to tell ex that if parents evening is that important, he can sodding well go?

This the last time I responding.
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I have not accused the OP of lying. She did keep changing the story though.
Six of one and half a dozen of the other?
My story has not changed. And AGAIN you are victim blaming.......you absolutely digust me.

Every sore raised, she had a plaster for. Why not give us all the plasters in the beginning? OP had 6 children: on page 10 she revealed only 1 was his. Did he raise the other five, or do they live with their father?
What the hell does that have to do with with the question I asked (clue...nothing)

The OP couldn't go to the meet teacher
Wrong. I said I WOULDNT

The CF had a message from the school. The OP said he contacted her when he got the email and asked he if she was going. She said no she couldn't and could he
Wrong. I said I wasnt going, he called me a shit mother (his words) and I said if it was so important he should go

Dare I ask too if DH no 1 also went to the meet teacher evening?
Yes, we shared them 50/50 both before and after divorce due to usually only one of us being able to make it.

We all - including me - said he was wrong to insult her. I went a bit further and suggested she had known him long enough to know what he was like and should not respond to him. Again, the story changed.
Wrong. The story did not change, I simply took the time to reiterate points that you either hadnt bothered to read, or if you had read them, you didnt understand them.

If they cannot go together, best not to even discuss it between them. Just make separate arrangements with the school.
We have. He gets his own updates and information but doesnt want to actually shift his arse and do anything, but uses the information THE SCHOOL gives him to try and slag me off. He instigated the conversation, not me. But I will absolutely NOT take being called a bad mother by a piece of fucking shit like him.

our posts are worth nothing anyway.
Well yours definitely are worth nothing.

Oh and as all inhibitions are off and I can swear with impunity.....please take your fucking pointless self important bullshit and annoy the cunting hell out of someone else.

Share and enjoy.

You seem to think the less information we have the better. The story isn’t getting longer, the details are being filled in as posters respond and ask for more information. Context is everything, especially with the written word - nuance tends to get lost in the translation.

If you don’t like bad language I really don’t think MN is the place for you - but since you’ve just intimated that OP is lying in some way, I’d get ready for a barrage of it !!

I don't know what that is supposed to mean. I cannot expect everyone to have the same values in life that I do.

Perhaps you all deserve one another. No one must give advice; no one must criticise; the OP is always right, always the victim.

While you are being rude to me, you must be leaving some other poor soul alone. I don't mind. If you have to be nasty to someone, better me that the children or the xes.

I don't know what that is supposed to mean. I cannot expect everyone to have the same values in life that I do.

Perhaps you all deserve one another. No one must give advice; no one must criticise; the OP is always right, always the victim.

I don't know what that is supposed to mean. I cannot expect everyone to have the same values in life that I do.

Perhaps you all deserve one another. No one must give advice; no one must criticise; the OP is always right, always the victim.

Oh gosh, you’re invested in this aren’t you!?

This is not like your original post that everyone commented on. You keep coming back with more, so that the whole thread is changing rapidly.

Why not keep to the basic complaint about his being rude to you and say nothing about what the meeting was?

Oh do bugger off.

Do you get paid for making stuff up or is it just a hobby?

We had a slanging match now?! What an imagination you have!

This is not like your original post that everyone commented on. You keep coming back with more, so that the whole thread is changing rapidly.

Why not keep to the basic complaint about his being rude to you and say nothing about what the meeting was?

The entire conversation was conducted via whatsapp, me "losing my shit" was along the lines of saying "how fucking dare he call me bad parent?!" to my sister who I was with at the time and sending the reply that he could go himself if he thought it was so important. No abuse, no shouting, no nothing. And he is the father of my youngest child after my first husband (father of the 5 eldest) and I divorced amicably.

SS decided that he could have contact as he has never been deemed a risk to her, only to me. So yes, I do need to have contact with him to arrange these things, but I am not some cowed victim, I will call out shitty treatment each and every time. I am not afraid of him now, and never will be again.

Why are we bothering?

I appreciate your support, but cant help feeling that we are wasting our time!

Seems perfectly clear to me that OP has to have contact with him as he is her DD’s father. Even if he’s been abusive to OP the courts won’t necessarily consider him a danger to his daughter, and it sounds as though he has access. So what you’re suggesting is that she kow tow to him and act like a scared victim. Thus giving him the upper hand. And you’re not a misogynist ? OK then.

Lovelysausagedogscrumpy · Today 10:02

I left something out of my reply to you.

''If he thought it was important he should go himself''. Could that be taken as a reminder that he had never taken an interest in any of his children? This it hurtful. How would anyone reply to that?

I suggested she had nothing to do with him, and am castigated for that. Why?

I am far from misogynist, believe me.

Why would any woman respond to a message sent by a nasty violent man and not ignore it? Worse, respond to it and accuse him? It is the last thing I would do. I never contacted my X, knowing what I would get if I did.