness if you can't see your comments are gross. Though I'm pretty sure you do and it's entirely intentional.

Perhaps the difference is keyboard ranter or active parenting. There’s nothing nasty in giving your opinion to someone who asks what you would do in their situation.

But if the school are doing nothing (as you described in your scenario) of course the parents must protect their child.

What is this nonsense? What do YOU suggest the mother does in this situation?

As I said, victim blaming and nastiness.

If your kid is repeatedly hurt in school are you suggesting it would be neglectful if a parent sent them to school.
Isnt it the responsibility of the school and the attackers parents to remove the attacker
They are a danger to others!

So it’s the mother’s fault that the child is attacked at school?
Do you usually blame victims for bad things that happen to them? Or victim’s parents for their children being in a place where they are physically hurt?

No Im saying what I would do in the same situation and what I think of parents who don’t protect their children.

You're victim blaming and making nasty insinuations about another mother at the same time.

So you think the mother is neglecting her child because of another kid in the class physically attacking her? Ok then

I think it is negligent to leave your child anywhere they are repeatedly hurt. I have said what I would do in that situation.

Yes that’s correct.