Had an argument with my boyfriend this morning

Yes, I agree with this. I couldn’t stand being with a bloke who wants reassurance and I have every sympathy with a bloke who’s in a relationship with a woman who demands it. We’re adults - we shouldn’t be demanding attention and then asking for reassurance with a partner who’s annoyed at the attention-seeking behaviour.

I wouldn’t tolerate a man that sulked because he “didn’t want to open his eyes.” That is completely batshit and something an irrational three year-old would say.

Even if you were asleep and were deliberately woken so you could see his ‘funny’ hair, regardless of the time? You’ve more patience than me.

The whole point of the OP is your second paragraph.

Are you very young, OP? This all sounds very immature. Perhaps the sadness you feel is because you are needy but at the same time you know you are driving a wedge between you and him by being over intense/demanding, or something? Maybe cultivating a more outward-looking approach to life would help you be less focused on negativity.

If you're in the sort of relationship where you're actually sharing a life, a bed and a first thing in the morning on a regular basis, and you want it to last, you are going to have to learn the difference between something that warrants a row, tears and cuddles, and something that needs shrugging off. Your BF telling you not to get him to open his eyes to look at your funny hair, in the grand scheme of things, is absolutely in the second category. How will you cope with illness, job stress, bereavement, big differences of opinion about important stuff if you find something so trivial such a big deal? How many hours of both your lives do you want to spoil by making a big deal out of nothing?

Agree with this.
Some women have to find something to blame but never look at them selfs.
Read it a lot on here.

And stop blaming hormones. It's so tedious.

Are you just always this demanding, then? YABU for this comment as well.

As someone who is highly emotional but also values sleep I can see both sides! I think if you take a step back and put hormones aside, you are being worked up because of it being that time of the month and maybe a bit needy but that's totally normal with hormones and emotions! On the other hand it maybe is an over reaction because your boyfriend just wanted his rest, especially if he is going to work. I hate waking up on someone elses terms and can get really cranky which is probably why he snapped back at you. Best thing to do is stop bringing up the argument, have a cuppa and calm down. When he gets home you should apologise and explain that you are just hormonal and go in for some extra cuddles to make up for this morning :)

Look at you because something funny had happened with your hair

You were in bed cuddling, and you came out with this? What was the urgency with your hair right then?

Come on. I'd have been annoyed, too. And then you went on about it. This one is on you.

Oh man, I used to be this person in relationships. It's EXHAUSTING. Constantly picking holes because you're anxious and desperate for reassurance, but when that reassurance comes it's never enough, because the idea of being alone is so utterly terrifying that you can't live without a 100% guarantee that your partner is going to be with you and love you forever, and nobody can make that promise. Hard dating that person, even harder being that person.

Get some therapy, OP. Work on your self-esteem and your security of attachment. Or do what I did, find the right anti-anxiety medication and then be forced to be single for two years leading you to realise that actually, you can function alone and a relationship is a blessing, not a necessity, meaning you're no longer so desperate to be loved that you constantly seek reassurance from your partner. Either way!

I've had to learn to let my DH have at least one hour to properly wake up before I engage with him... the minute I open my eyes I'm wide awake and raring to go but this isn't the case for my DH. My DM laughs about this too as she also needs time to wake up and at points in my 20s when I moved back home, she used to get annoyed with me (in a light hearted way). I think there are two issues here.... you need to learn to give people the space they need but your DP also sounds like he was hurtful and a bit OTT (sounds like there are underlying issues tbh). My DH has just said to me 'it takes me a long time to properly wake up, so if I am not as responsive as usual in the morning then that's why'. I'm the same at night as he is in the morning.

My word you sound awful, poor guy.

Op, you sound like me.
I often end up in arguments like this with my husband. It's insecuritiy and we need to stop asking for more reassurance. It's hard. I understand x

I think, having read your post, that you need to address your excessive need for attention. It's not normal to insist on attention the second your partner opens his eyes, and it seems to me from your partner's responses to you that this morning's incident is representative of many such instances of you needing too much attention.

Bet it was.

I agree with this im the same id fly off the handle being woken up by a grown women to look at her hair because it looked funny what are you op 5.
Op you sound over the top and far to needy grow up and let people sleep.

@pinkgin1994 Did you post recently about a shopping trip when he was feeling ill?

How old are you?

Seriously, you sound like you're about sixteen!

Why?

And no, he probably set it slightly earlier than he needed to get up so he could snooze!

I don't really want to add to the pile on......

But you sound like the problem here.

You sound unbelievably needy and whiny.

You sound incredibly needy.

I am assuming you are very young? Your partner told you everything else was fine but you were still causing a drama needing hugs and reassurance. Your neediness has now started his day off on a bad foot first by whinging to be looked at when he was clearly tired then refusing to let it go and persisting with a row that's made him late for work. Work on being more independent and a lot less immature