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Hogging the hot tub

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Twobroschillininahottub · 04/03/2025 21:04

I'm a member of a spa local to me and go regularly to swim. Always relax in the jacuzzi/hot tub for a bit afterwards. I've never seen the like today- 2 men were in the hot tub for, I shit you not, an hour and a half. They were in there while I swam lengths for over an hour. No sign of them getting out and I saw other swimmers looking, clearly waiting for them to shift so they could have a turn. After over an hour of swimming I'm not caring, I wanted a rest so I got in (room for 6 people).

They stayed in there for another half hour!

AIBU that this is just not on and you move on to let people have a shot of the hot tub? There are plenty of other facilities like sauna and so on that they could have moved on to.

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wordywitch · 04/03/2025 22:18

Twobroschillininahottub · 04/03/2025 22:15

@wordywitch

but it’s not these men’s fault they can’t be grownups.

I'd say it was these two men who weren't behaving like grown ups. Staying an hour and a half in a spa hot tub and yapping away loudly the whole time is treating it like it's your private one in your garden.

So your problem was with them talking loudly. Why don’t you just say that instead of hiding behind this made up ‘hot tub etiquette’?

IfIHadAHeart · 04/03/2025 22:18

OP I know what you mean.

When I’ve seen this happen, they are usually taking up more space than necessary, talking bollocks quite loudly and positioning themselves in such a way that you have no choice but to sit between them. I think lots of women would feel uncomfortable doing so, and I agree it’s rude.

Coconutter24 · 04/03/2025 22:16

Twobroschillininahottub · 04/03/2025 22:13

@Coconutter24

I've answered that quite a few times now

You wanted to use the hot tub and you got in it, even after reading the posts I don’t they the problem, they didn’t stop you using it

howdoyoudooooo · 04/03/2025 22:16

You might think you’ve explained what the problem is, but you haven’t really. Yes it’s unusual to spend that long in a hot tub. But there was always space remaining available so anybody else could have got in. You did get in. You say you weren’t expecting exclusive use. So what is the problem?

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Twobroschillininahottub · 04/03/2025 22:15

@wordywitch

but it’s not these men’s fault they can’t be grownups.

I'd say it was these two men who weren't behaving like grown ups. Staying an hour and a half in a spa hot tub and yapping away loudly the whole time is treating it like it's your private one in your garden.

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wordywitch · 04/03/2025 22:13

Twobroschillininahottub · 04/03/2025 22:05

No lanes, everyone manages to swim fine and share the space because pools are very large.

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It’s all relative though isn’t it? 2 people in a 6 person hot tub is only 1/3 occupied. I hardly think you’d classify a pool that is 1/3 occupied as being so busy as to deter people getting in. It’s about people’s ridiculous squeamishness at being in proximity to strangers in bathing attire, perhaps, but it’s nothing to do with how long they stayed in because they could have got in if they wanted to. They didn’t want to and that’s that, but it’s not these men’s fault they can’t be grownups.

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Twobroschillininahottub · 04/03/2025 22:13

@Coconutter24

I've answered that quite a few times now

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Coconutter24 · 04/03/2025 22:12

Twobroschillininahottub · 04/03/2025 21:22

I got in...

I don't mind sharing

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So where’s the problem?

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Twobroschillininahottub · 04/03/2025 22:10

WilmaTitsDrop · 04/03/2025 22:09

I don't think they did anything wrong by under-occupying a hot tub made for 6 people.

Then again, I'd much rather go home and have a bath.

I will too when we finally have one!

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allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 04/03/2025 22:10

@Twobroschillininahottub were they playing footsie under the bubbles???

WilmaTitsDrop · 04/03/2025 22:09

I don't think they did anything wrong by under-occupying a hot tub made for 6 people.

Then again, I'd much rather go home and have a bath.

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Twobroschillininahottub · 04/03/2025 22:07

@AFairDistance

I don't think it's polite etiquette

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Twobroschillininahottub · 04/03/2025 22:06

Ponderingwindow · 04/03/2025 22:03

There was a health club with a pool and hot tub in my old city that had a chronic problem with this. The old me would just take up residence for hours and I don’t know exactly how to explain it, but they took up much more space than the number of people in the tub. It was manspreading, the jacuzzi version.

They also didn’t really make women feel particularly welcome when we wanted to soothe our muscles after a vigorous swim. It was the only club with a pool that didn’t require a significant drive so taking our business elsewhere wasn’t simple.

This is very true. The older guy had his legs up on the seat part. The pair of them were talking business very loudly. Absolutely dire.

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AFairDistance · 04/03/2025 22:06

Twobroschillininahottub · 04/03/2025 21:22

I got in...

I don't mind sharing

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So why do you keep going on about their ‘cheek’? There were two of them, it fits six! They weren’t preventing others from using it!

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Twobroschillininahottub · 04/03/2025 22:05

wordywitch · 04/03/2025 22:02

So you mean to tell me that you swam in the pool for an HOUR, thereby hogging a lane that someone else may have wanted to use?! The brass neck of you 😤

No lanes, everyone manages to swim fine and share the space because pools are very large.

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GargoylesofBeelzebub · 04/03/2025 22:04

Ponderingwindow · 04/03/2025 22:03

There was a health club with a pool and hot tub in my old city that had a chronic problem with this. The old me would just take up residence for hours and I don’t know exactly how to explain it, but they took up much more space than the number of people in the tub. It was manspreading, the jacuzzi version.

They also didn’t really make women feel particularly welcome when we wanted to soothe our muscles after a vigorous swim. It was the only club with a pool that didn’t require a significant drive so taking our business elsewhere wasn’t simple.

It absolutely is manspreading. Have seen it so many time.

Ponderingwindow · 04/03/2025 22:03

There was a health club with a pool and hot tub in my old city that had a chronic problem with this. The old me would just take up residence for hours and I don’t know exactly how to explain it, but they took up much more space than the number of people in the tub. It was manspreading, the jacuzzi version.

They also didn’t really make women feel particularly welcome when we wanted to soothe our muscles after a vigorous swim. It was the only club with a pool that didn’t require a significant drive so taking our business elsewhere wasn’t simple.

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 04/03/2025 22:02

And last time this happened I started talking with my friends about our teenage girls starting their periods. That cleared them out immediately. 😂😂

wordywitch · 04/03/2025 22:02

So you mean to tell me that you swam in the pool for an HOUR, thereby hogging a lane that someone else may have wanted to use?! The brass neck of you 😤

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Twobroschillininahottub · 04/03/2025 22:02

Starlightstarbright4 · 04/03/2025 22:01

Another this is a none issue .. I litterally would not even cross my mind never mind bother me enough to make a thread about it .

I assume they were having a good catch up

I'm just killing time fannying about on Mumsnet.

Tbf their chat was absolutely dire.

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GargoylesofBeelzebub · 04/03/2025 22:01

This drives me mad. Every time I go to a spa there's always a group that spend their WHOLE time in the hot tub.

It's so selfish.

Starlightstarbright4 · 04/03/2025 22:01

Another this is a none issue .. I litterally would not even cross my mind never mind bother me enough to make a thread about it .

I assume they were having a good catch up

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Twobroschillininahottub · 04/03/2025 21:54

Justleaveitblankthen · 04/03/2025 21:52

Sounds like the blokes in my gym.
Up at the pool the men outnumber the women 20 - 1 on any day and yes, they chat for hours in the jacuzzi.
I don't mind, I hardly ever use it. Makes me want to go to sleep and I get grumpy to have to shower, get dressed and drive home. 😁

20 to 1 😮 I'd say definitely 50/50 at this one

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Sugargliderwombat · 04/03/2025 21:53

I don't understand why this is cheeky? There was room so why did they need to get out? I don't understand the etiquette here really.

DarkForces · 04/03/2025 21:53

Twobroschillininahottub · 04/03/2025 21:50

😂

It seems unreasonable to me based on how every other person I've ever seen at the spa uses the facilities. It's nice for others to move on and not park for so long at one thing.

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Ah well. There's a first time for everything. Think of it as a new experience.