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What should I do ? Is this a red flag ?

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Briannaivy · 05/03/2025 05:09

So I met this man at the club about a month ago. He’s 34 and I’m 24 anyways I’ve noticed that since I’ve been in contact with him, he’s been suggesting me to come over his home ? This was even before he even took me on an actual date? I’ve told him multiple times that I don’t do house visits, and I’m not the type of chick that’s going to go to a man’s home. He suggested me going over there after a rough day at work, said he would cook for me etc. I never went, I declined. He agreed and said he wasn’t trying to make me feel uncomfortable. How he was just trying to take my mind off of things.

I finally agreed to go on a date with him, he took me to this very lavish restaurant. Afterwards he suggested we continue our date with a movie…. I asked him where ? He said his house, and how he has all the movies over there. I keep telling him I’m not going to go over his house yet anytime soon…. He agreed and said he understood. He’s very infatuated with my looks.

He’s really sweet and has all his stuff together financially He’s respectful and consistent …. He’s not my type but I thought I’d try something different. Yet is this a man that just wants my body or something more ? He has been communicating with me after the first date… yet I noticed his replies have been slower.

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JustJack2002 · 05/03/2025 05:27

Listen to your instinct. Given his persistence in you going to his home despite your repeatedly say no, it makes me think he might have cameras set up about the place.

Neveranynamesleft · 05/03/2025 05:17

Another vote for stay away.

Okthenguys · 05/03/2025 05:13

If your gut is telling you no, please listen. It’s strange that he keeps trying to pressure you to go specifically to his house when you e repeatedly said you’re not comfortable. Beyond the obvious (many perpetrators prefer to have victims at their home turf where they have full control and the victim less help) - it is a massive red flag that he consistently ignores you and keeps trying to pressure you. I would refuse to see him again.

healthybychristmas · 05/03/2025 05:12

Yes, it sounds as though he wants to sleep with you and now that you're not putting out he is losing interest. Why would you be interested in him?