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Best option for monitoring daughter's movements while I'm at work?

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feedmefudge · 04/03/2025 19:12

I am having a hard time of it with my 15 year old daughter. Today she thought it would be a good idea to sack off school and have her boyfriend over. She then lies when I ask her about it. It is not the first time this has happened. The problem is that I work full-time (single parent) and cannot fully keep on top of what goes on when I'm not here.
Obviously there will be consequences for today. However it's really difficult second guessing her movements and I need proof. So I'm thinking of getting a doorbell camera. But I don't know if this is what I need. Would an outdoor security camera be better? I really need something that links up to my phone, so that I can check she has left on time for school, isn't coming home early, etc.
I'm not great with tech so would really appreciate your advice. And it would be great if we could stick to the question. The school story is a long one, so I'd rather focus on the camera thing. And obviously the ideal would be that I wouldn't need to do this at all! But for now anyway, the trust has gone, and I'm doing my best to try and manage the situation.
Thank you.

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biscuitsandbooks · 04/03/2025 19:39

Take her key off her/change the locks.

feedmefudge · 04/03/2025 19:38

stanleypops66 · 04/03/2025 19:36

Ring doorbell or blink. With the blink you get several small cameras so you can set it up in both the front and back door.

Thank you. Fortunately our back door would never be used. Long story again, but it's more tricky logistically.

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feedmefudge · 04/03/2025 19:37

IVFmumoftwo · 04/03/2025 19:36

I would be worrying about contraception too! 😬

Sorted. I insisted upon it.

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stanleypops66 · 04/03/2025 19:36

Ring doorbell or blink. With the blink you get several small cameras so you can set it up in both the front and back door.

IVFmumoftwo · 04/03/2025 19:36

I would be worrying about contraception too! 😬

feedmefudge · 04/03/2025 19:36

MyrtleLion · 04/03/2025 19:35

I hardly think monitoring her remotely will restore trust. It will just create resentment. You could try talking kindly to her and ask her what's going on in her life. Find the root of the problem, not add to it.

Oh for goodness sake, do you not think I've tried everything under the sun?

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feedmefudge · 04/03/2025 19:35

Thank you all. The problem with the phone trackers is that it doesn't allow me to see who is coming through my front door, like her boyfriend today (lovely boy, but I don't want them here during school hours!).
Goodness, it was all so much simpler when she was little.

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MyrtleLion · 04/03/2025 19:35

I hardly think monitoring her remotely will restore trust. It will just create resentment. You could try talking kindly to her and ask her what's going on in her life. Find the root of the problem, not add to it.

Unicorn34 · 04/03/2025 19:20

My family has Life360 - we are all adults and use it as a bit of a game but it also puts our minds at rest.

JimHalpertsWife · 04/03/2025 19:19

Take her door key off her and make her leave the house with you on a school morning?

Sinkintotheswamp · 04/03/2025 19:18

Unless you've already got family link or life360 I'm not sure you can add her without her agreeing. Mine have had them since they started senior school. They can see me too.
A ring doorbell is handy though.

BodyKeepingScore · 04/03/2025 19:16

Set Google family link up on her phone. You can track location that way.

MarchingintoSpring · 04/03/2025 19:15

My teen uses Life360 so I have it too. It helped that all of her friends use it to see where each other is.

Ring doorbell for home.

HeyDoodie · 04/03/2025 19:15

ring doorbell

HolySchmokes · 04/03/2025 19:13

Do you not track her mobile phone?

That would be the key thing for me. Google maps, find my, life 360.

If she turns it off she loses it. Presumably you pay for it. I don’t know a teenager alive who isn’t surgically attached to their mobile.