To be irritated about school swimming attire rules 'for girls'?

It is though because schools are regulating what a parent will allow their child to wear in a public space, that doesn't breach the dress code of the public space. I expect the threat and negative publicity from the press will enough for them to think critically about the public perception: that the school cannot find a reason to prohibit a swim top and bottoms for girls of they are allowing it for boys. Any reasoning is likely to be around "modesty", the inference being that girls need to dress in a way that won't overexcite boys. These are children and people don't take well to children being sexualised.

The other side of the coin is that those same kids could go to the pool at the weekend in the same clothes with no issue. The school are inserting themselves for no good reason and they don't have the right to do so. It's nothing to do with easier changing, it's treating someone differently based on their sex which is literally one of the characteristics that the Equality Act is there to protect against. Lawyers are there to protect your rights. So yeah, totally reasonable to engage one if the school are going to break the law.

The rules are there for a reason. The teachers are supervising 30 kids, one rule for allowed swimwear makes that easier and they can concentrate on teaching and keeping the kids safe. It removes the need to supervise issues/complaints when one kid is allowed a tankini which has a 1cm gap and another complains theirs is the same with a bigger gap. It removes issues such as tankini riding up. It removes issues with kids who might make the gap bigger to look cool (same as the kids who roll up their school skirts).

It is not about each individual child, follow the group rules and if it is because she wants a shorts style get a shorts style one piece. A tankini may be more convenient for the loo, but the reasons for a one piece out weight that.

For God sake. A lawyer!? Come on. It isn’t schools vs parents.

It should definitely be more flexible. I remember hating swimming at that age for this reason! I imagine the school will be worried it turns into a fashion show but with some very prescriptive rules and pictures of what is acceptable, it would be fine.

Student council could raise it. We listen to lots of suggestions from our students, within reason!

Book an appointment at the school and take notes. State the facts:

It's not a swimming pool rule so it's a school rule.

Can the school explain why the rule is in place, because you will be looking to engage a lawyer because you think it's discrimination because she wants to wear a two-piece, same as the boys, and you don't understand why the school wont allow that therefore you'd like the full facts before you proceed.

Then stay as quiet as you can, don't challenge, and ask follow up questions to clarify whilst making notes. I think they'll back down once they realise the reasoning doesn't stand up and that they may have to defend it publicly.

I hate all these rules and think that parents and teachers make too many assumptions and all of this is taken too seriously.
I'd have her wear the tankini and let the school know and make sure they know the coverage is the same as with boys instructons.

I do. But I realise that’s not a popular opinion…

...and OP has only posted twice, it might be she didn't know about the one piece buy leg cut suits before.
She's not making a big argument about it.

Well she already owns the tankini and last I checked they don't give out swimsuits for free.

Just get the darned suit with short-type bottoms? What’s the difference between that and a tankini, except that it’s one piece ?
They clearly don’t want the girls wearing bikinis and having to worry that they will move and come off.

Our school actually prefer tankinis, I think because they are easier to change out of. Would she be allowed board shorts over her swimming costume?

A one piece with short-type legs is your solution.
As for your argument about double standards for boys and girls - do you really think girls should be allowed to swim topless like the boys??

You're joking, right?

This would work. I used to do this at my kids’ swimming lessons - short board shorts like you’d wear for surfing. She may not want to as it might make her ‘stand out’ more but I can’t see the school having a leg to stand on if they object, if that’s what the boys are wearing.

Please explain how this is possible.

Lots of girls af my DCs school wear this sort of thing from Speedo. I don't see the problem with requiring a one piece. (our school is even stricter - swimwear must be black)

Get shorts and a uv top for your daughter. School can’t say anything and she’ll be covered like she wants. My dd wore girls surf shorts and a rash vest for a couple of years.

It's so much easier in a two piece. Particularly when have a uniform over the top as you have swimming first thing.

There is a huge range. I literally just went swimsuit shopping and the available range is extensive. I bought three different one pieces that are not high cut.
I could have bought a full niqab bikini I'd wanted to.

It's their choice. It's not a default. Complaining you have to because some people choose to, when you have endless other options is ridiculous.

It's incredibly easy to go to the toilet in a boyleg swimsuit

And loads of people wear a high cut swimsuit because even in the sporty Speedo kind that is still the default one piece shape for women.

That's nice but would be better as a vest and shorts so you can actually go to the toilet.

There is not a huge range, particularly at certain times of the year and not even online. Not like there should be. There is a huge range of fashion swimwear for posing in and not actually swimming, there is not a huge range of sporty swimwear which also looks nice to lie in around the pool. I know because I look for it every year!

But swimsuits can also not fit properly or stay in place. I wear a tankini for proper swimming, waterparks and messing about in the sea and it stays where it should.