Hogging the hot tub

In my gym the hot tub switches to cleaning mode after about 15 mins so everyone has to get out whilst it goes through the cycle. That appears to make people move on and leave it free for the next lot. No lolling about for hours although I did witness a man shaving while he was in the jacuzzi 🤢

While I do my lengths at my David Lloyd pooI, I see a selection of various people, in ones and twos, getting in and out of the jacuzzi.

For myself I never fancy it, I wonder why?

It's not manners (in fact it's incredibly rude) to expect other people to stop enjoying their hot tub when there's spaces available to you so that you can have exclusive use of a shared communal facility.

Want or need exclusive use (or single sex use)-then you join somewhere than offers that and pay accordingly.

The sense of entitlement some people have is mindblowing.

If the hot tub was full to capacity - then of course you move on after 20 minutes or so to allow someone else to get in. But when there are still unused spaces available (and a lot of them) then you can stay as long as you like.

YANBU you are only supposed to be in for 15/20mins. I would be self conscious too sitting with 2 people I didn't know in a small space. It's manners for everyone to take turns. Yes you can share it but it's still rude for them to be in it for so long.

Yabu.

Had they been taking up the whole hot tub then you would have a point.

As it stands, there was 2 of them in a spcae for 6 so other people could also get in.

Had the spa got a note up telling people to get out of the hot tub after 15 minutes then again you would have a point, but you have just made up a rule and are annoyed that others do not follow this rule, even though it was not stopping you from using the hot tub

I do not often go to spas so I wouldnt know about the unknown rule of only staying in the hot tub for no longer then 20 minutes so as not to piss off other spa users.

But why was it rude?

They weren't preventing anyone getting in...

They were not monopolising the cess-pit. It had room for 6. They were 2 of them, so 4 spaces left.
In this case, the OP seemingly, would rather seeth than challenge the men (with their loud, boring conversation, allegedly) for 'hogging', yet happily has challenged every person who has disagreed with her here, which seems odd.

YABU

And that's really sad, but these people didn't do that to you and shouldn't have to adjust their behaviour to suit yours. It is a shared facility as you say, the spa owners presumably haven't applied maximum time limits anywhere in the spa as I'm sure the op would have mentioned it, so why as a customer do you believe anyone has a right to do so?

Try to overcome your discomfort. It will benefit you to do so. They weren't monopolising. There was space for others, and the OP hasn't described any resistance from them to share.

People use spas differently and that's their perogative. You've described them using a third of the hot tub, leaving plenty of space for others to get in also. Maybe if it got to near capacity, they would have moved, but it didn't.

They haven't done anything wrong. You chose to spend 1.5 hrs in the pool and hot tub. They chose a hot tub.

No wrong done here. You sound very selfish and controlling.

This thread is bizarre. The responses, not the OP itself.

I would have felt uncomfortable getting in the hot tub if I was on my own. I’d probably have got in if I was with someone else, but not on my own. A six-person hot tub isn’t that big, so it would be impossible to get in it without being relatively close to them. A lone female, wearing very little, in close proximity to two unknown males who are already demonstrating entitled behaviour? No thanks.

OP did get in, and good on her for doing so. I wouldn’t have, being a victim of an assault that took place in not massively dissimilar environment. I find it strange that everyone is falling over themselves to say it was fine, without any consideration as to why others may not have felt comfortable.

Aside from that, I think it’s poor manners to monopolise any shared facility that you’ve not paid for exclusive use of.

I don't think you are cut out for using a shared facility, to be honest.

You repeatedly said ‘they were using it for 90
mins’. I mean that’s timing their use. Your OP also talks about ‘bloody getting in’ as if it’s some kind of confrontation to do that? Most people don’t spend any time at all worrying how other people use public facilities unless it’s dangerous.

So why are you complaining?

Another one who doesn't see the issue. The hot tub is big enough for 6. Only two people were in it. They were not stopping anyone else from using it.
Had the hot tub had 4 people in it and someone else came to use it but felt it was too tight for comfort then you would have a point.
I doubt it even occurred to them that you were not comfortable getting in a (public) hot tub with other people in it.

Honestly OP sounds as if you don’t have enough going on in your life (or else you are massively displacing huge stress). Two people were in a six people space. Why would they move if no one else got in or asked them to move on? I mean, if you were swimming for 90mins presumably you were taking capacity in the pool that hypothetically someone else could have used, but didn’t? You’ve even said there is another bigger tub that others could use so it’s not like these customers deprived anyone else of the experience of a hot tub. You have no idea why they were there, what they were discussing, what they did before, injuries they may be dealing with etc. It’s a total non issue, none of your business and the fact you were timing them and took it upon yourself to get in the tub as some kind of lesson suggests you have some issues that are not to do with other people’s hot tub use! And if you are that concerned about other people’s etiquette the thing to do is speak to them ‘hey, you’re not supposed to be the hot tub that long, other people are waiting for it.’

Absolutely this.

They used an available facility in a non-exclusive fashion for a perfectly acceptable amount of time! They can stay all day if they like, the only time I would worry about limiting my time in a spa facility is if it were full and people were waiting. Otherwise why on earth not?!

Ridiculous.

If you have issues sharing a communal mixed sex facility, then you don't sign up for a club with communal, mixed sex facilities.

Plenty of places offer women only facilities or women only sessions (I've just come back from one myself this evening). This is where/when you go if you want women only.

To suggest that men (or anyone) who want to use the facility should get out and leave it empty on the off chance that someone who only wants a women only space/exclusive use but deliberately signed up for a shared mixed sex space might just happen to come along is bonkers.

If the hot tub was full, yeah, move on after 20 mins or so. But when there's still unused spaces available, stay in it as long as you like.

They can stay in as long as they like. I’ve stayed in for over an hour as a spa because it’s lovely for my joints. It’s the main reason I went.

Use the facilities or don’t use them. You don’t get to ration use by other people.